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What exactly is an "Ideal Personality"?

In this age, with population over 7 billion, what is it that can be considered as "ideal"? Who is it that people really look upto or wish that they could be like him/her? What makes the "ideal personality" different from others?

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Closing Statement from Tej Shah

Well, at the end of discussion we can conclude that there's no one 'ideal' in specific. Discussion can be squared down to the fact that whlle there's no one perfectly ideal, there are a few personality traits which can be considered ideal, as they're pleasant to everyone. Personally, I believe- make peace with yourself and that's what i feel is 'ideal'. Everything else, will take care of itself. It completely depends on thoughts and beliefs that a person has, when a person defines 'ideal personality.' The best hypothetic answer would be the one given by Yoka Feng. Rest all answers were based on individual perceptions, which wouldn't be that helpful to everyone.

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    Oct 25 2013: I'd like to consider the ideal personality as " never give up hope( optimistic and self-motivated),kind and rational,open and patient,confident and diligent, studious and modest,decisive and strong-minded, interesting and intelligent.":)
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      Oct 25 2013: That's the most satisfying answer so far. It encompasses all the positive aspects which usually people expect anyone around them to have. Also, It's generalized very well. Description is, however, of impracticably perfect personality, but it's completely relevant to the discussion- as the concept that ideal exists itself is farfetched. :)
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        Oct 26 2013: Thank you Tej for your comment~
        Those are just IDEAL ones and I agree that you should perfect yourself from some simplest ones according to your disposition and personal traits.
        And I also like to advise you that even you don't have some of these, you can make some friends who have something in common with you in personality as well as some personal traits you don't have to make up for your weakness in personality.:)
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          Oct 28 2013: Well, that's a tacit understanding that everyone has. That's something very mainstream. What we're discussing here is not just about making friends, but a much wider perspective.
          It's actually just a discussion, which may give us an opportunity to visualize a different world which is a tad different and may be - more pleasant than the existing one!
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    Oct 23 2013: It is exactly individual.
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    Oct 22 2013: Ideal personality is aligned in all ways, spiritual, soulful, and social.
    'To thine self, be true'
    Not based in ego but in Love and service.
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    Oct 22 2013: it's the flexible personality over all situations can struck the Man and will never change his goodness normally.
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    Oct 21 2013: While having a range of personality types is probably ideal, traits that would seem very useful for a changing world are adaptability and resilience.
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      Oct 22 2013: Well..that's what I have observed frequently around me. But whenever I have this idea in mind, a confusing thought arises as it triggers the thought of any popular personality- say for example- our very own legendary cricketer- Sachin Tendulkar. His personality is defined only by one thing that he is outstanding in i.e. cricket and as we know there are millions of people around the world who consider him to be an ideal being. Those millions and many more look upto him, want to have a life like his. We don't know if he exhibits a range of personalities in his personal life, but we can say that it is only cricket which makes him an "ideal" personality for millions of his likers. Also, he doesnt exhibit any trait that can be useful to face the changing world. Same can be thought about Lionel Messi or say Leonardo de caprio. So the confusion is that- is it a diversified personality or a single trait that decides whether someone is ideal or not?
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        Oct 22 2013: I don't think being a cricketer is correctly labeled a personality trait. Are you asking about personality traits?
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          Oct 22 2013: Exactly, being a cricketer isn't a personality trait. What I wanted to convey by above example is that success/fame often masks the overall personality. People look upto successful people, consider their personality to be ideal, want to be them without knowing/irrespective what personality they exhibit in their personal life-how they actually are with their friends, family and colleagues. So is success the key factor by which anyone's personality is judged and everything else is just secondary? Also, isn't being cheerful, adaptable, wise, proficient, friendly, calm & confident the right combination of being ideal as far as overall personality is concerned?
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        Oct 22 2013: What you describe is not necessarily "personality".............what you are describing is "popularity".
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    Oct 26 2013: Tej, the question is what your objective is.
    Are you looking for the perfect personality in the eyes of others or do you want a personality that makes you feel good.
    If it is the first option, then you probably won't find the perfect personality because a kind of personality that I would like to see in another person might be different from that my neighbor looks for.
    If it is the 2. option, then you will have listen to yourself and figure out what makes you feel well.
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      Oct 27 2013: Is it necessary that in the process of being good to others or being someone who everybody loves to be with- you hurt yourself? And of course, no one in this age would like to hurt own very self to 'please' people! There must be some middle way we need to find as making peace with own self is as important as being ideal to others.
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        Oct 28 2013: No, it doesn't have to be that extreme that you hurt yourself, but the question is authenticity.
        The more you adapt to other people's expectations the more you leave behind of your own essence.
        There probably isn't a right or wrong answer to this question but everybody has to determine for himself how authentic he wants to be.
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    Oct 24 2013: Ideal- Someone in harmony with one's self. This means to be able to govern one's self with reason, knowledge, and experiences. To be able to manage and notice what one's appetites are and keep in moderation, free of addictions.
    This should also be among society or groups of people ranging from an individual to the governing everyone.

    Easier said than done.
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      Oct 25 2013: So understanding and governing one's own self is the only key? People have different ways of thinking, have different knowledge, reasons and experiences. This leads to individuality at group or individual level. So, to sum up, it won't lead to something which can conform to an ultimate standard of perfection or in other words, it won't be 'ideal'. The idea you expressed is actually noble, but quite impossible to implement.
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        Oct 25 2013: Yes, it is the key to move forward. Yes, people do have different ways of thinking..ect, Tej, I understand. Perfection is quite impossible to implement, yes. However, this doesn't mean we as individuals and/or humanity can not continually get closer to perfection than where we are today. Why does history have to repeat itself so many times? Seems insane to me. Is humanity gaining any knowledge from any of it? You and I do think, know, reason, and experience differently, yes. We can live next to each other until one of us becomes "addicted" to an appetite. Man to man, group to group there is no difference. What are some appetites seeking moderation? Power (greed, wealth, domination), food, drugs are just three that come just off the top of my head. When we begin to recognize these we can begin to move forward to civilization "CIVIL" and as an individual. I'll be right back, I'm going outside for a smoke. I do this alone so I don't piss others off in my home :) This is my individual repeat as history (war) repeating itself.
        To make this a complete circle back to topic. I'm not better than you and you are not better than me. We all have virtues which we get pleasure from. You, Technology , Innovation and Human Psychology. Me, flying an airplane and other things as well. Can we both put our virtues to use? Do we both have this opportunity or do we have to compete for it among our peers for it? If so, then we must find another virtue to obtain pleasure. Does this mean I'll seek some pleasure by having another smoke? No, I choose to come back and say what is above. :)
  • Oct 22 2013: I do not think there is an ideal personality and anyone who thinks someone successful is an ideal personality and trys to emulate them should think again.