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Daniel Vineberg


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"I don't try to be right, I choose to be happy" ... wait, what?

With no disrespect intended to RIc or any readers with opposing views, I take issue with the quote I pinpointed. The pursuit of happiness is a great thing and all, but I don't think it should actually take precedence over being right.

Now I know there's a fine line between "being right" and "doing the right thing". After all someone who tries to "be right" on every minute issue can get very annoying fast ( -- ever met someone who insists on correcting grammar when it's clear what's being said? case in point).

But on larger issues I would like to suggest that proving that you are in fact right constitutes doing the right thing.
eg. Galileo would've been a lot happier if he just agreed the earth was flat and stopped insisting he was right -- but aren't we happy he was stubborn?

more recent eg. Fighting tolerance / discrimination. Though intrinsically rewarding, most of us can live an easier, happier life by turning a cold shoulder. But who would argue that this is good advice?

I don't mean to pick apart Ric's quote and use it out of context. All I would like to show is that what may help you live on a micro level may actually promote apathy on a macro level. I'm only twenty though, so I'm still at the idealistic age where I think some hard work can save the world. But isn't that what TED's all about? :)


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  • Apr 27 2011: A few years ago something came to me, a single line that summed up all that was wrong with the way I was living and, I suspect, the society in which we live:

    "Stop being right - and start being".

    Daniel I think you could benefit greatly from watching Kathryn Schultz talk here: http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/eng/kathryn_schulz_on_being_wrong.html

    The problem is you are walking around in your bubble of "being right" not realising that it feels exactly the same as being wrong. It confines you to a limited reality filtered through your preconceptions of "being right". You can't tell the difference between being right or being wrong until someone proves it one way or the other.

    Life is much simpler when you give up the ghost of "being right" and start "just being". Life is simpler and so, oddly enough, is being right AND doing right.

    Living as close to the very moment you are in as you can leads to this.

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