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The pressure to be perfect. "Being Skinny and not curvy"

I believe that this issue should be discussed. It is a very important issue and thousands of teens face this and believe me it is NOT easy. It kinda is a part of bullying. I don't really know a whole lot about bullying but what i know, i got to know by Singer/Actress Demi Lovato.
I really think you should cover this topic.
Best of luck !

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    Jan 16 2014: Fareeha,
    You write...."I really think you should cover this topic". How about helping us cover the topic? It sounds like you may know quite a bit about it?

    I believe pressure to be skinny CAN be bullying, depending on the form of the pressure. Whatever one chooses to call it, bullying or pressure, it is up to the individual to make the choice regarding his/her weight.
    To make a well informed choice, it is important to be confident with oneself, and believe in oneself.....just as we are.

    If we do not get the appropriate nutrients for the body, it is not healthy, and in my perception, healthy is much more desirable than skinny. I agree with Robert....no one can make us feel bad about ourselves without our permission. People can try to pressure or bully us all they want...it is up to us as individuals regarding how the pressure influences us, and that comes with knowing ourselves.

    What is important to you? Doing what someone pressures you into? Or making informed choices for your "self"?
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    Jan 16 2014: Fareeha, The media has sold the general public a bill of goods that to be one of the beautiful people you must be young skinny and built. Lies. Those are the types that the camera loves for movies and models. Being 6 foot tall and weighing 100 pounds is not even healthy.

    So here is advice from a old guy.

    1. Know and accept who and what you are
    2. Put a sign over your door: RETURN WITH HONOR
    3. Keep $50 in your purse so you can leave any time you want ... take a cab
    4. Get an education so you are not dependent on any one.
    5. Don't settle .. the right person for you is out there ... its worth the wait
    6. Family is forever .. the one you have .. and the one you will start

    Remember: No one can make you feel bad about yourself without your permission.

    I wish you well. Bob.
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    Jan 15 2014: what if someone wants you to be skinny because they think you will feel better and look better, they have your interests at heart, then are they bullying?
  • Jan 14 2014: No need to be perfect. There's a need to be healthy. I think you just need to eat healthier and exercise. Your body will take care of the rest itself
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    Jan 20 2014: Skinny is not perfect.
    Contentment is perfect.
    “Anything you hate, you attract to yourself that you may learn to overcome that prejudice”- Paramahansa Yogananda
    "Nobody can hurt me without my permission"- Mahatma Gandhi
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    Jan 15 2014: Bullying is the problem, wanting people to loose weight is not the problem. Loosing weight is a subject that should be approached the same way as improving grades - the victim originally feels dumb because they are failing, gets help, works hard, and it's all good. People make fun of people for many reasons, and people shouldn't be made fun of, but they should also actively work towards a healthy weight and confidence, and less time on "flaunt your curves" campaigns.