Sirine Karray

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What is more important : Happiness or Psychological strengh ?

As happiness might be our purpose
and psychological strengh can be the way in our journey through life .

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    Oct 26 2013: Hello Sirine, and welcome to TED conversations:>)

    I agree with you that psychological strength can be part of the foundation of our life journey.

    Happiness, by definition, is considered a mental/emotional state, and we have many different mental/emotional states....yes? I perceive psychological strength as a good underlying support for ALL emotional states.

    For example, we can be happy or sad (both emotional states), and we can have the underlying psychological strength to support both....correct?

    So, in my perception, it is not a matter of one being more important than the other because they are different functions...the underlying psychological strength being the support for all emotions.
  • Oct 28 2013: When asked 'which is more important' questions it's often useful to think which one is worse if you lose it.
    If a witch came along and forces you to chose one and lose one what would you do.

    If you lose all psychological strength, you go insane, right?
    If you lose all happiness, you're left with the remaining emotions, sad, angry, etc. Or you can be totally numb and emotionless.

    Personally I think I can cope with being a robot more than I can cope with being crazy.
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      Oct 29 2013: I agree Da Way, that it is helpful to explore all angles of a question. Are you saying that psychological strength is more important to you? If that is what you are suggesting, I agree.

      I do not agree that one necessarily goes insane with the loss of psychological strength.....this is kind of close to home for me. After a near fatal head/brain injury years ago, I was physically, mentally, emotionally challenged, so my psychological strength was challenged as well....apparently it was not lost however.....just challenged.

      Medical professionals said it was my physical and emotional strength going into the event, that supported the continuation of my life, and I agree with that. I believe it was the physical & psychological strength, built over a period of 40 years, that helped support the body/mind through the challenge.

      I believe that psychological strength, as an underlying support, gives us the ability to face and experience all emotions.
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    Oct 25 2013: Why this is either or situation ?
    Are all happy people psychologically weak & vice versa ?
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      Oct 25 2013: No, this is not the point . But sometimes , life's issues and downs affect our feelings that we no longer feel the same about things that used to make us happy .
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        Oct 26 2013: Does that mean we became psychologically strong then ?
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        Oct 26 2013: Hello Sirine,
        "Things" don't make us happy, although it may be harder to be happy if we lack basic "things" in life.
        It seems you pose 'happiness' as the end-goal in life, and 'psychological strength' as the means to get there.
        At a higher level, means and ends are one and the same; means and ends are "of the same stuff". The ends "grow out of" the means, so to speak. I agree with Jelena's comment below: growth in psychological strength and growth in the experience of happiness go hand in hand and grow together as one and the the same "plant" in your inner garden.
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          Oct 26 2013: This reminded me of QUOTE, "THE Best things in life are not things. They are felt in the heart."
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          Oct 26 2013: Good quote Dian, and I wholeheartedly agree! Welcome to TED conversations:>)
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        Oct 26 2013: Sirine,
        If we "no longer feel the same about things that used to make us happy", perhaps it is not the "things" that genuinely create happiness?
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    Oct 25 2013: Happiness and psychologically strenght are going hand in hand. If we are talking about "healthy happiness" ( I mean, happiness that doesn't include others damage, happiness that is not the result of some kind of "sick drives" of human brain)

    Psychologically strenght make you construct your priorities of happiness, and find the best way to reach that happiness, and realize it.
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    Oct 29 2013: hah, finally a question about happiness that seems to make sense. my choice is psychological strength, but we certainly need a better term for it.
    • Oct 31 2013: lol Here's kinda how I heard that: "Finally a question about A! I choose B."
      And I agree we need a better term, (and more choices).
      I think maybe we could look more for meaningful lives - value people and take time to look someone in the eye, [as opposed to the mushy "look in their eyes"], and consider them & let them kknow where you're coming from.
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    Oct 27 2013: We all exert our mind to coordinate our psychological well-being,which is a psychological card we can play when we face ever-changing mental state. As we all know and acknowledge that our mood has its victory and crisis. Unfortunately we most have no definitive power to control our emotion. So we are adapting and nurturing a heart which is more likely to wake up its strength. While we successfully wake up psychological strength,rather than its weakness,we will be happier,and happiness is a result of psychological maneuver.
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    Oct 27 2013: .

    Happiness is the short-time feeling of things
    being a-step-better for keeping our DNA alive.
    It is the MOST IMPORTANT.

    Psychology is merely for better happiness.
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    Oct 26 2013: I don't know if this will be helpful to you. I counsel a lot of people in the hospital who constantly ask me, "are you a psychologist?" to which I answer, "no"..It's a gift I realized I got since college days but I come to fully acknowledge when I was 30 years old. I am now 45. Yet, helping people through counseling has given me tremendous happiness and inner fulfillment.
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    Oct 26 2013: Happines to everyone ,psychological strengh not can everyone have...
  • Oct 26 2013: Thjese are not independent variables.
  • Oct 26 2013: I pick psychological strength. I have had highs and lows and i found i needed psychological strength to push through both.
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    Oct 25 2013: I think If you have a psychological strength to convert all the invalid(harmful) happiness into healthy one ,happiness will always be with you. I don't see any conflicts between them.