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How are competitiveness and jealousy synonymous with one another? To what extent can the two be separated from each other?

In the quest for conspicuous consumption, jealousy is a troubling emotion that drives many to become highly competitive and to work obsessively to outdo others or themselves. Being jealous and envious of what others have attained or accomplished, many push themselves to extremes; analogous to the extreme competition that can be found in sports or business.

  • Nov 19 2013: I would distinguish three separate responses that might or might not occur at the same time, but are not the same emotion: competitiveness, jealousy, and envy.
    Competitiveness can come from the desire for improvement, where the accomplishments of others become a benchmark for our goals. This can be positive or negative depending on what we choose to see as the nature of the competition. (For instance, I can compete to make a better product or I can compete to sell more product regardless of its comparative quality. I can compete to become a better athlete than my competitor or I can compete to win without becoming better myself.)
    Jealousy is, for me, the most clearly connected to negative ego. I define jealousy as the desire to deny someone else that which I do not have. I may desire, for example, that a particular person might love me, but still allow that the other might love someone else. Jealousy would drive me to interfere with the other's relationships so that if I could not have the other's love, then no one else could either. I might also blame those the other loves for the fact that the other does not love me. Jealousy is very much related to scarcity consciousness: There's only s limited amount of something so any of it that someone else has is being taken away from me.
    Envy is simply an acknowledgement that someone else has something I wish I had. This can spur me to try to achieve, or it can limit me by leading me to focus on what I don't have rather than what I do have, and may be capable of.
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    Nov 19 2013: Jeffrey, did you want more time, click "edit" and add more time. Right now you have 5 hours.
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    Nov 19 2013: Lets say that jealousy is the emotion based on the fear of loosing something (that you are fighting for, or something that you already have ). That fear is based on the objectively perception of someone's competitiveness for it. (looks, knowledge,other virtues).
    The perception is turning on our inside alarms, that causes jealousy. Competitiveness is the base of jealousy, and if it's not so, the jealousy would turns on for everyone, or, it wouldn't turns on at all. It's on just for specific, who's better enough- and it's competition.
  • Nov 18 2013: Like everyone else, I have a direct connection to the competitive and jealous parts of the current society. I am a student at a selective school based on scholarship, and each of us forty or so students in my grade are all striving, in a competitive manner, to be the top of the grade. That is an example where competition can be a good thing, as the overall academic performance of the school stays high due to it's student's competitive nature. Where jealousy plays in is within a few of our sports teams. I myself am a runner and a swimmer, and there are several students who are trying to pass me up in skill/speed and this is very noticeable in huge way they carry themselves around me. When they are losing to me, they dislike me and treat me poorly, and then when they beat me it's as if they are my best friend.

    I think jealousy and competition are two separated things that have the ability to intermingle, as they do in sports for me.