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What is the best way a student can make his/her education less stressful?

Hello Everyone,
I am preparing a presentation regarding the challenges faced by students in institutions providing higher education (Universities/Colleges). This talk is aimed at High School students looking to successfully complete their final year and apply to their preferred programs.

Each year, students attend presentations by recruiters from various Universities/Colleges to help them make an informed choice about their future. Students receive all sorts of information about academics, social life and other services provided by each respective institution. Yet, not much is ever said of the negative experiences. I want to bring topics such as; stress, "freshman 15", test anxiety and failure to the table. Tackling these issues early is the best way to prevent them. I am looking for any suggestions the TED community has to offer!

The biggest challenge Students face in Universities today is Stress and stress related conditions. What are your thoughts on tackling this issue?

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  • Dec 28 2013: Keep it simple.. Figure out what your passion is.. do that..
  • Dec 27 2013: Believe in yourself. I'm on my second degree and I have lots of strategy's to cope with stress but the one thing that gets me every time (and I'm just recovering from a recent blast of it) is a lack of self-belief. As others have commented we need to teach people at every level of their education that their best is good enough and as long as we've tried our best than that's enough. Unfortunately the education system I have experience of in the UK doesn't build you up for this. My son is regularly told by teachers his best is not good enough which is very damaging. Maybe we need to add more room for creativity of interpretation?
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      Dec 27 2013: I agree with you that his best should be good enough for a kid to feel good about his effort but, in fact, even demanding that someone is always doing his best puts pressure on, as it is unrealistic. The fact is that none of us, regardless of our standards for ourselves, does her best every time.

      If your son is regularly told by teachers that his actual best is not good enough, which I interpret to mean is not adequate to pass the class he is taking, you might consider talking with the school to modify his class placement so his best leads to success.

      Sometimes a teacher may be teaching an honors class, for example, and students are assigned there who are not best served by a placement there. It is damaging to a kid's self-esteem to be placed in a class in which he cannot succeed even with his best effort. It is heartbreaking, I know.
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        Dec 28 2013: well, that certainly held me back when I was a lot younger... I DOUBTED myself. Was or wasn't I good enough? Am I suppose to be here? Those were the questions. Worse, my teachers did NOT NOTICE what I am really GOOD at because all OPPORTUNITIES GO to those have HIGHER QPA'S than me.

        So, WHAT DID I DO? DO MY BEST ON EXTRA CURRICULAR STUFF... IT WORKED. FOR ME.
    • Dec 31 2013: Me thinks a couple of pieces of cotton for his ears would help
      before he talks with the nasty teacher.
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    Dec 25 2013: Being a college student, I think that stress comes from many different things, such as peer pressure, family pressure, and self-blaming. Thus, there are also several ways to reduce stress depended on different origins of stress. For example, if one is stressful because of peer pressure, he can try some meditation and find his position in the world instead of the position compared to others.
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      Dec 27 2013: Thank you Mingkun, you are right to say stress is something composed of many different aspects of life. To tackle each one, students must develop regular techniques to normalize their bodies mentally and physically. Many other TED users are suggesting de-stressing techniques such as meditation as you said and also other social activities including; working out, spending time with friends etc.
      • Dec 31 2013: Ibthaj Khilji -- You are what you eat.
        Leave the medication alone, and those who sponsor such thoughts.
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    Dec 25 2013: I am still a student, so I can relate to what you are talking about, the 'stress' factor. Stress is something that you should let them feel in some amounts, to drive and motivate them, letting them feel the pressure of needing to complete a task in school. However, it is too important to 'destress' so as to speak. Activities such as physical exercise (gyming, playing sports), reading, hanging out with your friends, are various ways to destress and feel more relaxed after exams, or a hard day of studying. Getting plenty of sleep is also important, letting the mind rest and absorb the information gained from studying. Let them know that stress is a definite factor in their upcoming lives, but everyone knows how they feel so they are not alone. Finding friends and coping with the stressful period together is also an extremely efficient way of preventing a student from becoming 'overstressed'. Hope this helped!
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      Dec 27 2013: Thank you Elson, this is exactly what I'm looking for...I will make sure to include all of the major points you have mentioned above.
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    Dec 25 2013: These are my two cents that I think may make students study with less stress.

