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Is money the only way to reach happiness, satisfaction, or sense of completion?

It seems like money is the only way to get one's wish.
Do you really need money to be happy?
What are other ways in which people reach happiness, satisfaction, or sense of completion?

Maybe that special someone gives you that sense of completion and happiness. Any other examples would be great. What do you do to enjoy life?


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    Oct 27 2013: All right, all right, we know that money doesn't buy happiness. But let's be honest: More money doesn't exactly make us miserable, either.

    The wealthy enjoy an intangible benefit that often eludes the paycheck-to-paycheck worker: a sense of control over their lives. They feel secure in their jobs and less stressed about their futures. (Plus, they can order room service instead of trying to make three meals out of a Subway sandwich.)

    But are they much happier than the rest of us wage-earning, '90s-model-Camry-driving schlubs? Not really.

    Rich! Happy? Not really
    Studies show that lottery winners, heiresses, and the 100 richest Americans are only slightly more satisfied than the guy toiling for his pay in the generic office-park cubicle. Still, mere mortals find it difficult to allow that an extra digit or two on the paycheck won't put a permanent smile on our faces.

    Why is it so hard to accept the idea that increased wealth doesn't markedly improve our mental health?

    Happy amnesia
    The ability to imagine -- to try to predict our future state of mind -- is what sets us apart from less-evolved species. It's also the very thing that stunts our shot at true happiness.

    We assume that a sportier car, a bigger house, a better-paying job, or that dress will bring us joy because, well, they did in the past, right?

    Not really, says Daniel Gilbert, a Harvard psychology professor and the author of Stumbling on Happiness. "Research reveals that memory is less like a collection of photographs than it is like a collection of impressionist paintings rendered by an artist who takes considerable license with his subject," Gilbert writes. We forget that the new-car high deflated well before our first trip to the mechanic, and the raise came with stressful late nights at the office and a steeper tax tab.
    • Nov 11 2013: I guess you're saying the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. I agree. If I suddenly came in to billions overnight, it would make me ecstatic for a while but then it would feel empty because i didn't accomplish something. That is why billionaires don't retire, they work till they're dead.

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