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Debra Petersen

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What are the different roles that women and men play in love and war?

What are the differences between what males go through when they go off to war versus women who tend to stay at home and take care of the family. How does war affect the different relationships between men and women. How have the roles changed from the last few hundred years. How do we deal with love in wartime periods and how do we deal with war and love differently between the sexes? What are the different sides to war and how does it affect our different cultures and how we deal with it?

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  • Feb 28 2014: The question is so hopelessly broad in scope I don't even know how to begin to answer it.

    Any chance to narrow things down to something its actually possible to discuss?
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    Mar 4 2014: .
    Symbiotically, the different roles are:

    (1) In love:
    Men: --- Supplying foods, shelters ...
    Women ---- Bearing, bringing up, and educating offspring ...

    (2) In war:
    Men --- Defending ...
    Women --- Doing logistics ...
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    Feb 28 2014: The answers you seek from those questions could span volumes. I will try my best to give a concise answer.
    1) War has been romanticized and horrified many times before. Accounts and perspectives differ from person to person, time to time, nation to nation, culture to culture. Generally, war grants males an opportunity to let out normally repressed or unknown aggressions which, if left unchecked, results in the horrific accounts of war, such as rape, brutality, and wanton death and destruction. Females generally experience fear and/or isolation or even fear OF isolation which may lead some to commit adulterous acts or even follow their husbands or sons to battle, or do whatever they can at home to help the cause, such as manufacture of food or ammunition. Such tendencies for negative behavior due to war sometimes inspire goodness and camaraderie among those who were able to maintain their humanity, either through strong values systems, or strong national pride.
    2) If familial bonds were strong before the war, war renders them stronger. If they were weak before the war, war breaks the bonds entirely. After the war however, new crises may emerge such as coping with loss, injury, shock, regret, and guilt which would really test the strength of any relationship.
    3) Women are generally increasingly accepted as of equal capability in the theater of war.
    4) The question is to broad, and also largely opinion based. Deal with it as humanely as possible I suppose.
    5) Sides are almost infinitely many, but generally there are the aggressors that start the war due to a need or 'manifest destiny', and those who defend themselves to 'protect their rights'. War usually acts as a catalyst to drive technology and the exchange of ideas as well as the spreading of culture and influence. How we deal with it? I fail to see what that question is referring. Who are the 'we'? What sort of 'deal' do we do? What aspect of 'it'?
  • Mar 9 2014: Men need sex. Women need babies. It is boring at the top of the food chain. Women keep themselves occupied by raising children. Men don't. War is a symptom of boredom.
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    Mar 1 2014: I agree with Nadav Tropp; quite a broad question.

    Men fight with their women in their heart; women keep the men in their heart and wait in hope.
  • Feb 28 2014: Certainly, during such a deeply intimate experience as war the lives of men can undergo severe trauma both physically and psychologically. A man must face himself to a very deep extent during such an experience where his life may end at any moment. In other words such forms of forced self reflection may be at a deeper level than in his ordinary life other than possibly, during great and deep love which requires similar depth of courage although rather than the courage to face an enemy he must face himself and his partnership. War forces men to raise their awareness of himself and others to a high degree so that he "lives" at a higher level than in ordinary life. His love of the men he fights with is of a different kind to that of his wife for example and often she may not be able to understand his experiences and he may not be able to express them to her. This can lead to a crisis in a marriage.