    1. With interests. Let them learn what they are interested in and want to learn.
    2.Tell them why they should learn some basic things and let them understand the necessity.
    3. Have fewer exams to evaluate their ability of doing things with multi-evaluation system, let them have the aspiration to take the test to know how well they have mastered something.
    4. Give students enough time to play. Play when playing , study when studying.
    5.More interesting games and social activities.
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      Dec 27 2013: Thank you Yoka, I really agree with your first point. Having interest in your area of studies I think is an essential part of the solution. Your second point is also very valid, its very important for students to realize that "Schooling" is a future oriented task.
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        Dec 27 2013: Thank you for your feedback. Hope you will enjoy your university life with your interests and a lot of fun as well as learn all kinds of knowledge and skills without boresome.
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    Dec 31 2013: Stress is a reaction to an uncomfortable situation. If I could re-do college, I'd make sure I pick majors revolved around topics I'm most passionate about. 'Stress' would then no longer be painful. Instead, deadlines, exams, oral presentations would be exciting! Stress would then simply be a misnomer for 'anticipation', that exciting feeling for creating a beautiful outcome. One of my favorite poets, Kahlil Gibran, nailed it for me in 'The Prophet' on the topic 'Work': "Work is love made visible. And if you cannot work with love but only with distaste, it is better that you should leave your work and sit at the gate of the temple and take alms of those who work with joy." Students are more likely to get things done extraordinarily well and rather stress-free if they're assigned or having to do something that quenches their thirst for knowledge on a topic they're most passionate about. If a student has a good work ethic and excellent attitude, they'll most likely succeed in life irrespective of what major their parents require of them. So, why not let a student choose studies along the lines of their passion and run with it? Don't get me wrong, all students need mentorship and guidance on pretty much everything! But this way time management, structure, priorities (to party, or not to party) will all fall into place more naturally if the student is following his or her passion!
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      Dec 31 2013: I don't think studying something you love necessarily makes examinations and deadlines stress free. I have known many people who pursued subjects about which they were passionate and felt stress in the course of their studies. Further, one can feel stress in relation to many things and people about whom one is passionate.
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        Dec 31 2013: I think following one's passion makes one feel much less stress due to time management and prioritization falling into place more easily and naturally compared to having to do something one feel's distaste towards, which often leads to procrastination and, in turn, more stress.
        Time management and prioritizing tasks is essential to any given situation. Giving yourself time to tackle the task at hand as early as possible can increase confidence and decrease stress. And practicing doing that over and over can eventually create a good habit, which then can decrease your level of stress overall. I know, it's much easier said than done, but biting the bullet, accepting the responsibility AND reality of the task at hand, and just practicing at repeating that cycle over and over again will help a great deal!
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          Dec 31 2013: I agree with your second paragraph. One reason I know following ones passion does not eliminate or even necessarily mitigate stress at school is that perfectionists, for example, experience more stress about things that matter to them more.

          It still makes sense to study what one is passionate about, despite the stresses that may be involved. I did this, as did both my daughters. I am sorry you did not have that experience in your schooling, but it is never to late to study what interests you, perhaps outside of an institutional setting.
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    Dec 30 2013: What is stress ?
    Stress is an individual's reaction to a situation he is not capable of dealing with.
    Applied to your question, you should first figure out what exactly your stress factors are. What are the situations you have problems dealing with ?
    Once you identify them you can start looking how to remedy the situation.
    • Dec 31 2013: Or, Harald, you can forget about the situation causing Stress.

      Too many negative ideas given to students cause them to become
      distracted from learning.

      Students will do almost anything to refrain from studying as the method
      used to learn.

      As long as Daddy or Mommy or the Government Lender foots the bill,
      any excuse will do, Stress is but one.

