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What are your ideas/plans on changing the world?

The world is falling apart, people are in depression and no one is stepping up to talk about anything. What would you want people to hear? What do you think would matter the most for a human being? Do you think we have the power to change the world for the better? What is your dream voice?

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    Oct 6 2013: Hi again Moe:>)
    My plan, is to continue to "BE" the change I want to "SEE" in our world:>)

    Yes, I believe we have the power to change our world....one step at a time. When we look at the challenges in the entire world, it often feels overwhelming, and sometimes, may stop progress toward that goal. Each and every one of us can, however, change things in our own little corner of the world. The more and more people who join hands and hearts in the effort toward change, the more powerful it becomes.....in my humble perception and experience:>)
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        Oct 19 2013: Hello Vivid Dreams!
        You certainly have been busy on this site recently with lots of interrogation-type questions and critique! It is interesting that you, yourself, have not answered the topic question, and yet seem to demand clarification from others!

        If you perceive that I'm doing "nothing", I understand that as your personal perception and judgment. Based on feedback I've gotten most of my life, the changes I have contributed to are recognized.

        I have mentioned my participation regarding change many times on TED, and if you genuinely want that information, you can read my comments:>)
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    Oct 8 2013: Hello Moe,
    So far, for changing the world:
    I am no longer participating in consumerism and single use disposable culture. No plastic plates or cups. No paper ones. No straws. No more plastic utensils. No more plastic spoons. Not even the cutest littlest spoon that we eat ice cream with. I order ice cream on a cone and not in the cup any more. I eat the ice cream and I eat the cone too. I bring my own reusable bags to the grocery store, I recycle, up-cycle, walk more, drive less, plant more, eat local. I support small businesses. No more "shopping mall therapy".. No more chemicals. I will not ever perm my hair to get curls. I am going straight ;-)
    ..and as of seeing the movie listed below I no longer want the things shown in it :
    http://www.ted.com/talks/edward_burtynsky_on_manufactured_landscapes.html
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      Oct 18 2013: One thing, if I told you something negative about the soap you use to clean plates and silverware would it mean or shape your habits in any way? I'm not disagreeing with you in anyway, just asking.
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        Oct 18 2013: Yes it would. Particularly when you back up your information about the soap I am using with a great deal of credible evidence, I would change my habits and behavior absolutely immediately.
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        Oct 19 2013: Vivid Dreams. Yes. I would love to!!

        Please let me know how I can end plastic production as one individual. I am so excited to hear your practical solutions.

        I am one person who is not in charge of any of the plastic production factories. Therefore, I have only stopped being the consumer of disposable (non-biodegradable) plastics, and disposable paper goods so far.

        In order to make even this much change in myself, I had to overcome my sheepish habits formed by living in a mass-consumption-culture. As soon as I was in charge of the buying, I made the change in myself. I did this by switching what I buy. When I pass the isles in stores, where the floor-to-ceiling shelves are being constantly filled, I actually call them
        (silently in my head) "disposable plastic bads" and "disposable paper bads" ;-).

        A "consumer goods store" I call the "consumer bads store". There are stores that sell nothing else but disposable plastics and paper everything, I call these "the landfill stores". I do all this silently in my head. This makes it easy to pass up on the colorful shiny temptation. It also saves me from falling for the low low pricing of these material objects. Sadly junk is much more available, convenient, prevalent and affordable than good and truly valuable things right now.

        I would LOVE to put a stop at the production level. Can you help me find a way?? That would be awesome!! This TED Talk is really worth watching. Have you seen it?

        http://www.ted.com/talks/edward_burtynsky_on_manufactured_landscapes.html
        ( summary-18 min length- free on the internet)

        Or the even better presentation
        http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eVE0zCivtCY
        (a full movie format ~ 1hr30min length- free on the internet )

        An ounce of prevention is worth than a pound of cure ==========> we need to ==========> STOP=========> STOP PRODUCTION OF DISPOSABLE PLASTICS AND SAVE OUR FORESTS.
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    Oct 5 2013: If you believe that people are not stepping up to talk about anything, I think you are not looking in the right places. You owe it to yourself to look beyond the community of which you may be a part and start reading, listening, and engaging about the subjects that most interest you.

    Whatever you care about and whatever concerns you, you can use the internet to find lots of people not only stepping up to talk about it but also acting for change in that area.
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    Oct 5 2013: “Greatness arises not from what you do externally, but from what you dare internally.”

