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Yijia Chen

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Is today the same as yesterday and will be the same as tomorrow?How do you see the amazing every day?

I recently read a book called BY THE RIVER PIEDRA I SAT DOWN AND WEPT by Paulo Coeclo.And one paragraph of it made me think.

"Every day,God gives us the sun-and also one moment in which we have the ability to change everything that makes us unhappy.Every day,we try to pretend that we haven't perceived that moment,that it doesn't exist-that today is the same as yesterday and will be the same as tomorrow.But if people really pay attention to their everyday life,they will discover that magic moment.It may arrive in the instant when we are doing something mundane,like putting our front door key in the lock;it may lie hidden in the quiet that follows the lunch hour or in the thousand and one things that all seem the same to us.But that moment exists-a moment when all the power of the stars becomes a part of us and enables us to perform miracles.

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    Jan 30 2014: Today is a day to remember:last day in 2013 according to Chinese calender.Next day will be the first in the Horse Year.Happy Chinese New Year!And happy every day.
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      Jan 30 2014: Thanks Yijia! Happy Chinese New Year, and Happy Everyday to you too my friend:>)
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    Jan 24 2014: Hello Yijia Chen:>)
    I perceive every new day as a new opportunity to learn, grow and expand what I think I know at this time. I see every new day as the first day of the rest of my life, and it could be the last day as well:>)

    This day has never "been" before, and will never "be" again, therefor it is the only reality. Yesterday is the past, and tomorrow is the future, which is not yet a reality.

    Once we have determined what the day will be like, (often based on past experiences), we create our reality. When we are open to the adventure in every moment, we may discover all kinds of new things.....call it magic....miracles....whatever.....I call it a very natural process by which we allow ourselves to be fully open to life....paying attention, as you insightfully say Yijia....being mindful in each moment:>)

    If we perceive that things are going to be the same every day, that is how we will perceive the life adventure. If we genuinely explore life with curiosity, we may discover all kinds of new opportunities:>)

    "The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes...."
    (Marcel Proust)
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      Jan 26 2014: I love the quote you addressed.
      I add the following: And even life itself doesn't seem a voyage in which you can see landscapes,even the reality is cruel and far from ideal,we should always have new eyes.
      A quote by Sarah Kay came to my mind just now.
      "No matter how many landmines erupt in a minute,be sure to land on the beauty of this funny place called life."
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        Jan 26 2014: Hi Yijia,
        Life, to me, is an adventure....ups and downs....hills and valleys....it is what it is....

        If one is looking for all "ideal" situations, we may not be living in the moment, because what we perceive to be "ideal" is usually based on a thought, feeling, idea or expectation which probably is our preference. However, life does not always evolve in the way we might prefer. When we let go of our ideal preferences as expectations, we experience the reality of the life adventure on another level.

        I love your quote too Yijia....Life indeed is a funny place with beauty all around us. What we focus on expands, and I try to focus on the learning, growth and beauty:>)

        Another one that I love to use for a guide, which sometimes puts things in perspective...
        "Grant me the serenity to accept things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference"

        And another reminder....
        "Out of its abysses, unpredictable life emerges, with a never-ending procession of miracles, crises, healing and growth. When I realize this once again, I see the absurdity of my belief that I can understand, predict and control life. All I can really do is go along for the ride with as much consciousness and love as I can muster in the moment"
        (Molly Young Brown)
  • Jan 8 2014: Hi YiJia Chen,full of love in my heart makes me feel amazed everyday in my life.I learn to cherish everything I have in my life now,I keep gratitude in my heart whenever what thing I am doing:cooking for family,having classes for students,talking to people around,seeing grasses growing everyday around the road I walk everyday to school...
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    Jan 21 2014: "But love is much like a dam: if you allow a tiny crack to form through which
    only a trickle of water can pass, that trickle will quickly bring down the whole
    structure, and soon no one will be able to control the force of the current.
    For when those walls come down, then love takes over, and it no longer matters
    what is possible or impossible; it doesn't even matter whether we can keep the
    loved one at our side. To love is to lose control.
    No, no, I cannot allow such a crack to form. No matter how small."

