Do you experience an underrepresented gender expression? What are your thoughts about gender?
I am routinely perceived as male when I am "out and about" called "sir, bro, etc." I am sometimes asked if I am transgender by those in LGBTQA circles, in particular. I take this in stride but I wish that more communication occurred to address that not all gender variant people identify in the same way.
In my personal experience, as someone who was born with an opposite sex twin, and a person born to a mother with an opposite sex twin. I was intensely curious about gender and gender roles from an early age. For me, I feel that both nurture and nature helped to shape my sense of gender.
Although I have a history of gender dysphoria, body dysphoria and even some lingering feelings of these conditions, if I were to transition it would be to escape the social stigma of being a female that does not fit into the social norm for my assigned birth sex. Although I do not fit neatly into the stereotypical female role, I have no interest in embracing a new male identity. It would not be appropriate for me to transition. For me, gender reassignment would feel like fleeing one's war-torn homeland to become the citizen of a new country whose culture, geography, customs and history, I do not fully understand nor sincerely wish to adopt. For me, pursuing gender reassignment, would feel like becoming a refugee who is forced to travel far from home.
It is my hope that all people can one day be free to explore and pursue paths that help them to feel whole and at peace, and that society can come to respect all gender expressions. If one is transgender, it is my hope that they are able to embrace a body, life and culture that resonates well with their core identity in a way that their birth sex and linked gender assignment was not able to match. We should all feel free to explore and express who we are.
Your experience and thoughts are eagerly awaited!