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Doris Day

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I am losing my faith in humanity. How can I restore it?

Most of the things that I see and heard is how evil humans are toward each other. Human in nature are evil and selfish though I know there are still good but it seems like evil outweigh good. Lately there are things happen in my life which lessen my belief on positive things and losing my faith in humanity. Of course there is a part of me that don't want this to happen but my reasons why I should trust again is shattering.


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    Oct 21 2013: HI Doris,

    Forget humans .. I mean REALLY forget them - then just go back to being you.

    When you get faith in yourself, humanity kinda creeps back-in as a side-effect.

    From here - you seem worth believing in .. does that help?
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      Oct 21 2013: You offer sound advice Mitch.

      You want to know what the struggle is?

      The struggle for us, and when I say us, I mean women mostly, is that in us is a deep desire to be nurturing and believe in others. And many times our desire to have faith in ourselves is trumped by our desire to have faith in others.

      Your advice is very true........and I wholeheartedly agree.........but sometimes it takes YEARS to finally realize that believing in yourself and having faith in yourself, and trusting in yourself is OK...........and that other humans are BEYOND our control.

      I wanted to share that perspective because I have lived for many years on this fine planet, and have undergone many paradigm shifts...........I am always shifting gears........sometimes I sit in neutral for a while, until I am gently nudged.......

      Be Well Mitch...........l really enjoy reading what you write. :D
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      Oct 21 2013: What faith should I get in myself? I don't have much confidence with my self.
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        Oct 22 2013: You are alive.
        Being alive is a challenge. We take it for granted, but it's an achievement to be alive each new day.

        Expectations are the things that hurt appreciation of ourselves and others.
        If we were left alone to our own experience and observations, our expectations would be fairly accurate.
        It all goes off the rails in the stories we are told - and we are told a whole bunch of porkies over time. Specially in the media. The result is that humans are loaded up with mountains of unrealistic expectations.

        We are just animals. we do animal stuff because there is some advantage to be had - it is not always clear, and it is not always "nice". We tell ourselves stories about how things "should" be.
        Remember "should" is a word of coercion.

        When you know that every living thing must wrest "advantage" from the world to get from this moment to the next - and some take way too much advantage. But when you know that's going on, your expectations get more realistic.

        I like to think of snakes.
        Here we have 5 of the most deadly snakes in the world - they are always around, but few people get bitten.
        Snakes do not live in hopes of biting a human. They are easily frightened and strike aggressively as a defence. They have no ears so they can't hear us coming unless we make some ground vibrations - they feel it. This is why they strike - they get surprised and it frightens them.
        So when we walk in the grass or bush, we stomp to let them know - that way you never see them .. they are already running away.
        That's what I tell my son - so that he won't have persistent irrational fear of them and still acknowledge that one bite is death.
        Compassion is the only way to faith - in yourself and in others.

        Humanity seems to be doing some incredibly destructive things. There's reasons for that, some of those reasons are not known.
        Things won't get better before we apply some compassion.
        Don't look for reasons of guilt - mostly we don't know .. the stories are often false - ah-well :)

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