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The real reason everyone is slowly killing themselves. How beauty, self confidence, success and happiness are all related.

What causes someone to look at themselves in the mirror and hate what they see? Why do people go to glorious lengths to get thinner, smarter, and better looking than their fellow neighbour? Why does everyone else seem so much better?

The REAL answer.

We are unhappy. We slouch around with our daily activities dragging ourselves from one activity to the rest. We stand in front of the mirror and pick away at ourselves, every flaw, every imperfection for all we see is someone thats not good enough. Believing you are not good enough is the first step towards a terrible path.

Why do we think we are not good enough? We are jealous.

Jealousy is why the world is unhappy.

We see a fit young woman through social media, what is the first thing we do? COMPARE. We wish we had her body. Why?

From an evolutionary standpoint humans want to be the fittest for survival but, not many realize that times have come far along since the Palaeolithic era.

What is so hard about appreciating someone for their achievements? As humans, no matter how hard we try we just can't seem to let it go, of that persons success. That success makes us feel inferior and we start to compare, so much so that we could eventually wither away.

Inferiority is another step towards a destructive path. Depression comes after that and when we become depressed we scrutinize ourselves and continually beat our selfs up because we "suck".

Society needs to learn to say, "Oh, look at him, he's accomplished so much, good for him." and get over it.

  • Feb 7 2014: "In this world where it is advertised that you can be anything you want,and then if you don't achieve something then you are a nothing"
    In words you have put it easily" Society needs to learn to say, "Oh, look at him, he's accomplished so much, good for him." and get over it."but tats not easy for us, we are hard wired to make comparison .
    In modern world when everybody believes that they have reached success due to their hard work,then those who have not made it big didn't work hard, but tats not true.
    And its not an individuals mistake ,society makes distinction between successful and failures at every crossroads.
  • Feb 7 2014: "Put the fifty million humans in a field dieing and ask them to raise their hands if they care about space travel, child man sports,and so on, or if they though they should have the right as well to be healthy and enjoy those waste of money actions"

    You completely miss the point that one does not effect the other.

    We have drastically slashed space budgets. Are there fewer people starting?

    If we stopped all sports, it would have no effect on the number of starving people.


    There are not limited resources that are being used on sports, that would be used to reduce starvation if we ended sport.


    The decision to not stop global starvation is completely independent of our decision to do other things. There is not a limited about of money. There is a limit of natural resources, and few to none of the limited resources needed to end hunger are being used for sports, space and other things you are likely against.
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    • Feb 4 2014: You are on to something here.

      We were shaped by evolution while we were on the verge of extinction. Evolution does not select based on kindness, happiness or morality. Evolution selects on what works best to ensure survival of the individual long enough to produce offspring and raise them to adulthood.

      An aside, I think envy is just a word that means you are smart enough to see how unfair the world is (or seems) in ways that benefit others, but not smart enough to see how the world has unfairly benefited you over others.

      It seems to me that it takes a special kind of person to see the misfortune in others, that benefits you, as a bad thing.

      I recall going to the bars in the Philippines where dozens of gorgeous women were lined up looking to spend time with an American. Most young, single men found it to be heaven, but I found it disturbing in ways that still haunts me.

      While most guys were looking to get drunk and..., I was more interested in just talking to people about their lives.

      As I would not be the slave, so I would not be the master.

      Unfortunately, global socioeconomic realities has placed me in the position of being the virtual master of many people that work much harder than I do.

      Rather than looking at the few that have more than me with envy, I look for ways to bring those with less than me up. And not through hand-outs. Through opportunities for better employment.
    • Feb 5 2014: While I agree on the alcohol thing (never been a drinker), I am not so sure about the sport or space.

      Sport is an excellent way to employ people in meaningful (to the those in attendance) ways while using fairly few natural resources. I would prefer, for example, for 100,000 people to attend a football game than to jump on motorcycles and go ride in the wilderness, tearing up the environment, wasting fuel, creating pollution. It matters to people because they choose to make it matter to them. In that way, it is no different than reading a novel, watching a fictional movie or admiring a painting in a museum.

      As for the space program, the spending on the Apollo program has in many ways created out modern world. At a time that no one in the commercial market was willing to spend more than $.50 on a transistor, NASA was willing to spend $5 for a small, light, durable transistor. This spawned the invention of polymer coating, integrated circuits, semi-conductor micro-chips, programmable micro-chip based, integrated circuits. Companies like Intel, Microsoft, Apple and pretty much the entire electronics industry as we know it today was a direct result of space program funding willing to pay more for advanced technology.

      Of course, DoD is another source of advanced tech funding, but I'd rather we be spending the money learning the secrets of the universe than building tools designed to help us kill each other.

      We need to understand that spending money does not remove money from the economy. It puts it into the economy.

      The guns vs. butter argument assumes there is a limited resource that is required for each of these, and that we have to make a decision as to which of these to produce. In fact, if there are not limited resources, in common, then there is no need to choose. Making less of one does not help you make more of the other.

      Money is never a limiting resource, if we keep the money moving. It is only when we allow money to be hoarded that it becomes an issue.
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    • Jan 30 2014: Yes! The fact that we keep telling each other how a person should be is another contributing factor that strips us of our happiness because then we start to believe others. My challenge is to get everyone to remember because it's easy to get caught up in emotions and think unlogically.
  • Jan 30 2014: I agree with you all. But even appreciating success will make you depressed no? "I wish I was as successful as so and so" Also I agree with you all about the idea of true beauty and the fact that we have to appreciate ourselves and be happy with our own body etc. Yet I don't believe that we should give up trying to improve ourselves. I think we may not look like other people but we can strive to become a better version of ourselves. Reaching the optimum person we can be, in terms of health, success and every other part.
    I believe that in time, we can educate people about these things and about the corruption the media is causing. I hope to see a better world one day but we all need to join and make that change happen.
    • Jan 30 2014: Sure we can improve ourselves but, we need to make sure those are not for societal reasons, if you're trying to be fit for the sake of looking better to other people then it's for the wrong reason, if you do it because you get a thrill from exercise then that's what will make you the best you can be. It's all about motive.
  • Jan 30 2014: I completely agree with everything you said! You said it right! Society puts up this unattainable image of beauty that they make people try to strive for which ultimately results in feelings of depression, anxiety, unworthiness, and hopelessness. This is NOT okay. Instead of being set up for failure from the beginning, people should be encouraged to look at themselves and realize that they are beautiful and worthy of love from themselves as well as others. Society should promote the idea of beauty being in the eye of the beholder, as opposed to being in the hands of the Photoshop editor. Society needs to get its act together, and learn to encourage the average person to love everything about themselves, and as Marilyn Monroe stated, "Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring". Individuality, acceptance, and love, should be way more valued in this world than it currently is.
    • Jan 30 2014: I could not agree more. We only have one body and we should cherish it. We need to stop trying to be like her or him and just accept that we will never be them no matter how many sit-ups or diets we do. once we learn to love ourselves in that way then we will truly be happy.
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    Jan 30 2014: .
    Their INVALID HAPPINESS is slowly killing themselves.
    • Jan 30 2014: It is so sad to see people slowly destroy themselves, why can't they just open their eyes?
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    Jan 30 2014: I usually feel happy with myself, Dasha. I think the reason might be that I try to show courage in my life, when something comes up that I'm intimidated to do I still usually try to do it.
    • Jan 30 2014: Courage is definately important but jealousy is a hard emotion to avoid
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        Jan 30 2014: well, everybody has some achievements to be proud of. So why are people jealous?