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Why is asking for help at best uncomfortable, at worst impossible?

I was hit by a car and severely injured. After 2 yrs I am working again but not at the rate I was. During this time I fell into deep depression and fearful monetary situations. I spent a lot of time hiding in bed hoping to vaporize. I was also afraid of not being able to return to work because of PTSD. I found it impossible to ask for help. I am on the mend but I was wondering why this is. Any ideas?


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    Nov 1 2013: Well, think about what we spend the first part of our lives trying to do. We try to get independence from our parental figures, whoever that may be these days. We work hard to make a life where everything seems to be under our control. Once we feel like our independence might be at risk, we fight it even subconsously. I believe this is the root of our fear of asking for help, Even if doing so might make things a lot easier, which might have been your case. Good question by the way.

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