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Do you think you have done something in your life to improve this world? If so. Could you explain?

Many people complain that this world (or life) is hostile. But...Have we examined our own behavior? Actually, do we contribute to make a better world?

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Closing Statement from paco lopez

Once listened the whole contributions. I would say that we all, indeed are doing something for getting a better world, conciously or unconsciously, working in it or passively. I think it is very important to have the attitude or, say, the right fuel. But... How do you get the fuel? I would say: by appreciating the whole what you have: your health, your livelihood, your family, your job, even small details like that you have water to wash up or light in your home; many people in war or refugee camps not even have that. So I think:
If I see a beggar I will try to help.
If I see a sick person I will try to comfort.
If I see a sad person I will try to encourage.
If I see a war I will try to stop it.
I do not wanna make this post larger, so. I want to thank again ( I do not regret to say that there is the word most used for me in this conversation) Thanks TED, Thanks to all of you pen mates to attend and participate in this conversation. And especially Thanks God for inspiring me to be in this place, in this moment and with this post.

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    Feb 4 2014: It is human to blame somebody else. It is natural to do that. Someone else is the 'dragon', the 'monster', the 'evil genuis', the 'axis of evil', the 'dictator'. Its my wife, its my husband, its the fucked up feminists, its the government, its the immigrants, those white people, damned colonialists, its the Jews, shitty pop culture.

    In most instances we view ourselves as the 'saint', blind to our own weakneses and inadequacies.
    You are right, we should change ourselves first and we should know that perfect human beings are dead. A little difference makes the difference.

    We should just do all the good we can all the time as long as we are on God's earth.
    • Feb 4 2014: I very agree with you Feyisayo. Some people try to blame others and even to discharge aggressiveness and bad manners on other persons I think that far more of human is the expression of a dirty way of behaviour. we can see ourselves exaggeratedly as saints but as well assaulted or harassed by the actions or words of others who don´t respect neither thought nor individual freedom.
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        Feb 4 2014: Paco,
        I am curious regarding where you stand on this issue....

        In a recent post, you write...
        "paco lopez
        1 day ago: This is a personal note. So far I appreciate the criticism but I would prefer ideas and facts, some people must have the courage to express their own ideas rather than criticize or object others´ as standard, because such behavior adds nothing to the general conversation even often can prevent the free expression among the participants. So criticism are accepted but preferentially ideas, facts and propositions .. "

        In your response to Feyisayo, you criticize "others" for "aggressiveness", "bad manners", "dirty way" and you say... "we can see ourselves exaggeratedly as saints but as well assaulted or harassed by the actions or words of others who don´t respect neither thought nor individual freedom".

        Are you walking your talk Paco? Are you "being" what you are "saying"?
        • Feb 5 2014: Colleen,

          My two cents on the issue ... you have just done something to improve this world ...

          I sense that Paco is doing the best he can to walk his talk while in actuality 'confronted' by a reality that invites him to come face to face with a true challenge to overcome. The fact you made the comment may suffice to overcome the resistance force and initiate a beneficial movement which changes things from now onward... I actually see we are all in there with Paco doing the best we can to walk the talk while in actuality 'confronted' by a reality that invites us to come face to face with a true challenge to overcome. We are each demonstrating for each other parts of the resolution. "A little difference makes the difference" ... Fill oneself with a perfume (and/or filter the dirty water) to irradiate a sublime essence that permeates it all.
        • Feb 5 2014: My answer only has to do with the post to which I was replying and I wanted to refer to situations that sometimes occur at the workplaces. If in my post had put instead of harassment "sexual harassment" there would also be charged to my account? In My previous two conversations I hadn´t to make so many explanations I think my behavior is completely polite to everyone because I have been taught to use my patience and silence appropriately. I am very sorry but if anyone is offended is his own problem. I believe and I have shown here that when I have something to say to someone I don´t do it in an indirect way I do it directly and clearly. Posts are to be read and not to misinterpret.
      • Feb 5 2014: Paco,

        Consider that individual posts here have to do with the post one is replying AS-WELL-AS with the other situational events taking place elsewhere... in a way we here reflect what be going on out there. We can show them a better way to dialogue and converse.... do something in our life now to improve this world and have a much better conversation...

