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Andrea Morisette Grazzini

CEO, WetheP, Inc.

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When, How and Why have your most strongly held views changed?

I'm interested in transformative "In situ" social change.

There is research and opinion that adults face tremendous obstacles to changing their views. That education helps, but generally isn't enough. Of if views change, they do so because of traumatic life experiences or in times and places beyond their everyday lives. Such as in college or experiences in other geographical cultures.

Most particularly, it appears, change evolves in deep-reflection when hidden and/or hard to accept truths emerge. There is also evidence that this occurs in sustained relationships structured around relationally developed trust and intentional dialogues about values, including opposing views.

So, what you think? Have you changed? When, how, why? And, if applicable, who else was involved?

Extra points for "in situ" change -- change achieved in home communities or familiar cultures.

Many thanks in advance for your comments,
Andrea

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Closing Statement from Andrea Morisette Grazzini

Thank you all for so energetically engaging in this dialogue.

The breadth and depth of the comments and interaction between all has been quite rich. I can't help but feel this discussion amounts to a small example of "in situ" change in action.

Many illuminations have been shared and in the process, others emerged.

As each person has communicated parts of their story here, something like dynamic transformation can be detected. Perhaps not as much in individual ideals as in new understandings of the universal mix of simple and complex realizations of change and the possibilities for co-reflection.

Differences in our ages, experiences and perspectives make the discussion even more rich and dimensional. And yet shared themes are clearly evident -- most powerfully -- some of these were developed in the simple act of telling.

I would say what we have here is something of a small organically developed cultural enclave. Wherein each individual voice comes through clear, while the sum of all in relationship gives it a novel, community-style substance and form.

To carry this momentum forward I am going to build on our discussion, in the following ways:

First -- I will build another question related to this conversation, including Revett's thoughts on how, so we can delve deeper. Keep an eye for this--coming soon!
Second -- I will seek ways to capture Lindsay's observations of this "Choir of Inner Voices" in some lasting format. Stay tuned for developments!

Meanwhile, I am very grateful for the candor of your comments and interactions.

Hope you'll join "our" continuing story. I suspect there is much more we can unfold together....

Andrea

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  • Apr 24 2011: Hi Andrea, I've experienced two major changes in my life.

    The first change came about when I was introduced to Jacque Fresco and his lifelong work. To be more spesific, the application of the scientific method to social concern. What is objective and what is relative, our relationship to communication and how we project our "values" instead of asking questions.

    The second understading was a product of Jacques train-of-thought, it sparked a much more powerful tool for self-reflection in me. I would suddenly not juggle back and forth between reflection, and being myself. Gradually, reflection became me. In reflecting, one takes on the role of the observer and philosopher, this is important.

    For example: There is no external enemy, the only enemy, if it can even be called that, is inside ones self. Lets say that a conflict arises between you and your fellow human, for this conflict to even exist, you have to be a part of it. The over-exercised "conflict" is an objective one, because a relative conflict cannot exist, but in reality, neither can the objective one. Lets examine.

    I say the world is flat, you say the world is round. The answer to this question does not exist in me or you, it exists outside of us. Both of us have the tools to deduce and theorize as to what the truth might be, but the truth itself exists independently. So in reality the earth is round, there is no conflict in this regard. The assumption that this truth comes from me or you is inherently false, and that is where the conflict lies. No one can really disagree about anything, but you can play with things that are relative. Question, do you disagree with yourself?

    This mismash of relative opinions with objective truths has to stop, our communication is plagued by it, communication in most science is eloquent, yet ape-like in our society.

    The change in me was recognizing the mismash, as a result I can truly communicate with my family, namely all humans.

    A lovely thread Andrea.
    • Apr 24 2011: I have changed many times during my lifetime:

      I grew up a republican in a heavily democratic Northeast Mpls.
      Now I am a registered democrat in a conservative/republican enclave (Colo. Spgs, CO)

      I learned a great deal at "the U" and became much less conservative while in Education, Sociology, and History. I also ran Freshman Camps - I was hauled kicking and screaming toward listening to anthers' story

      After school (there no teaching positions available) I changed into a technician- type in printing,but kept READING - That was a constant.

      By this time I was much more liberal than my Dad could stand.

      I traveled to Europe and changed more!

      I became a solid and steady citizen raising two (wonderful) children. Now I'm getting over that.

      The fact is that I altered my life at many junctions along the way. School, College, Graduate school, work, children all changed what I thought and did but... The attitude inside never DID really alter.

      SO, I became more liberal working with conservatives as well as more conservative among liberals.

      I'll finish later.
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        Apr 25 2011: Will,

        I can't help but make a personal connection. I spent time in North Minneapolis yesterday, a place I find myself drawn to because the diverse people represent what to me seem more authentic, less mediated by norms characteristics somehow.

        It's a cultural and sometimes "messy" mix, but has an appealing ideal and persistence against odds for figuring out ways to change and evolve within community.

        Beyond (or perhaps related to?) this connection: You leave me curious about what is your "attitude inside" that didn't really alter?

        Andrea

        PS: As a teacher, perhaps you'll appreciate this dispatch from your home town:
        1000 jobs will come to the area next year when Minneapolis schools relate their offices there.

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