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Too much self-confidence?

I appreciate freedom and self-confidence for what they are but it seems that in this present day, there is a perpetuation of doing wrong things.

It's hard to say that, me as an individual without any skill in that area, can judge something that someone else probably loves.
How do you reason with someone else's dream/wants before they exist as a product that will somehow effect another human being (negatively)?

Here are a list of realistic scenarios:
1) The insane amount of new TV shows and constant stream of new mainstream movies. There are way too many actors that want to stay and new ones coming in. The movies are also lacking new ideas. Where does it stop?

2) Job vs. quality. Whether it's renovating a house or doing a design project, people are self confident in following instructions but are not doing it for the outcome.

3) People who develop arrogant and adamant dispositions. Such as in politics and leaders of corporations.

There are always talks on being more self-confident, but not many on responsibility of this trait.

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    Oct 11 2013: Check out the Kathryn Shulz talk on being wrong or the Brene Brown on vulnerability.
    • Oct 15 2013: These were great mind-opening talks. I'm a film lover so I've already had a sneak peek on what vulnerability means. "The Perks of Being a Wallflower" has a line, "We accept the love we think we deserve." But it doesn't just stop there, "we are where we think we deserve to be" is just so fitting to describe people in general.

      But I think it is all too true the two levels idiotic and evil exist within this world. There's not much to do about them. There's a very rare chance that anyone could convince them of anything. Where does it end though? You can't convince that one person, they will start a family, teach the family his beliefs of being adamant and the cycle starts again. It's a "for every good, there will always be a bad" sort of thing.
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    Oct 11 2013: We live in a narcissistic society.......

    I recently read an article that addressed this tendency....here is an excerpt from it:

    "It seems so ironic: Even when people face the threat of losing their job, their home, and even their pension, many of them are still obsessed with getting anything and everything that money can buy".............then the article quotes from the book 'The Narcissism Epidemic' : "Buying flashy consumer goods on credit in order to look and feel like a winner is similar to hitting the crack pipe in order to improve your mood. Both are initially cheap and work really well----but only for a very short period of time. In the long term both leave you penniless and depressed."

    Self-Confidence, if it is too be at a healthy level, should be tempered with modesty.
    Then there are all the other wonderful traits a humane being should possess.........kindness, honesty, love, mildness, self-control, humility, etc etc etc

    We may not be able to change others, but we may certainly make a concerted effort to manifest a healthy dose of self-confidence, without going overboard.
    • Oct 11 2013: When I see a motivator, it's certain that they have the best qualities of self-confidence. It always holds true that yourself is the most important concern in terms of courage. I guess I'm just trying to find, (if there's any), a path to convince others that you cannot always get what you want.
    • Oct 13 2013: Mary, I agree to all what you quoted and said are correct. However, I would like to supplement an addendum to the quote.
      There are lot of those who become penniless and depressed because of too much self confidence wouldn't be depressed for long, some of them turn to hatred on the society by blaming the society having treated him/her unfairly despite his/her "talent" and "hard work". Sometimes, they become extremely anti-social or revolutionists. This turned around is not unusual. And to some extent, many of the extremists or Islamists are feeling the same hatred because they believe their religion is the "true religion" and their "misfortune" is due to the exploitation by the infidels.
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        Oct 14 2013: Thank you Bart for your addendum.
        I am sure you have seen many things that I have not. It is always terrible when we get ahold of resentment, and blame others for our own bad decisions. It is normal for humans to look for a scapegoat.......but being aware of this mental inclination can help us put blame where blame belongs.

        Thanks for the exchange of thoughts.
  • Oct 16 2013: I think we are mixing self confidence with arrogance and fear. A self confident person knows when they are in unknown territory and will ask for advice instead of just assuming they know what to do. Only if a decision needs to be made immediately will a decision be made. let me talk about the scenarios

    1. fear - movie/tv execs are scared to lose money. better to stick to something proven which might lose some money but not a great amount - lone ranger lost a lot of money
    2. saw this when there was a layoff and then hired new engineers/tech - they followed the guidelines but did not know why they were doing some tests. they were scared to ask - they also expected to be told which is wrong.
    3. Have seen this even in middle and lower managers. Saw a 1st level manager who was a former military officer (must not have been a good one) take over a production line and tell techs who had 30 years on the line what to do because he was a manager and would not listen when the techs told him he was wrong. He put together a steam turbine backwards - it had to be taken apart - cost millions and time - he was fired 6 months later due to another mistake where he would not listen. think he wanted to prove something instead of getting the job done.
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    Oct 16 2013: .

    Yes.
    There is too much confidence
    becasue everything has its own optimal point.
  • Oct 11 2013: One knows they have too much self-confidence when they get into certain messes. Think of the ending to Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid.
    • Oct 11 2013: I have yet to watch that movie. It's on my IMDB Watchlist heh. The messes that aren't considered messes by the majority are what I fear for. Big messes, like the government shutdown and such, are covered by our beliefs and media and must be resolved anyways.
      • Oct 12 2013: Two guys drew their pistols and rushed out of a shack for a gunfight with 100's of soldiers they didn't realize were outside the shack. What a way to end the movie. No shooting It just ends, and we already knew both men were killed.