    You hear people all the time saying that they want to change the world, that they want to have a big impact in the world and of course, I think it’s amazing and all of us should think this way, but saying and doing there are two different things.

    Sometimes I feel like we want to change the whole world, but not ourselves, and not how we treat those close to us, because that’s how you actually start changing the world. You start with yourself, and then you continue with those around you, and the influence you will have on them, it will later expand on those around them… and little by little will manage to change the world.

    It’s beautiful to have this big bold vision, but if within you there is turmoil and anxiety, if within you there is anger and frustration, that is exactly what you will pass on to others, and if you are focusing too much “on the world” and how to change it at once, you will actually miss the big picture, and you will never understand what changing the world really means, and how changing the world can actually be done.

    If you are disrespectful with those close to you, whether they are big or small from your perspective and if you, and if you don’t project on them that which you want to offer to the whole world, you will never achieve your goal.

    How you treat anybody is how you will treat everybody, and if you don’t expand your love, your kindness and your generosity on the genitor, the waiter that is serving your dinner in your favorite restaurant, on the person who is cleaning your house, on the beggar from across the street, you will never really be able to expand your generosity on the whole world.

    You change the world by changing yourself, by starting with how you look at this process, and you will change the world by changing the way you treat yourself and ever person you interact on a daily basses. That’s how you change the world.
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    Oct 7 2013: I want people to hear that there is always hope because me myself I want to hear words that are full of hope, words that encourages me, words that appreciates who I am and believes in me. However, I believe that actions and words must come together.

    We have the power to change the world, it is in our hand. When it comes to changing the world I always remember these two following quotes:

    “ If you want to change the world, start with yourself. Be the change that you wish to see in the world."

    "No matter how gifted, you alone cannot change the world."
  • Oct 7 2013: I am not waiting for a dream voice, I try and do all I can now. If I see something is wrong, I try and fix it. If I have an idea, I either act on it or share it. If I think I can bring positive energy to a situation, I try. If I see someone struggling, and I have the time and energy to help, I will help.

    I think we do have the power to change the world. We have the power to shape our surroundings, harness the powers of nature, and live in harmony with nature and each other....or not.

    Remember the Starfish effect? In this story, two people meet on a beach covered for miles with innumerable dying starfish. One of them is busy picking up the starfish and throwing them back in the water. The other one questions this, saying “There are so many starfish! You can’t possibly make a difference.” At which point the starfish rescuer smiles, throws another starfish back into the waves, and says “I made a difference for that one.”

    Let's not wait for perfect, dream voices or a set of ideal circumstances to do right, take action or make things better. Just focus on what you can do now, think about how you might amplify your effect, and see how you can align your goals and dreams such that you have a positive effect on the environment and those around you.

    As you throw starfish back in the water, big or small, you will feel good about what you are doing. If you can amplify the effect of your actions by having these small things build into something larger, all the better.
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      • Oct 19 2013: I rarely fully know the full reaction when I take an action. Usually, I believe my action will do more good than harm, and I would rather do good than harm, and believe I usually know and can predict which action will do harm and which will do good. The belief that my action will do good, and the willingness to accept the risk of doing harm if I am wrong, have to be high enough and low enough respectively for me to believe my action is better than no action at all. If I believe I can take and action and the result would do good, but choose not to, then I have missed an opportunity. If I choose to not to take the action because of fear, laziness or indecision, I need to improve myself.

        In the parable, it did not matter why the starfish was on the beach, the boy thought starfish needed to be in the water to survive and took action.

        One rarely knows the proper goal, just goals. Prioritization of goals depends on personal values, risk/reward evaluations, belief in self, and opportunity, among other things. There may be more than one goal done in parallel. Prioritization of goals might be on-going through life. One important personal characteristic is the ability stay focused and on-task to achieve the goals that are achievable, and to recognize when a course of action might be more of a chosen direction than an achievable goal.

        Time and energy allocations are based on expectations of risk/reward, goal prioritizations, things necessary for survival, and other human needs. Feedback from early success or failure towards achieving the goal also can be used to reprioritize if necessary.

        A relative perfect means you cannot find a flaw in something. True perfect means you have the ability to find all the flaws in something, and found none. You may or may not be aware of this ability. Imperfect can be detected by a flaw. You may never know perfect, but you can rationalize that by fixing a flaw, the situation will be more perfect.