        I noticed your 'justification' and 'explanation' that basically states: Others comments about my behavior are unfounded because I think my behaviors are (_____) given the fact I been bought (_______). I am very sorry but if (_______) is offended, it is their own problem! I believe and I have shown here that (_____). Posts are to be read and not to misinterpret... meaning that it is the assessment of some individual who judges others are misinterpreting what has bee stated.

        Colleen and myself where giving you feedback in regard to how each sees and perceives some of your statements. Colleen even provided factual statements for you to consider and address... I hold you would agree that the following eleven (11) or so notions ought be avoided:
        criticism, criticize, such behavior adds nothing, prevent the free expression. criticism are accepted , "aggressiveness", "bad manners", "dirty way", well assaulted or harassed, don´t respect neither thought nor individual freedom.

        I hold you would agree that these notion where included in posts you have made (and I am sure you have a perfectly reasonable explanation as to why it is justifiable to have stated them) The point here centers on being congruent between word and deed... by actually cultivating what each wants to cultivate. I realize that by me mentioning these notions I myself have have chosen to cultivate them and it would had been better to approach this from a different angle. I wanted to do it directly, acknowledge it, encapsulate it and then move on to better things.

        BTW to read one must interpret (and be aware that one may misinterpret it)...
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          Feb 5 2014: I agree Esteban, that we all do the best we can at any given time, and you speak about "being congruent between word and deed...by actually cultivating what each wants to cultivate."

          There is an interesting book that I read many moons ago...
          "Coming Home - the Return to Self" by Martia Nelson

          In the book, she speaks about "the split", which happens when a person may be trying to change from an old belief/paradigm to embrace something new. Sometimes this process causes an inconsistency with words and deeds because one is trying to cultivate something new and different, while still "being" with the old belief/paradigm.
    • Feb 4 2014: Feyisayo ,

      It is also human to do graceful beneficial stuff in a natural way... we have the seeds to this and that; we choose which to feed and cultivate by what we thinks, feel, do.

      At this moment I wonder if it is human to do what you said given that I find it is human to do good; granted acting under the influence of this or that thought-feeling-craving... Of course acting under the influence of some idea-substance-energy hardly serves as a valid excuse for individuals are ultimately responsible for what they choose to do and ought to learn from every action they take. In addictive thinking understanding self-deception there is the notion of stinking thinking ... the notion of codependency and even self-sustaining-cycles... In a humorous way, the drunk explain: 'I have to drink because the wife nags at me". When asked why the wife nags at them "Well because I drink"! Evidently the wife and the drunk each choose to do what they do irrespective of circumstances and systems in pace though as you say they use the circumstances and systems in pace as an excuse to explain what they each choose to do.

      Evidently it would be better to recognize what happens and choose to do what ought to be done in a graceful beneficial natural way. Though it seems some still have to learn to do this. I liked what you said "A little difference makes the difference" reminds me of what someone said to me a long time ago "little actions is what distinguishes the excellence in services and makes the biggest differences".

      Paco,

      Consider the following factual observation : From what you stated I see your passive aggressiveness discharge towards certain beneficial ideas and ways of being which you seem to judge as being disrespectful towards certain ideas and ways of being.

      If need be I could elaborate on that factual observation... and substantiate it... under a shared conversational form... my intent here has been basically to point something out for your consideration
    • Feb 8 2014: I agree with you Feyisayo
      It is human to blame somebody else. It is natural to do that.
      In most instances we view ourselves as the 'saint'.
      We should just do all the good we can all the time.
      A little difference makes the difference.
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      Paco, Colleen, Estaban,
      Perhaps, we forget for a moment.
      This is the titled questions of this conversation ---
      Do you think you have done something in your life to improve this world?
      If so. Could you explain?

      This conversation started with the premise ---
      Many people complain that this world (or life) is hostile.

      This conversation asks these questions --
      But...Have we examined our own behavior?
      Actually, do we contribute to make a better world?
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      TED conversationalists, really "tear" into things from time to time.
      I am one of the worst offenders. I must once again apologize
      to all of you. I just got "picky - picky - picky" when I should have
      just read on down the page. lol I am such a brat.

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