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Elson Tong

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The ripple effect?

What is your opinion on the fact that one kind deed leads to another?
Is kindness an action, a word, what do you think think it is? How do you think the ripple effect will change the world? Personally I feel that the ripple effect exists, but the consequences of the kind acts anyone does has a high chance of being 'stagnant', and the effect would be lost. What are your views?

Thank you all very much for your replies. It is greatly appreciated. So, from what I understand, if a person is kind, heshe would affect everyone around their life. Because of the actions they would do, or the words they would say BECAUSE they are kind. True, these people may not have a huge impact on the world, but their actions make this world a better place, bit by bit. However, my other question is, what about the people who commit evil and take advantage of such kind people? Actually, this is the reason why I think 'kind' people do not actually dare to be kind, in the fear of being cheated. For example, in my country, there are con men, who claim they raise money for education for poor children, when in reality, they are stealing the money for themselves. This created a sense of wariness among people who wants to donate and do good, as they fear they would be wasting their money. How do we know our money will not be embezzled by such people, even in legitimate charity organizations? This is only one aspect of kindness, but I see it as one of the major problems. What are your opinions on this?

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    Jan 7 2014: Hi Elson,
    I wholeheartedly agree with the idea of the ripple effect....one deed leads to another, and in that way we can keep the ripple moving:>)

    You say...."Personally I feel that the ripple effect exists, but the consequences of the kind acts anyone does has a high chance of being 'stagnant', and the effect would be lost. What are your views?"

    In my perception, one who extends kindness, is getting as much good from the act as the one to whom the kindness is directed. Whether or not the intended recipient accepts the kindness is THEIR choice, and the act still creates an energy that is felt by at least the person who is giving.

    If we are attached to a particular outcome (expectation), the giver could be disappointed. If we give unconditionally, nothing is "stagnant", nor is anything "lost". Just because it is not accepted, does not mean the energy of the act is lost.....make any sense?

    Your other question....
    " what about the people who commit evil and take advantage of such kind people? Actually, this is the reason why I think 'kind' people do not actually dare to be kind, in the fear of being cheated."

    In the example you provide....con men stealing money for themselves under the guise of collecting for a good cause....
    I suggest doing some research on the organization BEFORE contributing money. Information is readily available for major charitable organizations.

    The ripple effect also happens with behaviors that are not so good, and we sometimes call this the "mob mentality".

    I think/feel the important thing is to "know thyself", choose what kind of a "ripple" we want to make, and be as informed as possible about organizations we are contributing to.

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