        The boy made this rationalization.
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    Oct 7 2013: I believe only society formed out of true interest (Simplicity) and honest work (be it a business or Corporate Social Responsibility or NGO etc) can only help the human civilizations from facing such problems, there is opportunity but who is willing to take it and scrap the wants or desire of having everything. There are many people who don't want all of these but are forced to take it because of necessity or because of system. In order to bring Change we have change our Social approach and paradigm of Society and Laws. It is necessary and every thing cannot be relate to Profit. Even profit is made by similar interest group so change your interest and save your younger generation, who will suffer if we not act today.
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        Oct 19 2013: I follow and communicate to others, I don't force my views as I have said, people have various interest and these interest does not rise suddenly it take time and at appropriate time they will seek solution at that point of time the individual look for like minded people and this is interest which mutually benefit both of them.

        The first step of interest is Question, same as you have asked. I attend various seminars and discussion, debates which is where I empty my thoughts and get answer or better solution to Issues.

        your next question is Why would laws change the world? right now we all are studying and believing on the laws which are either invented, discovered or are forced upon others as hierarchy. we are all surrounded by these laws but how many are interested in it may be 80% or may be 20% scientist but why should I follow these laws (its a very big topic for that you have to read all my comments posted on various Debates to understand) therefore I said "There are many people who don't want all of these but are forced to take it because of necessity or because of system. In order to bring Change we have change our Social approach and paradigm of Society and Laws"

        World is just not formed by human society, So first of all respect other Animals Society (many have extinct at least we can avoid this and prevent them) etc.

        Profit is a monetary term of Greed and selfishness which is again somebody's "interest" and we all are becoming susceptible to it

        Thank you vivid dreams for your Question I believe I have answer all your Questions, God give you Peace!!
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    Oct 6 2013: More and more people are starting to understand the importance of a healthy lifestyle. Proper nutrition can heal people physically, mentally and emotionally. In my opinion, the best nourishment can be achieved through a raw food diet.
    Here is something that I would like people to see, hear, and feel:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z3xOU2tLl7g
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        Oct 19 2013: It is not just about surviving, it is about thriving. When you feel at your best, you act the best way you can. People doing good = the world gets to change in positive ways.
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    Oct 6 2013: Being the change agent with in my own arena for the change I want to see is the most important thing I can start with.
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    Oct 6 2013: Lots of questions here - I'll take one: "What do you think would matter most for a human being?" I think that at this stage of our development as a species/society, and with the technical abilities we are on the threshold of achieving, the most important 'matter' would be how we will begin to relate to, and value, one another - every single one.
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    Oct 6 2013: I also disagree that 'no one is talking about anything', my experience is the opposite, there's too much talk about it, everyone has their own opinion but no-one seems to be effectively solving things.

    If you carry on browsing through tED talks you will pick up plenty of truely amazing ideas, but the realistic plan for any one to 'change the world' is to gain influence (by getting rich/powerful/popular, whatever). Only then are they in a position to implement their ideas.
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    Oct 6 2013: Hi~ Moe, I think make myself better and help others be better can change the world for the better.Through effective communications and educations,eliminate the misunderstanding and distrust of different cultures and people.
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        Oct 19 2013: Hahahahahahaha……I read your comments. They cracked me up~! Life is full of surprise~! Haha……,for this I thank you. Haha ……I'm out of breath~~
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    Oct 19 2013: Vivid Dreams,

    I love you! You are my princess of all my princesses. I never wanna wake up and without you. It is only you that can keep me afloat in life. We are on a mountain top together just me and you. The stars are shining ever so bright. I'm looking into your eyes and you are looking into mine. Now we are together on the back of a winged horse just beneath the purple fire skies of Balootron. I undue your breathing apparatus from the tank for a moment and put it behind me as I ask you to pull my finger. You taste it. Your face turns green and you fall from this high horse. I take a leap of fate to save you from sudden death and ask you to pull my finger again please. How about saying, "the dream is improving how can I help?"

    I believe I'm dead on subject honey :)
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    Oct 18 2013: Everyone does not need to share, and profit is good! This social change is a bunch of!!!!!!
    Stealing from those who earn and giving to those who only take, has never worked.

