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What do you plan for your New Years Resolutions, and how do you plan to make them become your reality in 2014?

While blogging recently on this topic, I came across a cartoon, of two dogs sitting side by side discussing New Years resolutions.
First Dog: What is a New Years Resolution?
Second Dog: Sort of like a TO DO list for the first week of January, next year!

New Years Resolutions are apparently held in quite low regard, yet they hold such promise. They are the plans we make for the coming year. I looked up the statistics for the success of New Years Resolutions and found that only 8% of people who set them succeed, 24% NEVER succeed, 49% make a start but fail when obstacles get in the way.

These are VERY similar statistics to regular goalsetting.

My question is, what do you do, to make yourself one of the 8% that succeed with their New Years Resolutions?

My strategy is this: I have regular goals set out, written and planned, all year, regardless of the date. However, towards the end of each month and especially at the end of the year, we have a review session where we look at our progress on the goals in play, and the goals we plan for the coming year. At that point, we decide on our priorities and where our focus should be for the coming year.

This becomes our New Years Resolution list. Perhaps not as sexy as the scroll of paper some folks bring out on New Years Eve to spill champagne on, but it works for us.

I guess a better name for New Years Resolutions would be "Next Years Plans, Goals and Dreams".

What do you think? I blogged about it here http://lifechange90.wordpress.com/, but it has only raised more questions!

Please tell me, how do you plan to make your New Years Resolutions become a reality for you in 2014?

Do you have a system, or a strategy in place already?

Do you have any ideas what your resolutions will be yet? If not, when do you write them?

The research I did for my blog only seemed to point to an area of global disaster, but the concept of renewal at such an auspicious time of year is so powerful! How can we make this work?

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    Dec 9 2013: Here is one approach with 2.3 million views: http://www.ted.com/talks/derek_sivers_keep_your_goals_to_yourself.html
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      Dec 9 2013: You know, I saw this talk a long time ago and even when the presentation is painful, I completely agree with the speaker. I have experienced that same feeling completness, which later translate to boredom, even when my goal is far from be complete and it all came from the social recognition of it. Thank you for point out this.
    • Dec 10 2013: Sorry Fritzie, but my experience is the opposite. I have to question the test used in the video too - the responses were about feelings, not actual results!

      My personal and professional experience is that if you share your goal with your TEAM, whilst working on a proper goal setting program, not just friends or casual acquaintances, you have an 85% chance of success, compared to a 3% chance of success if you just say nothing!

      That is my personal experience with hundreds of people, working with them over more than a decade...

      Interesting and entertaining video, but not relevant to field work on goals, where actual results can take months and years to consolidate. That's where I have been working... It's also how I will keep on working... It's so much more fun sharing your successes along the way with a committed team of people in a supportive environment...

      Thank you for the link to the video, it was most enlightening...
      Ray
  • Dec 9 2013: Great stuff Julio...

    What is your blog address? Mine is http://www.lifechange90.com/how-to-win-an-argument/ - love to see what you write about.

    Cheers,
    Ray Jamieson
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      Dec 9 2013: I do not blog actually. Usually I use an app to journaling. I used DayOne Journal before, but since I do not do apple anymore, am using and multiplataform application called Flava. It serves it propouse for now!

      Nice blog by the way!
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    Dec 9 2013: For the 2014 I am thinking in a "without" challenge. At the beginning of every month of 2014 I'll make myself the vow to go for the whole month without something in my life that is not productive or completely positive. If by the end of the month I can see a clear positive impact in my day to day life produced by the absense of whatever is the subject of the month, I will probably keep away from it permanently. If on the other hand there is no positive impact or the absense of it is too much to take, it all will be back to normal by the next month.

    January will be a month without TV and Febuary a month without sugar. Haven't figured out the subject of the next months yet.

    The point is that by the end of the year my life would better/healthier/more productive that what it was previously.

    In my opinion what makes a new year resolution stick is the appreciation positive results quickly, otherwise most people get discourage and drop the intent.
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    Dec 4 2013: New Year resolutions are only a way of procrastination.

    Instead of setting goals at any time you wait with the excuse that everything will be different starting January 1st.
    Obviously, those people weren't able to set goals before Jan 1st, let alone accomplish them, therefore there is little reason to believe that the will be any more successful starting Jan. 1st.
    That's probably the reason for the high failure rate.

    My advise, set goals whenever it makes sense and forget about New Year resolutions.
  • Dec 10 2013: Thank you! It's a lifetime of making people successful and wealthy that has gone into the knowledge behind it. I plan to keep on making people wealthy and successful!
    Cheers,
    Ray Jamieson
  • Dec 9 2013: Thanks for your input Julio - great idea! In this modern world, we take so many things for granted and many of them are really just baggage! Please keep me posted on how it goes, I love this idea!

    How are you going to maintain your commitment to the plan? Any ideas on that yet? Do you have a program to keep you on track with it?

    Cheers,

    Ray
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      Dec 9 2013: I've found that journaling about it, whether is in a blog or privately, usually helps. When I write often about the progress on a subject, I find myself investing a great deal of additional effort just to have something to "report" or at least to avoid the acceptance of failure.

      To consciously acept that you have failed, even to yourself, is hard and therefore you are more willing to work harder in your resolution. Otherwise, when things get rough you can just forget about it until next year.
  • Dec 7 2013: Hi George, great to hear of your Next Year plan. How do you intend to make it work for you? Do you have a plan or strategy in place, to make your plan work for you? Did you look at the strategies for this on the site?

    My latest blog is on 'Commitment Phobia" as it relates to goal setting specifically - http://www.lifechange90.com/commitment-phobia/ - you might find that helpful... For a goal to be achieved, it takes a very high level of commitment, or just a lot of dumb luck. You can bank on the first if it's your own, but as for luck - casinos are built on the odds that your luck is with them...

    I like my plans better! The results show and speak for themselves!

    Thanks for your comment,

    Ray
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    Dec 7 2013: This is a great topic,I never thought I would make a new year plan,but now I am going to make it .
  • Dec 4 2013: Harald,
    You are so spot-on! So many people think that starting a new year will make all the difference, but it is only symbolism. The important point is to recognise that a New Years Resolution is still only a goal with a famous starting date!
    However, the failure rate is pretty standard, across all goals, as well as with the New Years Resolutions...
    Thank you.
    Ray
  • Dec 4 2013: I've written a lot more about this topic at my regular blog site - http://www.lifechange90.com/new-years-resolutions/ and it might be worth a visit to get the full context...
    Cheers,
    Ray