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What job do you think, makes one a better person?

I once read an article about job resumes as personal biographies. But now I am wondering about how jobs actually mould and define a person, and charts how his/her life will turn out. So what kind of job would you think, is the best to prepare oneself to face the world / to grow into the best person one could be?

[Edited] What kind of values/experiences should we look to develop?

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    Jan 8 2014: Lee, If we could eliminate the word tough it would help to address your concerns. As I see them it is 1) How do jobs mold and define a person 2) what kind of job would you think, is the best to prepare oneself to face the world and 3) to grow into the best person one could be?

    Addressing them one at a time:

    1. Many jobs require profile testing for specific requirements. Military / police / fire / etc .. expose you to certain environments that require specific skills and demands. Those are present prior to seeking employment.

    2. Again your life experiences prepare you for the world ... Some are physical, cerebral, sedentary, which may fit in with the "world" they live in but not the world in general.

    3. We spend 8 hours a day at the job ... but your life is not necessarily your occupation. If I am a machine gunner I try not to take my work home with me. You grow into the best you can be by a combination of all life experiences, culture, religion, ethics, morals, hobbies, nurturing, caring, loving, etc ....

    The "job" allows us to provide the basics of life and the means to experience "life" at many levels. We take jobs at the ages of 18 plus .... by then we are pretty much who we are.

    Be well. Bob.
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    Jan 8 2014: I honestly think that it's worth experiencing an extremely labor-intensive job (preferably low paying), as it generally is quite a humbling experience which should provide for a different perspective on life. Besides labor-intensive jobs, it's worth experiencing a job as a cashier, bartender, waiter, or other similar customer-driven professions. These jobs will help broaden one's horizons and change one's temperament towards individuals who work in similar fields.

    Overall, I don't think that one needs to be a "tougher" person. Rather, it's optimal to be a "better" person. For instance, since working for nearly 12 years in the shipping industry (customer-driven and extremely labor-intensive), I can truly empathize with individuals from all walks of life. I know what it's like to do brutal, exhausting work, and I also know what it's like to have to put on a positive exterior and remain optimistic against all odds. In other words, I will never forget what it's like to work a physically demanding job for minimum wage.
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    Jan 21 2014: Become involved in raising children and learn from them.
  • Jan 11 2014: Dear all,

    Thank you for your comments. I guess my question was quite misleading, and I meant "better" instead of "tougher". (Already amended and edited my question). Thank you all, for pointing that out!

    Let me elaborate for abit. I like to read biographies of people/ ask people about their lives, cos I like to understand how they reached the point that they did in life. And I wondered about success & failures, how employers "judge" you by your resume, which is somewhat like a "biography" about your life.

    A working adult spends 8-10 hours everyday of your life, working in a job, which most likely will not be the only job you take in life. And I believe every job you take, it gives you experiences & lessons that grooms you to become a different person? (Usually, you grow?)

    And like most people, I want to become a better person.

    That's why I wondered if any of you out there had an opinions of a job that optimises your potential to become a better person?

    From some your comments (& my personal experience), I believe working in the service industry is a good option cos it teaches you empathy?

    But I guess we should start with, what kind of values/experiences should we look to develop?

    Any kind opinions?

    Thanks! :)
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      Jan 14 2014: I think perhaps one of the most important values/experiences is a greater sense of perspective on the "bigger picture." What I mean by this is that it is extremely important to develop a full sense of how we all make meaningful contributions to our society, and to appreciate the contributions that everyone makes, regardless of the career path that one chooses.

      As a personal side-note, given that I am now working in the management sector (at the previously mentioned shipping industry), I've noticed that many of the upper-level managers lack this "big picture" perspective. Instead, many of them look down upon those who are not perceived as being at their "level." In reality, the majority of my life lessons were learned from the collective wisdom of janitors and union workers (who have been lugging around customer merchandise for 20+ years of their lives), yet most of the "higher ups" in the management sector don't even acknowledge these employees.

      Sadly, the mentality of these upper-level managers extends beyond just my place of employment. It is very easy for us to lose sight of the contributions that everyone makes, and to not fully appreciate the roles that everyone plays in society. Sometimes we get upset when a waiter/waitress is not prompt with their service, we throw a fit of rage while driving when we are stuck behind a bus, garbage truck, or tractor trailer, or we raise our voices over the phone at customer service representatives. In all of these cases, we generally lack a greater sense of perspective and fail to see the "big picture."
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    Jan 8 2014: You are more than your job and who would be sure what life will turn out eventually?Job does not OFFER you what you need to face the world, but rather what you can learn in the work you do and I wouldn't limit learning to it.
  • Jan 8 2014: I think meditation and self knowledge is the best way to prepare yourself to face the world.
    • Jan 11 2014: Hi Jacob Warren, thank you for you opinions! So essentially, you think that a higher sense of self-awareness can prepare oneself to face the world? I agree that self-awareness is important - it helps one to know & understand one's strengths & limitations, to develop & optimise one's potential, am I right?

      And also, may you provide some kind tips on understanding oneself (self-awareness)?

      Thank you! :)
      • Jan 11 2014: It seems to have helped me, but I guess I shouldn't speak for others. Self awareness has given me a bit more self control than I used to have. It also gave me perspective on what I valued and how I was reacting to people. The fact that I would react without thinking seemed to feel like people had a certain amount of power over me and that never set well with me. I try to act intentionally in every situation instead of REacting, though I still have a long way to go. I'm not sure we can really know anyond else until we know ourselves first. I tell you what, knowing that any fault I can find in others can also be found in me gives me more patience than I've ever had.
  • Jan 8 2014: I think you would have to clarify what you mean by tougher. My brother and father are both firefighters, and they are changed by the things they see and do. Soldiers always seem to come back from war changed, but what is tougher? Willingness to put yourself in dangerous situations? Boxers seem pretty tough, but is that a preparation to face the world? I don know.
  • Jan 8 2014: Hi Lee Yi Wen,from my experience,I think it doesn't matter what job you do,but the really matter is:no matter what job you are gonna do,you always can enjoy doing it,that's surely can make one a tougher person:).
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    Jan 8 2014: does a job really prepare you to face the world? I would think a job is first about meeting your basic needs--food, chothing, and shelter. I would think the best job is where you are the most self-sufficient, providing as many of your basic needs as possible. Thus I would pick farmer because you are producing your own food, and food is humanity's, and any living creature's, first need.