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Simon Caira

Personal Coach, Peak Performance Techniques

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If it's true that our gifts, passions and identity were educated out of us as we grew up, how can we reclaim and rekindle these gifts?

Sir Ken Robinson asks that we be mindful of the 'really extraordinary capacities that children have - their capacities for innovation,' and he contends, 'All kids have tremendous talents. And we squander them, pretty ruthlessly.'

He says, 'We don't grow into creativity, we grow out of it. Or rather, we get educated out if it.'

He believes - and I tend to agree - that 'many highly talented, brilliant, creative people think they're not, because the thing they were good at at school wasn't valued, or was actually stigmatized.'

Have you been steered away from your true talents in order to follow a more conventional route to success? Or was it your sense of identity that was in some way challenged and even squandered?

Sir Ken believes that a child's ability to take a chance, to not be frightened of being wrong, is lost by the time they become adults. If this is true I guess it's fair to say there are a lot of us running around with limiting core beliefs that inherently hold us back from our originality and creativity. Beliefs like: I'm frightened to make mistakes, or, I'm scared to be wrong.

Identity statements and beliefs govern our thoughts, behaviors, actions and outcomes. I wonder if you agree that you had your identity, creativity and talents educated out of you and what can be done to rekindle the fire of lost passions and to rebuild those latent talents, qualities and abilities?


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    Nov 20 2013: Let us do what we did before we grew up - let us be playful again to find us again.
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      Nov 20 2013: Hi Lejan. Your comment reminds me of something I read recently in Paolo Coelho's Manuscript Found In Accra. It says the question of finding direction in one's life and giving our lives meaning is done in many ways, however there are those that, instead of wrestlng with the question or taking others' opinions as the truth, go back to what filled them with enthusiasm when they were children and devote their life to it.

      I like that idea. And the word enthusiasm has always fascinated me:

      enthusiasm. noun
      1. Intense and eager enjoyment, interest, or approval.
      2. A thing that arouses feelings of intense and eager enjoyment.
      The source of the word is the Greek enthousiasmos, which ultimately comes from the adjective entheos, "having the god within," formed from en, "in, within," and theos, "god."

      Having the god within...
      So maybe it's really worth going back through your wonderful memories to that thing that lit you up during your childhood. That passion. Your entheos.

      "Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm," said the very quotable Ralph Waldo Emerson
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      Nov 20 2013: Lejan and Simon,
      I wholeheartedly agree that allowing ourselves to be playful, generally supports passion, enthusiasm, and joyful exploration of the life adventure with curiosity!

      Children naturally have these qualities, and then at a certain point in their lives, are often told to "grow up", and be an adult. We are multi sensory, multi dimensional human beings, and there is NOTHING that says we cannot be playful, have curiosity, joy, passion, enthusiasm AND responsibility compassion, empathy, etc.

      Although we may have been taught that child-like qualities are not appropriate for an adult, those qualities are always part of us. It is a matter of remembering, practicing and "being" in every moment.

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