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Faranha Moosajee

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Is happiness just an illusion?

People are talking about searching for this elusive thing called happiness. They believe that if they reached the "thing" they want they will find happiness, yet once they acquire or reach the "thing" they only realise they want more... People are not easily satisfied and will always want more and more, will there ever be enough for true happiness?
Is it even possible to have a constant state of happiness or is being happy just a fleeting feeling that only lasts a few moments?
Do we believe that the emptiness we feel inside of ourselves can be fixed by "happiness"?

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  • Jan 23 2014: The evidence seems to show that most people's happiness level fluctuates around a personal norm. If good or bad things happen, we are more or less happy for a time, but soon return to our personal happiness norm level.

    So, I don't think happiness is an illusion, how could it be? However, the search for a perpetual peak of happiness is probably self defeating. To be really happy, I believe is to be "in flow", which is incompatible with constantly asking ourselves the question "how happy am I?"

    I liked Andrew Solomon's conclusion, that “People … don't want to be cured or changed or eliminated. They want to be whoever it is that they've come to be.”
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      Jan 23 2014: I feel that people are seeking a constant state of happiness because that is what is portrayed in life. In the books and movies we watch as kids to the media we have around us as adults.

      I do not think that people can be fixed, they definitely just looking to be accepted as how they are. Unfortunately I believe society has a preconceived notion of normal. Whoever does not fit the criteria of normal will probably not find acceptance, may not even accept themselves.

      I think the "happiness" we seek is actually just a state of peace and contentment. I always say that all I ask for is to be okay. The opposite of sadness is not happiness.
      • Feb 5 2014: !!Hi Farhana as a New comer nd very young 20 my age I want to confirm upto my xperiences de person feels hapiness in the state of Peace & a person can acquire this peace only in a way when he is Obedient to his her duties nd Responsibilities wether fmly duties,personal duties, friendly responces, or orders by his her GOD's or even Duties of GOD . As per my Little xperiencd concept dis is a way man Acquires Peace to his soul n body dn he feels Happiness n joy in evry aspect of Life.
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      Jan 23 2014: Jim and Faranha,
      I agree that continuous, genuine happiness/contentment is a flow, and if one has it, we don't need to constantly ask ourselves if we have it or not!

      Accepting one "self" is a big part of happiness/contentment, in my humble perception:>)
      • Feb 5 2014: Hi Evry body....! I am Khursheed Dar here as a student of BSc 1st Yr 2014. I want to make U sure I didn't want to go continue fo BSc and my family r trying inforcing me fo Engeneering ! My own wish is to b a Future Scientist wether I may hv to Stop fo Years bt I want to Becme a Great physicst . PLEEZ Give me Ur Bettr Opinion nd Commentment so I shall move Ahead !!!Hi Farhana as a New comer nd very young 20 my age I want to confirm upto my xperiences de person feels hapiness in the state of Peace & a person can acquire this peace only in a way when he is Obedient to his her duties nd Responsibilities wether fmly duties,personal duties, friendly responces, or orders by his her HOD's or even Duties of GOD . As per my Little xperiencd concept dis is a way man Acquires Peace to his soul n body dn he feels Happiness n joy in evry aspect of Life.

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