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kain ramsay

Life & Leadership Coach, Kain Ramsay Life Balance Coaching

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Are we Human Beings or Human Doings?

I have yet to attend a networking event or random introduction where I've encountered anyone, upon the initial exchanging of pleasantries, to share openly, about who they actually are, opposed to what it is that they do in life.

I am taking for granted here that one of our primary goals in life is to be liked and ultimately accepted by others.

I wonder what would happen if we were to exchange our cultural norm of defining ourselves to others by disclosing ‘the things that we do’, with simply defining ourselves to others by disclosing ‘who we actually are’?

If this was to become a new cultural habit, would this mean that in turn, people would become more congruent and effective in their relationships and throughout the other most important areas of our lives?

There’s 1,000,001 definitions of success available to us in offline and online, however I wonder that if we were to learn how to clearly define who it is that we are as Human Beings, opposed to building our personal standards upon the things that we do as Human Doings, would this leave people available to live more confident and stress free lives?


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    Nov 14 2013: I guess that in a bid to simply be different, and without a need to be heard by others, I'm free to let others tell me the extent of their stories and why they do the things that they do ...

    I've heard my story plenty of times anyway ;)


    p.s. My comment about Herbert was just my very lame attempt at some facetious humour
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      Nov 14 2013: I think it is common to get information about others rather than sharing ones personal story. I only thought from the argument or question you put forward in your thread that you were advocating for being MORE, rather than less descriptive about who you are, on first encounter.

      Many of us do not jump at every opportunity to tell our stories to strangers, which is partly why you don't see people describe themselves fully in networking events or random encounters.

      Further, many people naturally prefer to "show" who they are rather than "tell" who they are. Many who tell "who they are" put forward a description that does not align particularly with what they reveal through their actions. Most people too, I think, take verbal descriptions of this kind with a grain of salt, waiting to form an impression of the person through his actions.

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