      Put that student to work for his education and things quickly change.
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        Dec 31 2013: Contributing to his own education is certainly a good incentive.
        "Students will do almost anything to refrain from studying as the method
        used to learn. "
        If that is the case, then probably something is wrong with the method.
  • Dec 28 2013: I didn't find out I was studying wrong until I was in the Navy, I was straighten out in twenty minutes. I carried a 70 avg. through high school, it was honor marks after that. The Navy Officer told me to study like reading Goldie Locks and the three bears the first time. Read it and note that the number three is important, read again getting the small items of the story filled in; by the time you read it the third time you could almost tell the story. I was trying to memorize all the material as a way of studying. Practice mock interviews to make you sharp. Get some good help with your resume' and keep it very short, one page would be great along with a cover page. Be yourself and there will be no stress, if you try to be something your are not chances of making mistakes will increase. Good luck.
    • Dec 31 2013: Stress is flying an airplane with no training. I did that, age 13.
      Stress is talking to your Uncle and trying to apologize for the
      bad landing, and the destruction to another airplane.
      Stress is knowing you may never have a second chance.

      There is no stress when prepared, when prepared to learn,
      when eager to learn.

      Only the unprepared suffer stress.
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    Dec 27 2013: Until education addresses the vastly different realities present and future students will face in their lifetimes, education today will be largely ill relevant. As the future will be vastly different than the past and education largely focuses on the past. Ken Robinson, Charles Siberman and David Orr have all addressed this conundrum most effectively. Where is the insight regarding our vastly changing realities reflected in most institutions of 'higher' learning. In my experience it's pretty none existent but rather they continue to teach to the past. A Faustian dilemma
    if there ever was one...
    • Dec 31 2013: There is History and Civics -- Oops, they don't call it that anymore.

      Ask Jay Leno. His On the Street queries show how smart today's
      students have become.

      University and College are gone.
      Replaced by Government sponsored Lab Rats and Alumni sponsored
      Footballers who need instant replay for moral activities, such as telling
      the truth about catching a ball.

      This is where the leaders of today came from.
      Never ending Wars. arrugh!
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    Dec 25 2013: Ibthaj,

    One of the biggest challenges students will face in higher education (for over a decade before an epidemic of anxiety takes place) will be technology itself. You are correct to state that students are stressed out, anxious... It will only be by students' mental exhaustion and fatigue that students will stop their neurosis.

    You might want to watch the TEDxPhoenixville presentation titled, "Breaking From From Technology" here on the TED.com website or via youtube.

    www.youtube.com/watch?v=C3u2VasrA4M

    I have been a college professor for seven years and can tell you that the situation is unlikely to get better due to the student's inabilities (not just students, by the way) to realize that NOBODY can be intellectually active for 15 hours a day without having some significant form of cognitive side effect. Checking your facebook, texting, visiting youtube pages, using the ipad for social media, typing college papers on a desktop are activities that consume human energy and cause stress. In another words, they can be defined as work activities that burn you out!

    The irony of this situation is that the antidote to the problem is the problem itself. Hope it helps with your project. Luis
    • Dec 31 2013: Luis, I must disagree --
      " by the way) to realize that NOBODY can be intellectually active for 15 hours a day without having some significant form of cognitive side effect. "

      I handicap horse-races, shoot billiards, drink booze, and play with women up to 15 hours a day.
      My neighbor smoked for 30 years and now has COPD. Hospitalized today.

      I haven't noticed any significant form of cognitive side effect. Am I looking in the right places?
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    Dec 25 2013: I would say that for a student that would be to be prepared in advance most of the time. Most of my stress issues , as a student, come from my being unprepared for something and them stooping away into a negative down slide. Also if one can engage in meditation, reflection or some calming techniques, it can can help a person mentally calm down. These will help a person concentrate better if a stressful situation occurs. If a person can learn to master their emotions, I believe the stressful situation can turn to something positive. It's mostly under extreme pressurized or stressful situations that humans get an extra bout of energy and do things extremely well.
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      Dec 27 2013: Yep, Yep Stress is the warning sign that goes off when you feel like you are going to fail. A lot of times this stress is attached to emotions and can be very detrimental physically and mentally. De-stressing techniques are very important and the idea behind self-reflection and meditation are very closely related to success. Thank you for your input, I will be sure to talk about de-stressing techniques in my talk.
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        Dec 28 2013: Thanks for your feed back. I'm glad it helped. Check out Amy Cuddy's talk - it's about power actions and while it's not directly related to the topic, I find it helps a lot.
    • Dec 31 2013: Bisma Zia

      You write well.
      "my stress issues , as a student, come from my being unprepared for something"
      Stop there. You have the answer completed.

