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Simon Caira

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If it's true that our gifts, passions and identity were educated out of us as we grew up, how can we reclaim and rekindle these gifts?



Sir Ken Robinson asks that we be mindful of the 'really extraordinary capacities that children have - their capacities for innovation,' and he contends, 'All kids have tremendous talents. And we squander them, pretty ruthlessly.'


He says, 'We don't grow into creativity, we grow out of it. Or rather, we get educated out if it.'

He believes - and I tend to agree - that 'many highly talented, brilliant, creative people think they're not, because the thing they were good at at school wasn't valued, or was actually stigmatized.'

Have you been steered away from your true talents in order to follow a more conventional route to success? Or was it your sense of identity that was in some way challenged and even squandered?


Sir Ken believes that a child's ability to take a chance, to not be frightened of being wrong, is lost by the time they become adults. If this is true I guess it's fair to say there are a lot of us running around with limiting core beliefs that inherently hold us back from our originality and creativity. Beliefs like: I'm frightened to make mistakes, or, I'm scared to be wrong.


Identity statements and beliefs govern our thoughts, behaviors, actions and outcomes. I wonder if you agree that you had your identity, creativity and talents educated out of you and what can be done to rekindle the fire of lost passions and to rebuild those latent talents, qualities and abilities?

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    Nov 25 2013: It is a very interesting question. I rather not think of it as I was educated to grow out of my gifts and passions but I was shown how those who were elder than me thought at that time what was the right knowledge. So, I appreciate their effort and our felt need to revolutionize learning in schools is simply a call for adaptation to a changed environment. Yes, I admit, some of my gifts and passions were not cultivated and to be honest if they were, I have a strong feeling that I wouldn't have been doing the things I do today. I think its the whole system and the way it is synchronized to shape people's minds that does it and not only schools. Psychologists have looked at what is the most influential factor that shapes our personalities and they still haven't agreed on any one. Some say it is your parental upbringing and others say it is the larger social world and groups you socialize with. When I was young still in primary school I used to be haunted by the question 'why do I exist?'. I even asked my mother and I am sure it worried her!!! I also used to sing and draw very well. The schools I went to didn't care much to enhance these gifts and passions of mine but they didn't kill them. Education was not and still isn't personalized for each kid and I am still not sure if it should be...and to what extent...and what the associated costs would be. I believe that no one can take away your gifts and passions and they will find a way to emerge again even after decades in your life...This is obvious in the stories of people who quit their jobs for something else that they derive great pleasure from. So I believe that we cant kill these gifts and passions but they can remain in the infancy stage or get hidden inside us but tend to grow and will emerge in various degrees. The key lies in getting exposed to the right environment that can nurture your gifts and passions even after 20 years and it is up to you to decide when you want to bring them out.
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      Dec 3 2013: Very thought provoking comments Ida. Thanks.

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