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Has society outgrown the institution of marriage?

It seems fewer couples than ever get married. What used to be a given has become a seeming after thought. Has society become too cynical? DO they not trust enough? Have they lost faith in lifelong commitment? Are we more selfish?


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    Nov 18 2013: Anthony, Many studies have been conducted in reference to sociietial changes. I am a pretty basic person so I looked at it from a very practical point of view. What are the advantages versus what are the disadvantages.

    Changes in the old taboos are great factors. It was once considered living in sin. Now it is a matter of economics.

    People in their late sixties and seventies live together because they are penalized if they marry. They would lose one whole set of social security income. But if they live together they both collect.

    In the 50's and before to have a child out of wedlock was a family shame and many labels were applied to both the mother and the child and the family name was trashed. The reality of today is that your ENTITLEMENTS are based on the family size .. there is no mention of marriage. The famous girl of 17 who had five kids and was the bread winner for her whole family and was planning on having more kids (no marriage in sight) because she was getting everything for free and money to boot. She was on Oprah. Goods, services, and money equaled over $80,000 a year. The government rewarded her for have kids out of wedlock. Working is for fools. There are entitlement for everyone in this day and age. The myth of "FREE" stuff.

    Times have changed. Drug dealer next door .... 50 illegals living next door .... crack house ..... domestic violence ... child abuse .... don't get involved.

    Don't answer this ... BUT .... how many can name the next door neighbor or any neighbors.

    Not only are we a divided nation but we have become a self centered what is in it for me ... nation.

    Summary: It is not about morals, ethics, values .... it is a matter of economics and entitlements.

    Anthony, since you did not share your location I will qualify this to be based on what is occurring in the USA. Had you declared you location I would have tried to address that area.

    Be well. Bob.
    • Nov 19 2013: Hi Bob,

      I sadly agree with a lot of what you wrote. I was referring to the USA actually so that it fine. I say sadly agree because I have been married for close to 30 years and so I know firsthand what the segment of society is missing out on.

      I do believe our society has become very self centered and do not want to put the effort in that a relationship takes. It seems the instant gratification of society has reduced our capacity to work through tough issues. At least as they apply to relationships.

      The tragic thing about it is that this new behavior is being taught to the subsequent generations and so becoming the new norm.

      Thank you for taking the time to comment.
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        Nov 19 2013: My bride and I have been together for almost 50 years now. In our neighborhood we see many grandparents raising the grandkids ... in many homes there is not a male figure / role model. I share your thought that there is instant marriage, instant, divorce, instant gratification, etc ... Its a fast food world.

        Much of this, in my opinion, started with Dr. Spock in the mid 40's. We took discipline out of the home and religion and discipline out of the schools. The advent of big government and the intrusion into the family level of decision making is also a big factor.

        As easy as it is to blame others and point the finger all around it really comes down to us the citizens for not maintaining order in our homes and family and a finger on the pulse of government and stepping in when things first went out of control.

        Congratulations to you and your bride on a lasting marriage.

        Be well, Bob.

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