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What do you think of loving your enemy instead of hatred and taking a revenge?

After my long following up here,here comes my first thread.:)
Have you had any moments that you really felt furious at somebody who had violated your rights and hurt your feelings even people's life without being  punished?How did you react and under what circumstances will you choose to give up such animosity? Do you agree with "Love your enemies, for they tell you your faults"and "forgetting is the best way to forgiveness"?  Or do you think you should give them back tit for tat? What are the best ways to fight for your rights except for law sues?
I'm looking forward to your thought-provoking ideas on this because I think your ideas will  help me and other people more or less to better understand hatred and learn more skills about how to deal with it and react to it correctly, which could also possibly make us better understand the importance of love ~!Thank you in advance and wish you all a happy life without hatred~!

Topics: hatred

Closing Statement from Yoka Feng

First I'd like to extend my thanks to all the contributors to this thread. I've learned a lot from all of you~! Thank you~!
We talked about different kinds of relevant relationship when handling hatred. Let me summarize as follows:
1.Family relationship: Love is important. Just as colleen said."love the man...hate the behavior". But according to Kumiko’s example, it reminds us we still should protect ourselves from some family violence without unconditional love.

2.Customer relations: As edulover learner said, teachers shouldn’t embrace hatred when handling the provocations or troubles from the students. So should some people do when serving their customers.

3.Relations between different religions and cultures: As Jimmy and Juliette Zahn provided the talk,the big love is more important.

4.Business relationship:
1)between peer colleagues: According to different people’s different dispositions and experiences(like Fritzie saying), there’re different views in this part. I’d like to advise carlo’s and Harald’s opinions: Being strong and tough enough with some tactics when encountering the provocations and respond logically to avoid some bad emotional consequences. Neither love and hate your colleagues.
2)between you and your superior: As Jelena mentioned, this may be a good chance to challenge yourself to get good results. And sometimes it may stimulate your courage and potentials to fight for your rights.
3) If the corporation culture is bad enough to let you face endless provocations from problematic people all around, you should prepare yourself to leave it ASAP.

And the most powerful love is like carlo having mentioned: Use your love and tolerance to destroy the devil’s belief and let them kill themselves.

Mike Colera told us something very interesting about the different inclinations of hatred between the western culture and eastern culture. And I hope every part of the world could understand each other from the individuals in all kinds of fields.

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  • Oct 28 2013: That's ok if your enemy isn't to dangerous. Otherwise I'd say you would be making yourself vunerable.
    Do you love someone who has a gun to your head? Not likely.
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      Oct 29 2013: Long time no see~!
      I think I'm not a vunerable typle of person. But I'm with your opinion---made me think of your comment of the patriot throwing bomb .:)

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