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Is it better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all?

I think the question is self-explanatory, and am curious what your own answer is on this age-old dilemma! Personal anecdotes are purely optional.

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    Jan 7 2014: Can I just say before I answer this THAT YOUR QUESTION IS BEAUTIFUL AND I LOVE IT.
    Okay, now.
    It is most certainly, absolutely, a 100% BETTER to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all (from my own perspective having dealt with loss before) because:
    Let's suppose you fell in love with a person, however; those feelings were unrequitted
    (a): You experience both peaks of sadness and happiness.
    (b): Your sadness and pain serve as a commemoration of your previous happiness.
    (c): It helps you grow, and surprisingly enough it makes you capable of letting go of whatever it is you've been clinging to, getting over loss, and embracing your pain. Eventually it gives you hope.

    Besides what tasteless and tedious life would it be to never have loved at all?
    • Jan 10 2014: Reem,
      Let me say first, I love your answer!!

      The phrase that keeps popping into my mind about never loving at all is "Ignorance is bliss".
      Never knowing what love is means never knowing what it's like to lose it... Pretty impossible if you're an inhabitant of planet earth though.

      As long as we're on the subject of cliches, how about this one: "You don't know what you've got till it's gone". Does anyone feel this applies to lost love?
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        Jan 10 2014: There is a beautiful quote by Khalil Gibran that goes like this:

        “Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.”

        I believe that this sometimes applies in lost love. Sometimes, though. And not always.
        Really it depends on the circumstances. I see this applies in cases where people take things for granted and eventually let it all slip away. And it is only when they really lose their beloved ones that they realize their true value.

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