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Dr. Hazel Giusto

Assistant Principal - High School, Alliance College Ready Public Schools

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What is the best way to deal with behavior that comes off improper or rude? Do we excuse people's behaviors because of their circumstances?

In the play "Tamer of Horses" by William Mastrosimone, Act 1/Scene 2, Georgiane, Ty's wife, argues that Hector, the runaway boy that they found in their barn, needs "a strap across his butt" for being a "wise-ass" while Ty contends that maybe Hector needs "somebody to treat him like a human being for no particular reason." As a high school, Alliance Gertz-Ressler engages all students, staff, parents, and community in 20 minutes per week where we all read the same piece of literature at the exact same time so that we may engage in thoughtful and meaningful conversations while making real-world connections beyond the classroom. We read only one section at a time per week so that we remain aligned. We would love to engage the broader community, including other educators and students who have either read this play, would like to join us in the paced-reading, or those who simply have thoughts on its real-world connections.


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  • Apr 6 2014: "What you do not want done to yourself, do not do to others"- Confucius
    The golden rule should have answered that question for you Doctor Hazel Giusto but if it did not I will ask you directly:
    Dr. Hazel Giusto would you like "a strap across your butt" the next time your behavior is improper or rude???
    Have we forgotten that children are people? Just because it was done to us does not justify passing on bad behavior of any kind. In fact when we do that the end result is we pass on more bad behavior to of all people, our children (small helpless people who cannot defend themselves).

    Some very smart people had the following to say about that kind of behavior by so-called adults:
    “Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius—and a lot of courage to move in the opposite direction”- Schumacher
    "Hatred does not cease by hatred, but only by love"- Buddha
    "If people are good only because they fear punishment, and hope for reward, then we are a sorry lot indeed”- Einstein
    "Love is a better teacher than a sense of duty"- Einstein
    “The way to change others' minds is with affection, and not anger”- Dalai Lama

    And last if not lest...
    "Attraction is the best teacher"- Keith W Henline
    "Kindness is the best Currency"- Keith W Henline
    "Insanity is hurting for pleasure"- Keith W Henline

    So, do I practice what I preach, mostly, I have three lovely grown-up children that have never had a spanking or experienced any other kind of violence within our family. They are educated, healthy, successful and have traveled the world. It works just like they said it would. Myself I was beat for over twelve years and suffered physically and mentally most of my early life but that does not give me the right to pass it on.

    "When one has not had a good father, one must create one"- Friedrich Nietzsche

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