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Tiger Flynn

General Manager, Red Stag Management

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The Internet: Has it made us more or less social?

I believe that whilst the internet, used well, can open up so many more social possibilities for everyone, I feel that it has made us more insular too.

Maybe not TED users so much, but a lot of people using social networks have ironically made us more tunnel-visioned than ever. When I look at how many of my friends on Facebook use it to reach out for acceptance of almost every facet of their existence I find it a sad state of affairs. Cry-for-help statuses, choosing the best profile picture and so on.

It also makes us more lonely. For example if someone has experienced a terrible break-up and posts increasingly desperate statuses about it, less and less people like it and comment on it making the poster feel even more alone.

The way we reach out is different now and has expanded our horizons in a way not possible even when I as a teenager (I'm 30 now) is incredible in many ways. But the focus on the self and how to best represent it has become for a lot of people their raison d'etre and has made us more insular.

What does everybody else think about this?


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  • Nov 1 2013: I used to have friends that would sit and enjoy a ball game together. Now that so much attention is put towards their mobile phones and their facebook maintenance, I no longer feel like their companionship is worthwhile. Even requesting their attention for short periods at a time feels like a useless and somewhat humiliating endeavor.

    Now that people are usually in more than one place at a time I feel like they are never truly present. Not to mention they allow themselves constant stimulation and are no longer able to deal with boredom which in turn leads to a more aggressive and impatient attitude.

    I feel like we're losing more than we gain.

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