- bhagyashree dassani
Is a woman's existance confined only to her home, her being a wife, a mother? What is the right time for her to live out her dreams?
Many women including me prioritise their family over their work, dreams, ambition. But there comes a time when the routine has been set and the birds are ready to fly from the nest and then you discover that you have forgotten about your own existance and you begin to redefine the purpose of your life. Some how this change is very rarely accepted. It is taken for granted that what has been happening for so long should continue on...irrespective of the fact that the others have moved on.
Sad but true that the very same intelligent woman that took the decision to sacrifice her desires, putting the need of her family before anything else is suddenly given to feel that she is incompetant to face the world outside.
No wonder then that educating a daughter is a sheer waste if one wants her to marry and raise a family. When we preach about educating the girl child, isnt it of equal importance to condition the male mind to give respect to that intelligence. Why cant a woman have the choice of living out her dreams, aspirations with the support of the man for whom she so willingly changed, adapted to a new way of life. When we teach our girls that they should be capable to stand on their own should we not teach our sons to respect that stature as an individual .
The changing face of today's society merely shows the woman working only because of the requirement of a double income to sustain the needs or luxuries of that home. It has little to do with the talent or aspiration of the woman.
The mid life crisis for a woman occurs when she realises that she is left behind after the children dont need her anymore and she has no conversation to interest her husband with. Marriages too reach a deteoration as the differences mount. It would require the reassuring hand of the husband to help the woman match him step by step. Is it not right to expect the same indulgence in the marriage as the wife may have provided in the beginning of the relationship. Equality has to be in thought.