      The "Boy Scout's" motto is to "Be Prepared". That is the answer.
      Nothing else is necessary.
  • Dec 25 2013: Stop being a student. Barring that, lay off the booze, learn to manage time, get enough sleep. Learn to manage time. Don't sweat romantic relationships, learn to manage time. The task is to complete the studies. Everything else is secondary. Learn to manage time.

    Did I mention learn to manage time?
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      Dec 27 2013: Time management, is by far the biggest factor...it is impossible to be a successful student without learning to manage your time.
  • Dec 25 2013: Let me offer my 2 cents from a utility and efficiency point of view.
    1. It is important to try your best NOT TO BE STRESSED for the competition into elite colleges/universities unless you believe that you are absolutely superior in intelligence and learning ability to over shadow 99% of the fellow applicants in a given college. Otherwise don't try to overstress yourself into a cut-throat competition in these colleges. Furthermore, if your financial conditions are not good and you have to take expensive loans to complete your education, say, from a private elite college, then you have to consider the probability of gambling between the possible gain by graduating from such elite college against the chance of either not able to finish or couldn't find a high enough paying job to be able to repay the loans quickly. You see, the competitors with money could not only be easier find a high paying job than you could, but also he/she has no loans to repay too. Moreover, there have been lot of successful people who graduated (or not graduated) from low-tuition colleges, such as the state universities. Anyway, KNOW YOURSELF, SO THAT TRY NOT TO OVERSTRESS YOURSELF BY AIMING AT ELITE COLLEGES UNLESS YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY SURE IN YOUR ABILITY TO SUCCEED.
    2. As to be better prepared to learning, one should start self training even before the 10th grade, by having a perseverance and relaxed learning habit, with the sole idea of that one should learn for the sake of LEARNING FOR YOURSELF AND WHAT YOU ARE INTERESTED. For instance, if you have a wish to be an engineer, but you are quite impatient to learn the basic mathematics and physical sciences, then don't try to torture yourself on this dreaming goal because such "preparation" has a very small chance to succeed. Similar cases also apply to the medical education too.
    My personal experience is that one should learn, and enjoy, many things he is interested, then he would have a broad choice of the fields for his future career.
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      Dec 27 2013: I like the fact that you bring realism to your response. A senior high school student who knows what they want is very rare. In my talk I want to encourage students to take many of those self assessment tests to see where their interests lie. Secondly, I agree its important for students to start "self training" by choosing courses well suited towards what they want to do. If you look at what Robert Winner was suggesting, having freshman college students come and talk to senior year students can really help this cause.
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    Dec 25 2013: Ibthaj, Will you be doing this in Canada? I am from a small town in Arizona USA. My experiences are almost 50 years old. But here is what I do ... the kids here are lucky to have advanced courses and parents who care. What we should do is to maintain contact with last year graduates who have just completed their freshman year ... we do a poor job of this ... and ask them what issues they faced. Our top two had problems meeting standards for college mathematics and had to go to summer school at the local Junior college ... there were other things I found out that I passed on.

    The purpose of your talk is to make it easier ... not to dwell on all of the stress.

    I have always recommended that they enroll in Khan academy and take as much as they can ... I think that a strong vocabulary is a key to mastering a subject, so I recommend that ..... To know the proper format that will be expected for papers ... put them in your computer. .... ask the school adviser what systems they use and have them in your computer so that your are compatible and can print out your homework / send it to the proper web site the school uses. ... get in shape mentally and physically ... get your eyes checked ... get a physical ....

    If you feel weak in a certain area, go the local JC and take a summer course to be better prepared ... see if your local school accepts the JC courses for credit. Be sure to transfer all college level courses you completed in high school.

