- bhagyashree dassani
Should you be a friend to your child? Is it okay cite your own fault as an example to teach the child? Should you follow the rules u impose?
I believe that you can be friendly to your child but not a friend. Children need parents to guide them. At times discipline will be unwanted but only a parent can take a stand and stick by it. As a parent you will have to be okay with your child saying he hates you if you know that you are taking the decision in favour of their correct interests.
Every child looks up to the parents as their idol but having a misconception about what your parents are can shatter a child's value system. If there is a mistake that you committed and felt sorry for it is probably the best example to give them as it teaches them the value of forgiveness, of realisation , of acceptance of one's faults. It is the best way to show them your efforts to make amends....a lesson that will be well learnt for sure.
As we become parents we become responsible for another life and that does bring about a lot of changes in our lives. Children do tend to emmulate their parents so it is in the best interest of your children that one does practice what one wants them to learn. However the adult world has different perceptions for different situations so it always helps it explaining to the child how certain decisions are age related example drinking, partying late,eating habits. When your answer the questions buzzing in the child's head you put to rest contridictions and fears that crop up in their curious world. You open the gates of communication.