    From the book of Paolo, BY THE RIVER PIEDRA I SAT DOWN AND WEPT, page 23.
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    Jan 21 2014: The same as what? Apart from words and memories, nothing is the same. To see sameness, one looks through memory, phrases. To see that something is the same or not, one needs to measure, to compare. To compare, is to create dissatisfaction, because comparison is biased, you choose one side over the other. These are the roots of the suffering mind, the birth of self-consciousness. You compare against another, and the outcome? Comparison creates division, me on one side and everything else on the other side. On the other side of what? Of me, of course. Everything lives on the other side of me, that is why I feel separate from the rest of the world, on a precipice. And from the precipice, I live in the divide, like-dislike manner, "torn between two lovers."

    Being self-conscious, makes you separate from the experience. Being in the experience, losing self-consciousness (not consciousness) opens the door to the deeper recesses of the mind, a vast and timeless experience that is immeasurable, hence magic, thus unknowable by the self-conscious, biased and divided mind. You will discover here the taste in tasting, the smell in smelling, the walk in walking, the sight in seeing, the kiss in kissing. Memory cannot enter here, expectation cannot enter here for this is the place to be reached through the gate of death, which is the door to life. Time stands still and life unfolds with no source nor destination. Death is abound and so is living for living is dying, one movement of embrace between birth and death. Thus every manifestation is complete in the perpetual dance of living and dying. Except he who enter here cannot return, so one must leave all regrets behind, all aspirations behind, all hopes behind. One must die to all that. Then. the gate to living is opened, and the magic unfolds, and one becomes a child, innocent, and Love struck. This moment, is Eternal, timeless, selfless. This is true for me.
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      Jan 24 2014: Thank you,Johnny.
      Beautiful words.
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    Jan 8 2014: Well, one good way to see amazing things day by day is to take every problem one step at a time, to solve many problems you will have to ask more than one question, talk to more than one person, and you can't go around it, you have to do each of these things to get to the big solution.

    I doubt that a moment comes every day where you can solve all your problems. Solving problems is generally a slow, dutiful process, step by step, gathering info, connecting with help. Each problem takes times and energy, and when you solve one, another will come to take its place.
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      Jan 8 2014: And it turns out,what is the amazing you see?Is it trivial things?
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        Jan 8 2014: well, the amazing for me, Yijia, is seeing the problem get solved and the solution is a wonderful solution. And you learn so many interesting things while you are trying to solve the problem. But again, I am sure you know this, magic does not solve problems, to solve a problem you have to think what you are going to do, what knowledge you need, what people you need to talk to and what you need to say to them, and sometimes you have to talk to people who you are afraid of, or sometimes you have to say things to them that you are afraid to say, but you have to have courage and do it anyway if you are going to solve the problem. Do you agree?
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          Jan 9 2014: That make sense,greg.Then what was the problem you solved last time?
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        Jan 9 2014: well, Yijia, when I lived in Los Angeles, I had a problem with noisy neighbors, I was living in an apartment and they were playing music on their devices very frequently, and the music was coming into my apartment through the walls and bothering me. So I decided to fight this noise. One way I did it is by getting the laws from the city regarding noise, I do not know how it is in China, but in America most cities have a section of their city laws where they say how much noise is allowed, and what kind of noise, and what noise and level of noise is not allowed, and any person can obtain a copy of these laws. So I studied this law. I asked questions about any part of the law I did not understand. The Los Angeles Police Department has one unit, or sub-department, that only deals with noise problems, and they were able to help me understand any points of the noise law that were complicated. Then, after I knew the noise law, I could assess the amount of noise my neighbors were making. When I knew they were violating the law and making too much noise, I could go to them and ask them to reduce the noise, in this case the music volume. Most of the time they were willing to turn the music volume down, or turn it off. Occasionally they would get mad at me, they would scream at me, or slam the door in my face, but even in those cases after they slammed the door, they would still turn the noise down once they were inside. So it worked out, and I enjoyed many hours of quiet. But it did take some courage, when someone is playing music it can be very difficult to ask them to turn down the volume.

        Sometimes when I asked people to turn down the music volume they would refuse. In that case I would ask the police to come, and they would get the people to turn down the volume. I had to ask the police because the management and ownership of the apartment building had refused to help me with this issue.