    And finally be sure to have a copy of all the required documents ... shot records ... birth certificates ... high school diploma ... physical exam ... recommendations ... spare glasses .... medications ... a copy of any prescriptions so you can transfer to a local vender or campus dispensary if available ...

    Instead of telling them how bad it is going to be ... approach the best time of your life and here are some things to make it easier.

    Are these what you seek.
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      Dec 27 2013: I think you have caught the essence of what I want to present Robert. I really like the idea of having first year students staying in contact with the next year's graduates. This idea, if implemented at the beginning of senior year can very useful to the student body. As most Canadian Universities look at a student's performance in their final year, connecting first year college/university students with senior year High School students can positively impact their performance.
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    Dec 25 2013: Sleep, nutrition, and physical excercise first come to mind.
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    Dec 29 2013: Partying, period.
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    Dec 29 2013: Thank you, that really helps me to understand your perspective.
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    Dec 29 2013: Some ideas spring to mind Ibthaj;

    1).Stress is part of life; by the time you have experienced grovelling for your first job, divorce, being made redundant, bankruptcy, a severe illness, disappointments of various kinds that life did not turn out the way you envisaged, etc, etc, you will have gathered a huge amount of potential via that stress. And what is that stress good for?

    2).Stress, ultimately and when fully processed, is "fuel for life". And what is that "life"?

    3).That "life" is the experience-of-life, and that experience is felt in the inner (as in calmness, inner peace, joy, equanimity, etc, etc). The ability to cultivate these inner states of experiential being is gifted to us by ... guess what? By learning to deal with situations and people we find "stressful"!

    4).As a young adult you may believe that the name of the game is to avoid stressful situations at all costs. This is impossible. Why? Because the stress is already within us, sitting there, waiting for an opportunity to be triggered and "outed" in a situation experienced as stressful so it can be transformed into fuel for life, transformed into a more mature inner state of being and experience of life, (ultimately, to be transcended).

    5).And what is at least one way in which such a transformation of "stress into inner peace" might be done? As a medical student, I am sure you have heard of (and hopefully have investigated the research done on) the placebo effect. Therein lies your first clue.
  • Dec 29 2013: It is not the responsibility of the student to find ways of making their education less stressful, it is the responsibility of the educator, and the educational system.

    And in this regard, and this cannot be stressed enough; it has been shown in psychological testing that the average attention span of a person is 20 minutes, it then begins to diminish. Therefore it follows that lectures, and lessons should be broken up into short periods, with 10 minute intermissions in between; this providing a relaxation period which both allows the subject matter to be absorbed; and its enhancement as it discussed by students during the intermission, between commencing the next period.
    • Dec 29 2013: "It is not the responsibility of the student to find ways of making their education less stressful, it is the responsibility of the educator, and the educational system".That's Very true all Educational institutes i believe try to make their ways of teaching less stressful for their students.
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        Dec 29 2013: Not happening. I as an educator am not your mommy. Address the stress or go home. You do not have to be here. Achieve the standards set by the profession or fail.
      • Dec 31 2013: And that is why the world is in it's present state.

        The responsibility of the student is to learn.
        Otherwise the student wastes the teacher's time.

        "Spare the Rod and Spoil the Child."
        That saying came about out of need.
        How quickly we forget.
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    Dec 28 2013: "The biggest challenge Students face in Universities today is Stress and stress related conditions. "

    Good that means I am doing my job. I am not your mommy.

    I uphold the highest standard of my profession. That is inherently stressful. My students will not all make it. Only the best complete the degree. Only the best graduate. I will never apologize for that.

    Do or Do Not. There is no Try.
    ~Yoda
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      Dec 29 2013: Hi I find you're comment really challenging and uncomfortable. I don't want to jump to any conclusions about what I think you're saying so I'd like to ask you to explain more fully what you mean when you say that you're doing your job if one of the biggest challenges students face in university is stress.

