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Vera Nova

Director Research Analysis, NOVA Town Futuristic Development


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No one can reflect any thing or any living creature in mind as it is. All people are "things in themselves".

What is it we perceive and sense in our minds that so magnetically attracts our sensations and feelings?

Sometimes individuals sacrifice their life for someone who they idealize, fantasizing who this person is, but knowing so little about him/her, prefering to be blinded by their own fantasies.

Are we in love with our own fantasies?

One is loving something that is pleasing one's physical sense-perceptions: looks, sounds, taste, shapes even when those "things" or individuals are artificially "fixed"?

What is the difference between loving those feelings delivered through our physical bodies and brains ---- and loving non-physical dreams, ideas, or god, when our love becomes a bliss empowered within our deep subconsciousness?

Why a person we so like at fisrt often becomes an object of our bitter disappointment as soon as we know this person closer?

After all Do we really love our images and ideas?

Why is that often the words we exchange do not match our imaginative charachters we love in our minds, and eventually break our love relationship with a real person?

Are we all those "things-in-themselves"?


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  • Mar 20 2014: Relationships? That is to complicated for my feeble mind to comprehend. For instance in a two person mix there are at least six personas. 1) the person I really am 2) the person I think I am 3) the person the other person thinks I am and then there is 4) the other person as they are 5) the other person as they think they are 6) the other person as I think they are
    Now you got six personas already not to mention any of them can and do take on other personalities and roles at will. For instances am I talking to your child (the part of you that is happy and wants to play) or the adult (which wants to be responsible and everything to make sense) or maybe the business persona (which wants to be organized and profitable) or maybe the entertainer (which wants to be funny and likeable) or the artist (which wants to be mysterious, appreciated and taken seriously).
    So my question is, in the morning when I wake up next to you, hypothetically of course, who am I going be and who am I going to meet? :)

    Love and or relationships are dependent on the art of compromise.
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      Mar 20 2014: Hello Keith. You have sent an e-mail through ted -

      but I see no message.

      Please find my comment (any comment) and punch that REPLY link, then write your note.

      Would be great to hear from you. Like your contemplation of multiple charachters we have to deal with...
      • Mar 20 2014: Vera I was just trying to let you know that when you reply to someone's comment you have to hit the reply button on their comment other wise it goes into the default which could be anywhere. Anyway to correct it I just copy the comment, go back to where I wanted it in the first place and hit the reply button there and paste it. I then go back and delete the comment that went into the wrong place. I do it all the time even tho I know better.

        I also added that you can change any part of your conversation until it is closed. For instance this conversation is scheduled to close in one day so if you wanted to extend the time to up to a month you can click the edit button and see what your option are. Sometimes I extend them and sometimes I get frustrated and close them earlier. Also you can edit any of the other text or links at any time, it is your conversation and you have complete control over it. I sometimes add more links or text as the conversation goes along. Anyway I will check back later to see how you are doing. I sent this message to your email button on your profile because it has little to do with the current conversation. Good luck.
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          Mar 21 2014: I'd love to extend the conversation time-vise but it does not work..

          Write anything you wish, here or there, I'll read it.
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          Mar 21 2014: I'd like to help Marika - an independent lonely soul.
          let me know what you think
          Best wishes

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