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What period of your life were you the happiest?

Do you consider the happiest part of your life to be from your youth, the present, or still to come? What caused this joy at that point in your life? Why does it no longer exist?

I'll start: The happiest period of my life was my youth because of the blissful ignorance of childhood and the limitless worlds of imagination my friends and I constantly frolicked in. It's a unique phase that we all only experience once.

When were you the happiest?

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    May 10 2011: NOW....THIS MOMENT:>)
    The past is gone by, the future is not yet a reality. I spend my time fully engaged in the present moment:>)

    Austin, you say your happiest period was youth, because of blissful ignorance...and the limitless worlds of imagination. As adults, we can still have the curiosity of a child, and still frolick in imagination and the idea of a limitless world:>) I don't agree that this state is only experienced once. I experience it every moment of my life...it can be continuous, and it's a choice:>)
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      May 10 2011: Colleen read my mind.

      Ignorance is bliss. Just can't always be ignorant.

      When ever you are feeling down, instead just feel awesome. Smile/laugh without having a reason; your body doesn't know your really not happy but it will release natural endorphins that will make you feel better. Try it, not lying. http://www.gwengordonplay.com/pdf/laughing_for_no_reason.pdf

      That is advice to spread and it's free, go nuts.

      And to be honest, I am still a child and that is fine, while I realize the world works "this way" I'll continue to live it "my way" and work/live within those two worlds. While I teach I will write and explore the world. The only thing limiting you from happiness everyday is yourself. For those who are not lucky enough to have that chance to find happiness is all the more reason you should enjoy yours and appreciate you having it. I take it to the next level and will strive to help as many as possible, and thinking in these terms make me happy and no one can take that away.
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        May 10 2011: I love that dude...thanks for the link:>) Laughter is free, fun and healing:>)

        "Blessed are they who can laugh at themselves, for they shall never cease to be amused"
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        May 12 2011: I agree with you both in happiness being a choice and motion creating emotion. However, while I can keep an empowering context when events in my life may become overwhelming that doesn't imply I am experiencing happiness. If I am truly present to what is happening in the moment, I can't always be present to happiness. I guess it truly depends on what one considers happiness to be. Can happiness be mesured in the first place? And if so, by which barometer?
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          May 12 2011: Hi Helena,
          I prefer to call the underlying feeling contentment, rather than happiness. I believe that in every moment, I am learning, so I open to the possibilities with curiosity and intent to learn. I've become comfortable with discomfort. When I am truly present in the moment, I am aware of all emotions, which can all co-exist. What we focus on expands, so of course, I focus on the more pleasurable aspects of any situation:>)
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        May 13 2011: Thanks for the link Nicholas. I mentioned it to my girlfriend and she's already found a laughing yoga class for us to attend. lol.
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    May 10 2011: I look back with the most fond memories of the time when I was a young wife and new mother. There was something magical and almost sacred in that time.
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      May 11 2011: Right in the midst of it Debra - how wonderfully weird to mix that feeling with the true terror of actually being the one in charge. While memories of a blissful youth surround me, it's totally better watching your little ones experience the endless worldly wonders.
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        May 11 2011: Katherine, many women my age advised me that the time was fleeting and to cherish it and so I pass the reminder along to you. When you are tired and your day feels like you just spun your wheels remember to stop and look at those little faces. One day they will be far away, be taller than you are with exciting lives of their own doing all of the things you hoped they would do- and you will wish that you could go back and visit them when they were just the age yours are now.
        Enjoy your blessings (and give yourself permission to forget the mess more often!)
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    May 10 2011: Now. The present. The past doesn't exist anymore so it is hard to quantify previous happiness. I just tell myself it never gets any better then right now.
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    May 10 2011: Childhood years were by far the best. If I could, I would be a kid forever.
    • May 10 2011: same.
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      May 11 2011: Jafia and Austin: How far back do you both remember? At what age would you guess was the peak?

      I really don't have a clear memory of much before 12. Am curious as how you see that time.
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        May 12 2011: Tim,

        I remember as far as 5 years old. I think I remember a few situations from when I was about 4, but I am not sure, maybe I was already 5, and I've heard that this is not very common. My clearest memories are from 6 years old on however, I have plenty of memories from when I was 6. I remember some of my favorite clothes that I had at 6 and 7, trips to grandpa's farm, some conversations that people had around me, some emotions I felt about certain people, some people I met at that time that I liked a lot, including some of my aunts' friends ( I spent a lot of time at my grandma's). I remember a lot of things that happened in school when I was 6, I remember visiting my cousin at the hospital a few hours after she was born. I remember reaching to look at her where she was laying down, I also remember how excited I was that she was born and I was 6 the year that she was born. I have few pictures from my childhood, I just really remember a lot of things. My 6th year was really busy. lol

        I loved my 6th and 7th years but I had more fun at about 9 and 10 because my cousins were older at that time and I had more people to play with.
        • May 12 2011: That's so cool, Jáfia! I wish I could remember specific years in my childhood as well as that. My memory starts to get blurry around 8 or 9 years old.
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          May 13 2011: I know most from what my parents and siblings told me about when I was 4-5, but I too don't remember them as well except few.
          The best that I probably remember of that age is - I was lost while I was out in market with my grandfather and he came all worried at home only to find I have walked all the way home on my own. :)
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    May 13 2011: i would say the last three years were by far my happiest.
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    May 13 2011: The happiest part of my life was when I realized that I could choose to be happy! And from then on, I've been just as happy in every present moment! :)

    But I do love the innocence & blissfulness of childhood
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    May 12 2011: childhood was the best!!!!! you don't have to worry about anything! school was fun because the subjects were easy-peasy! not to mention that everything was given to you for freeeeeeeee!!!!! =P
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    May 11 2011: I cant seem to pick the best one out. Not in past.. or the present.. definitely not future (I don't know it yet). They all have some really good memories.
    Wonder how an amnesiac would respond to this question... they seem to always live in present. And if its retrograde amnesia too, well then they don't even have past memories to compare to.
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    May 10 2011: Awesome parties, night clubs, fake id, trying new things, good friends, challenges, fun, fun, fun, traveling with friends, getting drunk with friends, girlfriends... HIGH SCHOOL, I mean, NOW! But I always try to make the present moment the happiest, the best. CARPE DIEM, ALWAYS AND ALWAYS!
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    May 10 2011: My time in my university while was I submerged in utopic romanticism for humane goodness for all.
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    May 10 2011: i had a few good moments in my childhood, but i am still having good moments in a diferent way.