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Life & Leadership Coach, Kain Ramsay Life Balance Coaching

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Are we Human Beings or Human Doings?

I have yet to attend a networking event or random introduction where I've encountered anyone, upon the initial exchanging of pleasantries, to share openly, about who they actually are, opposed to what it is that they do in life.

I am taking for granted here that one of our primary goals in life is to be liked and ultimately accepted by others.

I wonder what would happen if we were to exchange our cultural norm of defining ourselves to others by disclosing ‘the things that we do’, with simply defining ourselves to others by disclosing ‘who we actually are’?

If this was to become a new cultural habit, would this mean that in turn, people would become more congruent and effective in their relationships and throughout the other most important areas of our lives?

There’s 1,000,001 definitions of success available to us in offline and online, however I wonder that if we were to learn how to clearly define who it is that we are as Human Beings, opposed to building our personal standards upon the things that we do as Human Doings, would this leave people available to live more confident and stress free lives?


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    Nov 14 2013: Yeah, I'd be more inclined to agree with you there Fritzie,

    In my experience to date, less is always most definately more!!

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      Nov 14 2013: Kain, when you reply to someone, the best way is to click the Reply link in red to the right of their names. That way they get a message that you replied. If you reply at the top of your thread, they will not get an email alert.
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        Nov 14 2013: Ahhh ... thanks for the tip - third time lucky!!

        I was wondering why my replies were going all over the place ;)


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