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Singer Songwriter & Vocal Coach, Lizanne Hennessey - Voice Coach


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Is it better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all?

I think the question is self-explanatory, and am curious what your own answer is on this age-old dilemma! Personal anecdotes are purely optional.


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    Jan 10 2014: You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else
    • Jan 10 2014: I would definitely agree, Freeman!
      That being so, how would you answer the question?
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        Jan 10 2014: If we do not experience emotions, who are we? Scientifically/philosophically speaking, we are creatures of sensory perceptions. Depending on what stance you choose in the nature vs. nurture debate, I believe we recieve all or most knowledge from the environment. Interacting with this environment of which we are born in, is the only way to experience the magnificence of humanity. With this being said, in order to understand this beauty, it is paramount to expose yourself to every spectrum of love, hate, anger, laughter, hope, joy etc. To appreciate the highs you have to go through the lows. And with love being the Mt. Everest of highs, how could you not want to participate in that?
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      Jan 10 2014: I wholeheartedly agree Freeman. We cannot give away something that we do not genuinely have in and for our "self":>)

      The challenge with this idea, is that some folks think this is selfish. Love includes respect, compassion, empathy, understanding, patience, curiosity, etc. If we do not have these qualities for ourselves, we do not know how to share them with others.

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