Connor Dickie

Queen's University Kingston Ontario

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Is getting better than having?

Hello everyone, I'm new here.

With all the high-achievers here in the TED community I'm sure many of you will have an opinion on this question; is getting better than having?

By this I mean the act of working towards a goal being more enjoyable than achieving the goal itself.

Personally I prefer the time spent leading up to an achievement rather than the achievement itself. I notice both in myself and in my peers a certain temporary depression that follows the completion of a large project. Regardless of this post-project depression, it's the excitement and wonder of the chase/search that is for me the element that makes projects enjoyable.

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    May 23 2011: Being is better than either.
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    May 17 2011: i can't recall the source, but i remember an actual experiment that concluded the same. we have a reward mechanism in our brain for acquiring stuff. but we don't have similar mechanisms to promote having stuff. and similarly, losing stuff causes discomfort. probably that's why we like shopping, even if the stuff ends up in the garbage can pretty soon.
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    May 17 2011: A true successful person is never satisfied because that can make her/him either complacent or depressed. A true successful person always raises his own bar. So there is less possibility of getting bored or depressed or complacent.

    A true successful people is passionate to succeed in longterm not for once but again and again as they believe success breeds success.

    A true successful man believes in what Einstein said 'Doing same thing and expectingdifferent result is insanity" so they change the game each time, raise the bar and go for the next........
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    May 16 2011: One might ask, "What if it's not about adulation at all?"
  • May 16 2011: I love the journey. Early in my life, I was so fixated on completing the goal that I missed the opportunity to enjoy the process of getting there.

    These days, I value the journey, even when it's a hard road (as it has been as a small business owner in the tough economy). I feel fortunate that I can suffer negative situations with some levity, because in the context of a much bigger journey they are just bumps along the way. The strength of that is always there to draw from.

    I'm with you Connor, just getting something without earning it has little to no meaning to me at all.