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Vera Nova

Director Research Analysis, NOVA Town Futuristic Development

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WHEN YOU SEE A BIG MAN-MADE PROBLEM ARE YOU FALLING ASLEEP, FEELING HELPLESS?

Colossal problems - we feel very helpless even when we suffer because of theses problems. However, why is it so hard for a single person to figure out what to do against madness, violations, mindless industries, commonly vicious "healthcare", poor useless education?

Why do we prefer to stay within brainless crowds doing Wrong, rather than do something different, making our human world a little better.

Can you share with your own thoughts?

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    Apr 17 2014: When we consider the big picture Vera, sometimes it may feel overwhelming, and that may cause a feeling of helplessness in some folks.

    My practice, is to focus on one thing at a time, that is doable. I am not going to change the world, and to even contemplate that seems mind boggling. There are, however, things I can help change in my little corner of our world, and that is what I focus on. If everyone takes small steps toward change, we create the ripple effect, and we experience change on a larger scale.
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      Apr 17 2014: You do change the world, Colleen. It's great to have someone like you around.
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        Apr 19 2014: Thank you Vera:>)

        Because I believe in a flow of energy in our world, I believe we all change something just by "being" in this earth school. It's nice to "know thyself" and be aware of how we may be changing some things in every moment:>)
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          Apr 19 2014: When I was just a little child, lost, helpless, abused and trapped in my pitiful existence, I remembered one day I thought that if I'd entirely disappear the whole mighty world would not be the same, my existence is somehow important - because I'm already here, interacting with everything,,, Since that moment I felt that "I'm the world" even it is reavealed in my tiny presence..

          Years later I read the Chinese proverb:

          A SPARK CAN START A FIRE THAT BURNS THE ENTIRE PRAIRIE.

          No matter what I do I somehow change everything, for bad or for good - I'm already here.
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        Apr 19 2014: I wholeheartedly agree Vera....your existence is important because you are HERE.....NOW.

        We are the world.....we are the children....let's start giving......

        http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M9BNoNFKCBI
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          Apr 19 2014: Another Chinese proverb: "Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime."

          My friend who is a wonderful math teacher is often saying "Don't give a man a fish - teach him to fish."
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        Apr 19 2014: True Vera!
        And before we can teach anyone else something, we need to learn it for ourselves.....it starts with us as individuals:>)

        If we fall asleep and feel helpless in our self we cannot do anything for anyone else!

        BTW,
        Do you notice that there is no reply option in your comment just above? I scrolled up to one of your other comments so I could put my reply here...in line with your comment I am responding to:>)
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          Apr 19 2014: "And before we can teach anyone else something, we need to learn it for ourselves.....it starts with us as individuals:>)" I'm learning still... do not dare to teach yet, but love to share with what I know and make on my own..

          Yes, I see that "reply" link is missing again. Ted has been asking mebmers some questions recently, about what Ted shall improve - maybe this problem can be fixed? Working on a couple of complicated sites I know some technical obstacles can be persistent.

          btw. Right now I'm making a traditional Italian Easter cake, its my happy time - wished I could send you a huge piece.
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        Apr 19 2014: In my perception Vera, we are both student and teacher....always.....all ways:>)

        The reply option is not available in 3rd level replies. See the little arrows right next to our photo? This comment is a 2nd level (two little arrows), so it will have a reply option. Your previous comment is a 3rd level (3 little arrows).....no reply option. It is just the way the TED system is set up....nothing is "missing".

        I would LOVE to try your Italian Easter cake:>)
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          Apr 19 2014: Stay well and happy, Coleen. Thanks for sharing with your naturaly inborn kindness - it shows in all your posts no matter what you say.



          P.S. Thank you for taking the time to figure out why a long thread of comments is losing that "reply" links - I was only guessing in the same direction.
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        Apr 20 2014: I do my best to stay well and happy Vera.....you do the same ok? Thank you for your kind words:>)

        I'm thinking of you enjoying your Italian Easter cake today:>)
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          Apr 20 2014: 1. I was lacky to be born a happy dreamer, Colleen - always believing that goodness and kindness are invicinble.. but hostility, malice and other ugly "powers" are self- destructive.

          2. You see - our language has another flaw - the WORDS "Easter cake" that I send you and you read them, are not eatable. But the words, even when they express an honest Wish may bring to us some little happiness. Are these postcards with kind words are useful?

          The conclusion of the Easter cake: that fantastic sweet dom, full of nuts, dry peaches, raisins with Vanilla mascarpone and ricotta frosting & fresh Raspberries and blueberries in a side has been eaten to the last crumb. I never was able to bake such a delicious easter cake, missed your presence! but your smile was very helpful

          P.S. You might be somewhat amused to know who my guests were, those who eat this old traditional easter treat. Only three were born to Christian families, two to Islamic, one to Sikh, one to Coptic Christian, one to Jewish, and this couple simply did not remember their family history. Young and old, we enjoyed sharing stories about history of religion, and something we experienced first hand . It's important to know how very similar old teachings, traditions and stories may be but interpreted and practiced in different Languages effect different cultures, ethics and mentality..
          This very young Sikh I trust impressed everyone with his own family life-story deeping over 3 millennia back in time, and
          some of his relatives still live in the same place!!

