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What's your dream and are you going to give up?

One of my teachers told me that dreams can not be fulfilled and goals are the ones that you can achieve. But, I want to expostulate him by fulfilling my dream. My dream is to launch rockets as an aerospace scientist. What's your dream? I want this conversation to be a place for everyone to propose their dream.

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  • Jan 21 2014: I dream to live forever.
    So far, so good.
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    Jan 21 2014: What do you think your teacher was trying to say, Jihyun? To me, a dream might be something that very, very few people get to do, such as be a rock music star performer, or be a professional basketball player. A goal might be something that is more common, such as to be a good teacher, or policeman. Now how hard is it to be an aerospace scientist, it's a pretty high goal but not as high as being a famous star. What do you think it takes to be an aerospace scientist? Have you demonstrated that you have what it takes, have you taken science courses, and have you gotten good grades in them? In that case, maybe being an aerospace scientist is not a dream for you, it is a realistic goal. But if you haven't taken any science courses, or you haven't gotten good grades, maybe it's just a dream?
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      Jan 24 2014: .
      Sounds like it becomes a dream the moment you cannot achieve it? That is a poor vision of dreaming my friend.

      PS: If this would be true we would only be able to distinguish our dreams from our goals at the end of our life. So what is the point of this distinction between goals and dreams anyway? Just dream (a lot) and set your goals without to much thinking if it is a dream or a goal. And if you work, dream, fail, think, try again, live, ... hard enough you are already guaranteed that the journey will be worth taken!
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        Jan 25 2014: maybe a dream when the chances are small that you can achieve it? Or you haven't demonstrated much of the skill or talent that will help you achieve it?

        well, yours would be one approach to life, Dries, but it could be exhausting. What about thinking of a goal, or outcome, that you would like, and then asking yourself if realistically you have a pretty good chance of doing it, and what would it take to achieve it? However, one could shoot for unrealistic things, but maybe think about the consequences of failure. For example, you could shoot for being a rock music star, but if you fail, perhaps as you try to become a star you will still become a working musician and have a decent life.
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          Jan 25 2014: .
          I got your point from the beginning Greg, thank you. And yes it is a very good way to approach life. Small and realistic goals, lead to small and realistic change (without to much of disappointment). And all the big change in the world always start with small change so ... .
          But it sounds as if you are afraid of failure. Don't be afraid of failure. Every time that happens to me bad things evolve from it. (To stay on topic one of my dreams/goals is probably overcome my fear of failure completely) I would recommend J.K. Rowling her talk on this. Fear of failure is an obstacle for dreams as well as for goals!

          I wish you a lot of success with all your goals ahead Greg!
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        Jan 26 2014: well, dries, a realistic goal doesn't necessarily have to be small. If you're a young Albert Einstein, your goal might be to really change the field of physics, and that might be realistic. However, if you're less talented than Einstein, you might have to create a smaller goal?
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      Jan 24 2014: Here is a short example of another point I would be able to clarify.

      A boy (10 years old) dreams of running 40 km. He gets quiet good at running and on the age of 14 it becomes a goal. Suddenly at the age of 16 both his arms and one leg got crushed in a car accident so his goal becomes a dream again. At the age of 30 he reaches the finish line and gets confused (goal or dream), afterwards he thinks back at what he had read on the 21th of January 2014 by Greg Dahlen on ted.