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Maria Khan

Director of Outeach, TEDxUCIrvine

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If you could meet your kid self, what would you say to him or her? Do you think he/she would be proud to meet you?

My papa always told me "Maria, everything happens for a reason. God has the perfect plan for you, just believe in yourself" and I could never fully grasp what he meant. Today, as a college student aspiring to dreams bigger than myself, I understand what he means. I understand that every small and big moment in my life that hurt me led to greater achievements. I wish I could go back and tell myself "Don't worry so much!"


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  • Nov 4 2013: "When one has not had a good father, one must create one"- Friedrich Nietzsche
    Someday you will be the one to create a good Father.
    “When the student is ready the teacher will appear”- Buddha Proverb
    There will be many teachers and they will take many forms, some of this world, some not.
    “You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”- Buddha
    You will someday know this is also true.
    "Nirvana is this moment seen directly. There is no where else than here. The only gate is now. The only doorway is your own body and mind. There’s nowhere to go. There’s nothing else to be. There’s no destination. It’s not something to aim for in the afterlife. It’s simply the quality of this moment."- Buddha
    It would have helped if I could have explained this to you then.

    Happiness is not found in religion or any mankind. It is found within, it is understanding, it is contentment.
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      Nov 7 2013: Every quotes holds so much value and I think they all say the same thing. Every one is asking you to think of yourself.

      Sometimes, I feel that children know happiness better than us. Why do you think we forget being happy about the little things or to love ourselves?
      • Nov 7 2013: Children are closer to Nirvana. Our priorities get mixed up with other peoples and organizations that we somehow flock to for comfort and companionship when instead we should be looking inward for those things.

        "Your mind is your only true friend"- Keith W Henline

        “Wanting is pain”- Paramhansa Yogananda

        "What lies behind you and what lies before you are tiny matters compared to what lies within you"- Ralph Waldo Emerson
      • Nov 7 2013: Kids are smarter than us! They use there brains to have fun and make other people happy.

        "Healthy people play, unhealthy people fight"- Keith W Henline

        Bruce Lee is an example.. Most the people he came in contact with wanted to fight him, that is because of there own unhealthy insecurities. A really good fighter like Bruce Lee who was healthy and secure in his own knowledge did not want to fight and would play instead with an opponent. Most martial art schools are not about fighting but rather about protection and learning how to avoid a fight. Monks are another even better example- they can be warriors but they live for peace. Even though they are the best fighters in the world they do everything in their power to avoid a fight.

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