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Rodrigo P. Feliciano

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Are tensions, conflicts, and wars permanent part of the human condition? How can we avoid wars or mitigate the ravages of war?

There have conflicts and wars throughout human history. For the last 100 years alone there have been: First World War, Second World War, Korean War, Vietnam War, Gulf War, Iraq War, Afghanistan War, and many regional wars or conflicts too many to mention.


Closing Statement from Rodrigo P. Feliciano

"War may sometimes be a necessary evil. But no matter how necessary, it is always an evil, never a good. We will not learn how to live together in peace by killing each other's children." Jimmy Carter

"I know not with what weapons World War III will be fought, but World War IV will be fought with sticks and stones."
Albert Einstein

"We must learn to live together as brothers or perish together as fools." Martin Luther King, Jr.

"To seriously mitigate conflict, we must alter present human nature... which must involve genetically "tweaking" our brains, I fear." Brendan Maloney

"We can solve problems that we understand. War has not been solved, and so I propose that it is not yet well enough understood." Lawrence Cox

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    Mar 30 2014: Hi Natasha,

    You ask "When do we reach our ' point of enoughness'?"
    I would say this is obviously a matter of subjective experience. And it can vary depending on which area of life (work, relationships, life-style). For example, some people have a huge tolerance for dysfunctional relationships before they reach their "point of enoughness"; but may have very little tolerance in their work-situation when does not work well for them.
    But it is always our subjective experience that tells us when some external "trigger" (what we interpret as a negative experience) crosses our personal threshold of "bad enough", after which we are then prepared to change our beliefs and take alternative action and behave differently.

    Yes, there are other ways. I would also say that we can cultivate sensitivity and awareness to our own personal "points of enoughness" so that we make smaller changes sooner, rather than wait until a big crisis hits. A small irritation is in fact enough to give us the information we need in order to convert the "negative experience" into its more mature counterpart. If we do this daily, we avoid the build-up of unprocessed "negative experiences" which will otherwise eventually explode as a crisis - an "in-yer-face point of enoughness" that we cannot miss.

    I would say the key quality we need to do this type of inner work, is total self-honesty - which in itself draws on our own courage.
    • Apr 4 2014: Joshua,
      thanks for responding and sorry for the delay with my respond, i found your post only now.
      I think, that everything and i do mean everything is structured as a fractal, i mean, that the same pattern repeats itself on different scales, iow. what varies is a scale of observation/experience not the essence. In our context what works for an individual 'point of enoughness' has the same pattern of developmental processes on much bigger scale, which is hidden from us.
      What is the point of enoughness on environmental global humanity scale ?
      Obviously we've missed 'small irritations' , we've ignored "bad enough" and continue business as usual. Now we can't distinguish global from environmental and neither of these from human crisis, it's concrescence.
      Would you agree that it looks like the point of enoughness of everything ?
      What wakes us up and when ?
      You say :
      "the key quality we need to do this type of inner work, is total self-honesty - which in itself draws on our own courage."
      Yes, but on a global scale what it must be ? Individual =global, a paradigm shift ?
      Do you think it's happening ? If yes, where do you see it ?

      Thank you !
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        Apr 7 2014: Hello Natasha,
        {By mistake I replied in the box below your comment, rather than via the "reply" button, hence my reply was not so obvious to find; sorry}
        Your question is what makes the study of history so interesting; what (if any) singular events are the trigger-tipping-point for a global shift in consciousness? Maybe Rosa Parks' refusal to give up her place on that bus in Montgomery in 1955 catalyzing the bus boycott in the civil rights movement is one example - at least nationwide, if not global.
        Perhaps that first photo of "spaceship earth" taken from the moon was another moment of a "collective point of enoughness"; the holocaust another.

        From my own personal experience and of those whom I know well, we are not really prepared to make an internal shift unless it's "real bad". But "real bad" is all subjective. In which case your "fractal" argument (with which I agree) would suggest things have to get a lot worse on planet earth before a global point-of-enoughness is reached. Not very optimistic.
        Perhaps the Edward Snowden debate (see his talk on TED talks) is part of a new shift.

        If you are not familiar with Jonathan Fields, then watch his interview with Vani Hari (http://www.goodlifeproject.com/vani-hari-food-babe/) and dozens of others who had a "point of enoughness" which triggered a changed way of thinking in their lives (eg: http://www.goodlifeproject.com/lissa-rankin-mind-medicine/ and http://www.goodlifeproject.com/katherine-preston-stutter/ and http://www.goodlifeproject.com/kris-carr-on-living-the-crazy-sexy-life-with-cancer/), and often also leading to some new entrepreneurial venture (eg: http://www.goodlifeproject.com/marie-forleo-heart-hustle-intuition/)
        I think the GoodLifeProject also shows how the world paradigm can be changed - one person at a time.
        • Apr 11 2014: Hi, Joshua ,thanks for the videos !
          People there tell their personal stories, but i don't think it's 'do it yourself' ' personal voyage; on some level it is, but it's deeper. I think it's a general tendency, ' get a degree, get a job ...be a player ! ' worked much better 2/3 decades ago. What if i don't even want to be in the game?
          Probably, it sounds odd, but i think, that a real change, ' change not willed ' is a ' fractal vision', it is coming to replace the 'vision in perspective', we've been into for more then 500 years.
          I can explain why i think so ( i've never been that sure) but it takes too much time and most likely i won't succeed:)
          As for the 'not very optimistic'-real- bad -scenario, i think it's neither optimistic nor pessimistic, it's just the way how things happening. We live in a dual world, nothing gets better before it gets worse. Under the circumstances to be hopeful and without fear accept the inevitable, one need to part with his/her ego. Probably, it's what human 'project' is all about, i don't know, we'll see.
          Thank you !
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      Apr 15 2014: .
      The "point of enoughness" is the optimal point for keeping our DNA alive.

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