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Nicholas Lukowiak


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What is love? Should the morals/values of life be revolved around spreading and teaching the ideas surrounding love?

Love is a multidimensional concept in which many subjects involving philosophy, morality, psychology, history, faith and opinions/perspectives can be used during the discussion.

Should values be taught by using love as the concept/term in which the discussion surrounds?

The discussion of love is a great lesson to be held, it does not have to be limited to just facts or strong beliefs. It can transcend into both (in various degrees) and still create valid considerations, debates, arguments, understandings, beliefs and/or facts.

Love is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment. In philosophical context, love is a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection. Love is central to many religions, as in the Christian phrase, "God is love" or Agape in the Canonical gospels. Love may also be described as actions towards others (or oneself) based on compassion. Or as actions towards others based on affection. - Wikipedia

No idea of love is a bad one here.

Religious books are literature bottom line. The "golden rule" is widely accepted as the foundation of most religions, but as history dictates that is not the case always.

Poems, short stories, links, etc are great!


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  • Apr 25 2011: I believe love has two distinct definitions.

    - A chemical reaction that is characterized by a bond between two living creatures.
    - An abstract term that describes a bond between two or more subsisting entities.
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      Apr 25 2011: What is "absolute love"? Is there is such a thing?

      And, can this bond exceed just two living creatures? Example question: Do you feel a relationship involving 3 or more people would be possible?

      Good answer.
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        Apr 26 2011: Austin and Nicholas,
        Is love the chemical reaction? Or Is the chemical reaction caused by love? Can there be a chemical reaction that draws us to one another without love?

        What about love of life...love of nature? How does that fit in with your definitions?

        Can love only be expressed with people? Is it only a bond between "subsisting entities"?
        Or can love move farther out than that?
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        May 4 2011: you've never seen three people in love before..I mean other than Sophies choice?
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      Apr 25 2011: Do you think the bond needs to be mutual?
      • Apr 25 2011: @Nicholas

        Absolute love is completely unconditional love. Yes

        "... 3 or more would be possible?"
        I don't see why not.

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          Apr 25 2011: Continue on unconditional love, Austin.

          Side-note: ... lol on the inside I was hoping you would say no to "three or more in a relationship", would of been fun to suggest swinger couples. lol
      • Apr 25 2011: @Nicholas

        I sensed you were hoping for a certain answer on that question :)

        Continue how? Are you unclear, or are you just asking me to elaborate?
      • Apr 25 2011: I believe love's only variable is conditionality. Heavily conditional love is lesser than unconditional love, and so on. The only examples I've seen on Earth of truly unconditional love is the between parents and their offspring. Though, the same analogy can be applied to a supreme entity and its offspring or "creation".
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          Apr 26 2011: Does unconditional love exist?
          I think even parents have conditional love.

          Like "I will love you under the condition you don't murder every person I love, spit in my face every time you see me, set fire to my house, trick me into forgiving you for all that only to do it to me all over again."

          I guess unconditional love may exist, but only in fools. Luckily people who are able to claim unconditional love do so so carefully that they don't have to worry about conditions to remove the love from ever coming to existence. Thus the amended version of 'unconditional love' could have the extension 'within the abilities of their character.'

          Like saying "I can love you unconditionally as long as you are who you are." Thus, when conditions like described above, it would remain true because odds are they wouldn't be acting within their character that the unconditional love was applied to.

          But that amended version is inherently conditional upon never changing. So. Eh.

          Anyway. Pointless thought process alert.
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          Apr 27 2011: Hi Sky,
          I'm wondering why you keep saying this conversation is wrong, pointless, and things like that, and you also keep coming back to it. You're making a choice to participate in a discussion you think is pointless? Or, you think it has a point, and you want to disagree?

          I believe unconditional love exists, and I don't see those who practice it as fools. You're right that all parents do not practice unconditional love, and some do. I claim to be unconditionally loving. That means I respect, appreciate, encourage and support you as a fellow evolving human being. I don't like the way you communicate sometimes, but that doesn't stop me from loving you. I understand that you are an individual, and will behave as you choose. I am not attached to the way you communicate and will not withdraw my love because I don't like one of your characteristics. You see? With conditional loving, I would say "Sky, if you don't change the way you communicate, I will no longer like you, love you, respect you, encourage you or be your friend in this life journey because you are not doing what I want you to do". That's conditional.
        • May 4 2011: Sri Aurobindo pointed toward matter and spirit as either sides of one measure. Perhaps this is what you mean with conditional and unconditional love. There seems to be a relation of self involved. The degree to whch someone is attatched to their own 'selfhood' or ego will thus influence the degree of the conditionality of their love.
          Unconditional love does not really apply to parents, at least not all parents, but then thats obvious. The point I would like to make is that parental love can often be an unprecedented attatchment to the child as extension of 'self'. But perhaps thats just the possessive form, I can only speak from experience.
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        May 4 2011: ohhhhh you are speaking about romantic love the,yes? to ask if it has to be mutial..i thought we were taking about unconditional love.selfless love agape.

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