          Though he is very young but is saying that most of his true history knowledge is not possible to get from his college only from millennia old writing. I think in this unusual gathering one may see the future, peaceful and meaningful, and believe it or not - with the use of English language as our helpful medium.
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        Apr 23 2014: Yes Vera, I think/feel that messages with kind words are very useful:>)

        Your Easter gathering sounds wonderful, and it reminds me of gatherings with friends of different cultures, religious traditions, and philosophical beliefs, when we shared thoughts, feelings and ideas with pleasure, while learning more about ourselves and each other:>)

        Since I have had many conversations about different religious and philosophical beliefs, I was surprised when I first came on TED, to observe the anger expressed because of different religious/philosophical beliefs. I believe this to be a BIG MAN-MADE challenge in our world!
        There is no reason we cannot sit down and discuss our personal beliefs with respect and pleasure.

        The challenge arises when someone wants to IMPOSE their own personal beliefs on others inaccurately thinking that THEIR belief is the one and only belief. It feels especially contradictory and hypocritical to me when they say their "unconditionally loving god" is going to send all those who do not accept their religion to hell!!!

        I was born into a catholic family, attended catholic school for 12 years, etc., and I started questioning the teachings as a wee little child....love thy neighbor only if s/he is catholic? Everybody else is going too hell? What happened to the so called unconditionally loving god??? Maybe "he" was asleep!

        I believe we CAN accept each other and our religious/philosophical beliefs as long as those beliefs and practices do not adversely impact other people. I believe we create a man-made/human-made challenge when one thinks that his/her personal beliefs are the one and only and EVERYONE must follow those beliefs....or else!

        I LOVE the learning experienced from the study and research of various beliefs, as well as the wonderful conversations I have had with friends and relatives who embrace different religious/philosophical beliefs:>)

        I am enjoying the "idea" of your Italian Easter Cake my friend....thanks:>)
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          Apr 23 2014: Here is your quote, Colleen: " ....the anger expressed because of different religious/philosophical beliefs. I believe this to be a BIG MAN-MADE challenge in our world!
          There is no reason we cannot sit down and discuss our personal beliefs with respect and pleasure. "

          This is the most outrageos "feature" of our human character - the most brainless "reason" for fights and endless war. It is happening when a person demands everyone to see the world exactly as he/she does.. However, it is against the law of mighty nature that creates every single creature as a unique being.

          Some years ago I've published my first book, my amusing utopia of a very-far-away future, where everyone is recognized as a unique self-creating individual. Their Futuristic Golden Rule is

          "NEVER treat others as you would like to be treated yourself -- unless they agree to it first --because what is good for you may be damaging for others."


          As we grow up I think we all shall be aware of this truth:

          "Every man takes the limits of his own field of vision for the limits of the world."
          Arthur Schopenhauer
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          Apr 23 2014: People make up their gods in minds but think it is only the true one. We imagine only based on our own abilities to imagine adn feel.
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          Apr 23 2014: Colleen, I had a few friends who were badly suffering in Catholic school - some of them very damaged psychologically, they still cannot manage..

          My beloved book "Erasmus of Rotterdam" by Stefan Zweig - I think it is the best living portrait of a remarkable classical scholar. Amongst humanists, "Prince of the Humanists", Erasmus lived through all the horrors of inquisition, but always as himself. He was physically so fragile and vulnerable, but was empowered within his extraordinary, invincible inborn kindness and compassion.
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        Apr 27 2014: I agree Vera, that sometimes, an inability to discuss something with respect, is one of the reasons for fights and wars. I do not agree that it is a "feature" of our human character. It certainly CAN be a "feature" for some people, and I believe it is a learned behavior.

        "Fighting", to protect our self in some way may be a human characteristic, so perhaps when people fight and engage in war, they perceive they are protecting something. I agree with you that it often happens when a person demands that everyone see the world exactly as he/she does. So, what do you perceive they might be protecting in this scenario? What is to be lost if everyone does not have the same world view?

        Personally, I appreciate the differences, as long as the beliefs and practices do not adversely impact other people. However, when some folks try to push their personal beliefs onto others, it DOES adversely impact other people.

        Regarding "suffering in catholic school"....
        I have heard the phrase lately...."recovering catholic".....!

        Since I was a child, I perceived the life experience as a adventurous exploration, so I cannot say that catholic teachings damaged me in any way. It certainly gave me cause to ponder my worldview....even as a wee little lass. While being brought up in a catholic environment, I learned a lot about what I DO NOT want to be in this life experience. I do not appreciate control, domination with fear, or contradictory hypocrisy, and I felt sure of that even as a child.

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