      Thanks
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        Dec 29 2013: The stress in University is nothing compared to the stress in real life (author in Med school). Where wrong decisions can kill someone. While you are in university we protect you from killing someone. We cannot have flippant airheads running around with peoples lives. It is stressful but it is not as stressful as it will be once you are out. We give you the opportunity to address stress in a safe environment protecting the patient at all times. That protection will be gone when you complete your studies. Address the stress now or go home to mommy. Its not my job to make your life less stressful. It is my job to introduce you to it.
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          Dec 30 2013: Linda, I think he is planning a talk for high school students rather than medical students.
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    Dec 27 2013: I know that it's really hard but my main tip is: Stop procrastinating, don't wait until the final days, do it first and then you can chill without stress.
    • Dec 31 2013: The other side of your coin....

      My buddy and I used to slip into the Janitor's closet and grill each other
      back and forth for 5 minutes before class. We were so prepared that
      we could make the teacher look bad. haha
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    Dec 27 2013: I always felt to read the reading list ahead in the summer would remove the double bind effect of trying to learn something while attempting to quick;y develop an opinion. The other stressors while less obvious was fatigue and weight gain during a heavy workload...it would be to our collective benefit if I had not been so poor and had to snack on twix bars and coffee to stay awake...I wish I could have been more organized (or rich) and afford sandwiches and juice. I personally never graduated because of my inability to write linear essays...I myself struggle with this perspective and while I was offered help it seemed like a remedial punishment and insulted...I quit(ultimately my fault..but could things have been done better? which of course is your question
    • Dec 27 2013: Still interested in finishing? Lots of on-line opportunities and CC programs these days...
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        Dec 27 2013: I study very interesting topics constantly so while I feel drawn to formal learning..I am presently not willing to give up my addiction to a wide variety .thankyou for your kindness in your suggestion...all acts of kindness make a big impression with me
        • Dec 28 2013: I understand. I like to go to Wiki's that are general and read through them to see where they lead me. Reason, intelligence, science, philosophy, and thought are good ones. Independent learning is both rewarding and soothing for me. Best of luck!
    • Dec 31 2013: Carolyn,
      "The other stressors while less obvious was fatigue and weight gain during a heavy workload.."

      You've won the HITS THE NAIL ON THE HEAD award.

