Poch Peralta

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Should people be using mobile phones when this can lead to relationships conflicts?

Using mobiles is just like using Twitter. It could lead to conflict in romantic relationships, which in turn leads to other relationship issues like emotional or physical cheating, breakup, and even divorce. That is if the users are without etiquette and politically incorrect. I have witnessed quarrels and break-ups---even violent ones---because of stupid barbaric use of mobiles, and continue to do so

Active Twitter Use Could Lead to Divorce and Infidelity
'Twitter was originally created to help people feel more connected. The irony? Actively using the service may spell trouble for users' actual relationships.

'New research from the University of Missouri found that active Twitter users are more likely to experience Twitter-related conflict in their romantic relationships, which in turn leads to other relationship issues like emotional or physical cheating, breakup, and even divorce...'
http://mashable.com/2014/04/07/twitter-use-divorce/

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    May 4 2014: Hey Poch, Glad your question got on. And now my answer....communication is good. The problem is not with the gadget - it is with the user! Or, should I say the users fingers or mouth. Long before cell phones, twitter and texting, there was mistrust, infidelity, secrets and arguments over all kinds of issues, big and small. It is what we do with those issues that make or break us in a relationship. Turning outside of the problem to a third party or texting things that we will regret later or may hurt our partner is just pain stupid. And when you do stupid things, bad things happen. Be careful what you write!!! I remember a saying that said "Say it, forget it - Write it, regret it"
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      May 4 2014: 'Be careful what you write!!! I remember a saying that said "Say it, forget it - Write it, regret it"'
      Very wise advice Amy. That's exactly the trap with online socials---we have to write to correspond. And I have to take that advice to heart because my activist rants could be libelous.

      My rule is simple:
      You either control your gadgets or it will control you. Ridiculously, what happens most is the latter.
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    May 2 2014: And I thought TED has suspended me or something because it was idle for 6 days! So is it my TED friends who abandoned me? At least that woudn't be as bad as TED banning me. Friends could always unabandon me anytime :-D Now do that friends. I miss you all.
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      May 3 2014: Yeah, I have three conversations that have waited for over a week and nothing happened ... no rejections or accpetence. We might send you to a kennel ... poch ... but never abandon you. LOL.

      Conflicts can and will occur with or without communications ... people sooner or later do something stupid and bam the fight is on.

      The bottom line is do you trust and respect your special other. If so all is good .... if not nothing is or ever will be on good footing ... the next blow out is just around the corner.

      Still your friend and right here right now ..... Bob.
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        May 3 2014: LOL I know you won't Bob. Especially YOU.
        I surely hope it all depends on mutual trust sir but there are cases where a spouse finally discovers that his/her trust was betrayed---thru damn online gadgets.