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I am losing my faith in humanity. How can I restore it?

Most of the things that I see and heard is how evil humans are toward each other. Human in nature are evil and selfish though I know there are still good but it seems like evil outweigh good. Lately there are things happen in my life which lessen my belief on positive things and losing my faith in humanity. Of course there is a part of me that don't want this to happen but my reasons why I should trust again is shattering.

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    Oct 16 2013: well, my first thought is that some of the basic comforts of life you enjoy come from humanity. For instance, do you buy food in a store, or restaurant? Well, humans grew that food, humans harvested it, processed it, transported it, cooked it. Do you buy clothes? Humans grew that cotton, or made that material, processed it, turned it into clothes. Do you have shelter that was made by someone else? Same story. So that might be a reason to like humans.

    Beyond that, which evil are you talking about, evil in your relationships with the people around you, or evil in the world at large? What are the evils you are experiencing? Maybe your job is to fight the evil, it may not be easy to feel good toward other people, you may have to try to change things you don't like, and that can take a lot of work and risk, maybe you will spend your whole life doing it. Also, you can keep in the back of your mind that sometimes when people seem to be doing evil, they are teaching us something, we can benefit from it.

    So how will you fight evil?
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      Oct 17 2013: Well I don't know those people who work so that I can buy and have the things that I needed therefore I don't think of the positively or negatively. In some point I was referring to the world at large however my main point is the people around me.Going away from these people perhaps will give me a break but at the same time it requires a big work and risk as you say. We can learn from one mistake but how about 2 3 4 5...? Everything seems so redundant. You forgive and they will do something again. They said Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. I don't think it works anymore.
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        Oct 17 2013: well, then, Doris, the problem isn't that you've lost faith in humanity as a whole, it's only that you're unhappy with some people right around you. Are these people in your family, or friends? Well, it's a bit hard for me to comment without knowing you well, or the people well. And also you have not told us what this evil is that they have done to you, is this correct, they have done it to you, not to someone else? Well, I can think of two options. One is to lessen or stop your contact with these people, this is easier with friends than with family, but you can do it with family also. The other is to talk to them about the incident, tell them what you perceive happened and ask them for the explanation. But if you've already done this before and it hasn't helped, maybe it is time to reduce your contact with them. Do you live with your family? If they are really treating your horribly, can you move out?
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          Oct 17 2013: I wish I could answer all your questions... Because of what I been going through with the people around me it is easy for me to conclude how evil humans are every time I heard or see other hurting other or how human are being evil and selfish as a whole. Reducing my contact with them is possible but how about after that? It might hard to trust to other people again risking my trust to be broken once more.
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        Oct 18 2013: re I wish I could answer all your questions. Well, I would say that the next time you will be a little wiser, you can reduce your contact with these people who hurt you, next time because of your experience you will be able to avoid it, you will see it coming sooner and avoid it altogether or at least not have it happen so many times with the same person. Am I right? Also, I'm thinking, Doris, that while we do have to show some trust in other people, there are also ways that we can make a more scientific judgement about them, or gather evidence about them, so that our trust is not just blind faith, it is based on some evidence. It's kind of hard to say how that might work in your case because you don't want to reveal the specifics of your situation. But I'm sure with time you will learn how to make judgements based on more evidence. At the same time, intuition can help you judge people, if you feel uncomfortable with a person your feelings are very likely correct.
        Another thought is to get some kind of counseling, either talk to a person you do trust or talk to a psychologist, or some will say talk to a priest but I'm not very religious so I'm not sure about that. Here in the States we have advice columns in the newspaper, you could write to them, here we have telephone lines where you can call and talk about almost any subject to people who will listen, some of them are volunteers and some are paid. Or you could read books on this subject, I'm sure authors have written about how to handle relationships after some people have broken your trust. A librarian might help you find these books. Here in the states there are some advice shows on the radio where a person can call and talk about a situation and get some advice.
        If these ideas don't help let me know and I'll try to think of some others. What is your biography, are you working, going to school, living at home, on your own?

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