Poch Peralta

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Ross Macdonald said 'A debutante ball is the closest thing we have to slave markets.' Do you agree?

In Manila, even the lower classes practice this ball and I don't see why not.
'A debutante (from the French débutante, "female beginner") is a girl or young lady from an aristocratic or upper class family who has reached the age of maturity and, as a new adult, is introduced to society at a formal "debut" presentation. Originally, it meant the young woman was eligible to marry, and part of the purpose was to display her to eligible bachelors and their families with a view to marriage within a select upper class circle...'
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Debutante

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    Jan 10 2014: In societies where women only have rights for themselves and their children within the frame of marriage, i.e., subject to the perspective and the rights of the husband, then yes I agree with the comparison.
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      Jan 10 2014: Great explanation Marj.
      Though it would be redundant if ask you if that society is acceptable.
  • Jan 14 2014: In the US, I believe that the "Debutante Balls" are now considered an experience and a party. It is not the "coming out" nor the method to meet the opposite sex that it once was. There are cultures that still cling to that approach but they seem to be declining. The International Debutante Ball in New York city has seen a decline of debutantes and number of people attending. Interviewing the debutantes, the NY Times seemed to indicate that they thought of it as a very expensive party.
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      Jan 14 2014: Well, if "Debutante Ball" is only for the aristocrats or upper class
      as it originally was, then it's better if it becomes history or transformed for all classes.
      The NY Times was right to indicate it as a very expensive party. Wikipedia's definition of
      'debutante':
      'A debutante (from the French débutante, "female beginner") is a girl or young lady from
      an aristocratic or upper class family who has reached the age of maturity...'
      • Jan 14 2014: It was also a coming out or a "ceremony" for adulthood for the women. I do not think it does those functions today.
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    Jan 10 2014: Poch, This is hard to answer. There are so many things that are wrong in regards to young women and their rights. But I judge those rights based on the standard I was raised within (the USA).

    There are arranged marriages ... indentured servitude .... and even dowry systems .. each having their own form of the family "selling off" a daughter for various reasons.

    How about professional sports. Teams buy sell and trade "people". Sure they get paid but it is a sort of a meat market. I could easily connect the professional players draft with a debutant ball.

    Now the big question ... is it slavery? If my culture thinks it is then it is to me. Can I impose my cultures taboos to another culture. Sure I can but does it make it right. If for centuries the people of XYZ have sold their daughters to the person who offers the most cattle ... I say it is wrong. XYZ says it is custom.

    Would you say that the Senior Dance is a form of a Debutantes Ball?

    If I were to judge ... I would say that professional sports are the closest .... they openly buy, sell, and trade human beings.

    All of this is dependent upon the cultural outlook of the person you ask.

    Thanks Poch .... you always make me think .... thanks for that.

    I wish you well. Bob.
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      Jan 10 2014: I can't believe you find this hard Bob! lol

      'How about professional sports. Teams buy sell and trade "people"...'
      But it's rare that you trade your own son or daughter in sports deals.

      'All of this is dependent upon the cultural outlook of the person you ask...'
      Yes Bob. It seems that's the bottom line.

      And I thank you for appreciating my questions sir.