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Maria Khan

Director of Outeach, TEDxUCIrvine

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If you could meet your kid self, what would you say to him or her? Do you think he/she would be proud to meet you?

My papa always told me "Maria, everything happens for a reason. God has the perfect plan for you, just believe in yourself" and I could never fully grasp what he meant. Today, as a college student aspiring to dreams bigger than myself, I understand what he means. I understand that every small and big moment in my life that hurt me led to greater achievements. I wish I could go back and tell myself "Don't worry so much!"


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    Nov 1 2013: The boring answer is that I'd avoid him at all costs, because any influence I exerted would change the course of history and therefore destroy the self that I have become.

    That aside, of course you could tell your child self not to worry if, in fact, it did all turn out well. The question is whether that may not lead to a complacency or recklessness that may actually have a negative effect.

    There is no short-cut to living your life.
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      Nov 7 2013: I see your point Daniel. I posted the question with the intention of hoping to learn what main values others have learned throughout their life.

      The question is personal, but this "meeting your kid-self" question allows answers that are personal without giving away details. Reading the answers feels like picking up a book with just a face and name on it, flipping towards the middle/end to read the lesson but never going back to read the story. Perhaps the story isn't as important especially because most of the answers are very similar.

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