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Poch Peralta

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Can you Really Love Your Enemies?

Will the world be a better place if everyone does that? Or will it cause criminals to multiply and be worse?

'Babylonian law put an end to this. Assuming you were of the same social rank as the person you injured, the punishment had to fit the crime: an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth.

'This principle, as barbaric as it may seem today, was an important step forward for civilization. A further advance was made by Jesus and Buddha, who both, according to Robert Thurman, Professor of Buddhist Studies at Columbia University, embraced the philosophy of love your enemy...'


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    Jan 2 2014: I think in most cases, it's not necessary to love your enemy or hate him. The best is to react logically and reasonably.
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      Jan 2 2014: To react logically and reasonably is an excellent choice Yoka.
      But what if the offender continually repeats his offense? You will have to do something else then.
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        Jan 2 2014: I know what you mean, I've met this kind of people before too. I think if it's too much out of line, you can react reasonably by turning to the law enforcement agencies. The point is if it's convenient and not costly for you to sue others in your country. You should collect some evidence.
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          Jan 2 2014: And that is the best and last option -- without hating.
          Kudos Yoka!
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        Jan 3 2014: Yes, being sensible instead of emotinal. Hate harms your health. Or you can just tell the person you're going to sue him to stop him doing foolish things.
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          Jan 3 2014: 'Hate harms your health...'
          Absolutely true. It feeds cancer cells. Whenever I drink liquor and someone
          makes me angry, I feel terrible the next morning. The offending person is the
          poison, not alcohol.
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          Jan 3 2014: I wholeheartedly agree Yoka....hate harms our health. I believe it produces a blockage of energy, that could otherwise flow through us...contributing to good emotional and physical health......good point Yoka!

          How can someone "make" you angry? Do you choose how you feel, act and react, or do you give the power to another person to "make" you feel something?
      • Jan 7 2014: Niccolo Machiavelli said that one should strike his enemy in a way that is so severe that the mere thought of revenge should send shivers down his spine.

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