      Everything else is just psychobabble.
  • Dec 26 2013: Learn to manage time. Everything else is just psychobabble.
  • Dec 25 2013: I’d rather say it’s better to make them enjoy the stressful moments.
    Studying something makes us excited(if the subject is interesting to us), but at the same time it creates ‘stress’. The amount of it could differ from how intense the ‘studying’ is to students.
    The best way, I think, is to let them deal with the stressful environment by inspiring them to set higher goals or helping them to link the subject to their lives.
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      Dec 27 2013: It's interesting you mention "make them enjoy the stressful moments" Elizabeth. Something I want them to deeply understand is the basis of stress. Most of us have a very negative view about what stress is, but stress is a two sided coin. When humans are put in a stressful environment, the body responds in a manor that enhances our abilities and allows us to complete a tough task. Our shortcoming is that we don't understand this viewpoint, we only focus on the negative impacts of stress.
      • Dec 27 2013: Perhaps they see what they can benefit from being in a stressful environment. It’s just that they want to avoid the pressure upon their brains and just simply regard it[stress] as some sort of a barrier they should overcome or get rid of.
        I think human beings are born to be able to take advantage of ‘stress’—called survival instinct. It stimulates us to survive in any environments. Students score high on the tests are the ones who use stress as a motivational factor when preparing for the exam. Most of them are good at dealing with stress. They are much more competitive than others and enjoy being the winners in the game(well, we all know there's always an exception).
        If they don’t think there’s any pressure upon them as to studying, they won’t feel like they need to hit the book. Stress that comes from hardworking as well. It can have great effects on our work efficiency.
        However, in fairness, we can’t force all students to enjoy the competitive ‘classroom environment’. Everyone has different ways of living their lives. Some students might fail to handle the stress in the classroom, but they might be good at doing other particular jobs and the pressure that comes from them.
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    Dec 25 2013: I think everyone in life would feel better if they realize the best they can do is their best. Doing your best will not always mean you succeed, it only means you did your best try. I think this could be pointed out to students, that university staff do not always expect they will turn in shining efforts, only that they will make their best effort.
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      Dec 27 2013: A lot of students have regret for not putting in their best, there are always "If I only did this..." moments. Time management, learning to work efficiently are just two ways to make sure students are performing to the best of their abilities. On the other hand, sometimes people do try their best and fall short...this is also something I want to emphasise in my talk, "Overcoming Failure"
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        Dec 27 2013: well, Ibthaj, can you tell me what you mean by "overcoming" failure? My idea is that you accept that you're not always going to succeed immensely, you can study as well and as hard as you are capable and still get a B on the test. To you this may be a failure because you wanted an A, but as long as you tried your best, you have nothing to be ashamed of, you can be serene within yourself and have self-esteem. I suppose you should also attempt to analyze why you got the B so perhaps you can do better the next time, but it's also important not to beat yourself up or hate yourself for getting the B, after all, you tried your best. Does this work for you?
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    Dec 31 2013: I do understand your point on perfectionism, I can relate! I'm very happy that you encouraged both of your daughters to follow their passions! I'm not discounting my experience in school by any means, I'm grateful for everything I have done and have made the best of it. Although I was super stressed in college while doing a triple major, I still managed to balance things out with my love for music by being a member of our school's a cappella group and performing everywhere. The only regret, if anything, I have is I wish I had learned more music theory and mastered playing many instruments at much earlier stages in life. I'm now having to make up for lost time by disciplining myself to go through 'grades' on the piano via a Carnegie Hall Program so I can better support my singing/songwriting career :) This is where attitude comes into play, right? Live-->learn-->deal with it-->make the best of it :) As long as I take responsibility for my own actions, only then can I progress and take control of my own destiny :) Happy New Year to you and your daughters!
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    Dec 31 2013: College is inherently a social event for most kids. At no other time in life, will you be around so many interesting and exciting peers to impress and party with. As a parent of a current college student, I observe that these young people don't take the time management advice provided during orientation/or from home, seriously. College is all about project management. And as a mature adult, I've learned over the years that consistency and budgeting the hours in my days is how things get done. Recall the recent brain research citing impulse control is not fully mastered until 25 years old?

    Young people are largely capricious and impulsive and will always procrastinate because there is something better to do. Most of us do insist on learning the hard way. They are also biased toward luck and underestimating workload until it is too late. Until students learn and take seriously, the need to balance/budget their days and plan ahead, there will be stress. But in life, stress is ever present but something to be managed.....so, good training ground?

    My college freshman is coming around thank goodness!
  • Dec 31 2013: Keep a good rhythm of study and homework. Constancy is the key. Establish times to study and homework and stick to them. Never fail to keep at it. Making this a habit will be worth a lot in the future. Time has to be planned for success. No way around.
  • Dec 31 2013: by preparing his lesson daily and try to maintain the relation with the teacher in a good manner,
    other include
    take those subjects in which u feel good and ask question if there rise a indiguity in lecture
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    Dec 31 2013: What worked for me as a student:

    1. Reading the whole textbook before the semester began. The whole thing, even math or accounting.

    2. limiting my time studying to 1 hour at a stretch, and that's only if you're studying a single subject in a marathon. I could study the whole day, but I always took breaks of at least 15 minutes in between. My mind got time to process what i'd been trying to shovel in.

    3. taking the said 15 minute break between subjects.

    4. Exercise.to work the stress out.

    5. don't accumulate stress over things already done or not done. It's too late; move on.

    6. limit study groups: they usually go off topic. The only study group that worked for me had a pattern of studying near each other silently for some time, then discussing (on or off topic) for some time.

    7. If you have parents who like to keep a scorecard of your estimated grades, and you find that stressful, change the subject.
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      Dec 31 2013: I too read as much as I could of the reading at the start of the term. Some professors are good at opening a course with a big picture of the subject at hand, but others aren't. Advance reading provided a framework on which to "hang" the content as it unfolded.