- william clegg
- Gabriola Island B C
Feelings, we all have them, but who is responsible for them?
I have opined in other Ted links and else where that my feelings are my own. That they are derived from the total of my life experiences. That the origins of a particular feeling may lie in my distant past, but that the way I express that emotion today is my own responsibility. That is to say, I own my emotions and no one is able to "make" me feeling anything. What I feel is mine own and the way in which I react to a particular stimulus.
However, our language is riff with references to influences outside ourselves as being responsible for our feelings. Statements such as "you make me so sad, happy, frustrated, loved" and so on. Or "that thing/event/object/time makes me feel so....".
you get the drift I think.
So, are we all really responsible for our feelings or am I an oddball? By that I mean are we responsible for the feelings, especially those that are negative such as fear, prejudice, anger, hatred and so on as well as the positive ones of love, happiness, joy, contentment and so on.
Or are others capable of invoking feelings, both negative and positive in us?
Closing Statement from william clegg
While there was much debate about the origins of one's feelings, there does seem to be a majority consensus that, yes, we are responsible for how we express our own feelings.
But it seems that there is still a gulf of difference between those who "own" their feelings as so succinctly stated by Joshua Bond and those others who still see outside influences having some measure of influence on 'how we feel..
My sincere thanks to all those who participated in this discussion.