    If everyone made enough (or more than enough) profit to be self-reliant, then there would be no one in need. It is true some rich think in order to win some has to lose, but far more believe in finding win/win ways to earn. And stealing from them hurts us all!

    The world has always been falling apart, black plagues, crusades, false gods, master races, and so forth. And yet it goes on, despite those who cry it is ending. Past mankind hardships are now just part of history, and someday current hardships will just be part of history.
    I have learned to embrace my hardships as lessons need to be a better heavenly being, and for grand worldly hardships I do what I can and except my limits.

    In the past people just like all of us, witnessed the fail of great empires (Greek, Roman, Viking, etc.) and learn from those experiences, and now we are witnessing the death of America and we will be wiser for the experience. Feel comfort in knowing humans still embrace science that the Greek empire gave us, republics that romans gave humanity, and the Viking noble virtues. And so mankind will always embrace freedom and god given rights with or without the US.
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      Oct 19 2013: OK. We don't need to share. You see a group of kids playing together. One of them has many toys and just about all the monopoly money. This child does not share. Do you tell this child anything or do you pat this child on the back with honor? Is this child better than the rest of the children or just more fortunate? The child makes a deal with the other children in order to gain more toys because in this game everyone wants for who? Themselves. Keep it a secret and stop posting helpful ways to learn for yourself on youtube, with out them we are nothing. You believe we should build another great empire to learn a lesson again? How many times shall we press the repeat button, Don? Tell me something you have learned that I can not learn. Now we both have the knowledge but the differences is who can get to the resources or can not to put what is taught to profit. Would you be willing to teach everyone for free how you personally make money? That would be like shooting yourself in the foot, eh? The markets are flooded and not everyone will profit. What are we sharing, fortune or misfortune? I have to admit, I only take in this world and never give. I have nothing to share with you or anyone. If you read this post, you own me a dollar. Sowhat if you feel you have been cheated, I earned it and all you are trying to do is ONLY take. Cheers :) Profit is good, yes it is. Poor child with everything is all alone now.
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    Oct 13 2013: Of course we have the power to change the world for the better. But problem is your idea of 'better' and that of mine most often are not the same.
    "The world" is a bubble we all create for ourselves - a place where only my kind of people live, my kind of jobs exist, I can eat my kind of food, wear my kind of clothes, read my kind of books and have my kind of family and friends. It runs on an economy where only my kind of skill gets paid. "The world" always falls apart.
    World, on the other hand is a resilient place time. It can handle all the abuse we can do to it and still live on with brilliance of hope and peace. If only we choose to live outside of the bubble that is "the world".
    The time we spend looking for a dream voice is a waste. It is within us. My problems and depressions will vanish the moment I start to work on others problems and depressions. I remember I was once an unhappy and sad person myself who used to think I was the only one.
    Just get up, go out, smile and lift your hat to the first stranger you meet and say hello. Begin the change.
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        Oct 19 2013: I am changing myself. Since I am not extra terrestrial I am therefore changing the world.
        For the known history of the world, no change could ever be brought by changing others and whatever progress we have made have been made through changes that came from within.

        A stranger starts to change into a fellow when you say hi.

        Of course I believe that delving into other peoples' problems brings change to the world. The medium we are interacting with was not developed for solving one individual's problems. In effect it changed the way we communicate today.

        I think you did not get me when I said, my problems will vanish. When I start to see myself just as any other in the home, neighborhood, society or world, there can be no such thing as 'my' problem.

        When an old lady went to Gautama Buddha seeking solace from the grief she was under losing her only son, Buddha said he could heal her pain, if she could bring a fistful of mustard seeds from any home free from the experience of grief. The old lady never returned. I think she realized what Buddha wanted to communicate.
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    Oct 7 2013: Simple. Equality for fathers. I don't believe people are generally in depression. Most have reason for their sadness or difficulties.
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      Fathers need jobs. It is only by watching their father working at jobs, which he ENJOYS doing day after day, that children can learn true HONOR that is in working.

      "Life was a lot simpler when what we honored was father and mother rather than all major credit cards" (Robert Orben)
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        Oct 9 2013: "+Jobs+

        Fathers need jobs. It is only by watching their father working at jobs, which he enjoys doing day after day, that children can learn true honor that is in working."

        I respect and support this general idea. I am afraid this is yesterdays solutions though if it is a monetary system stand point of view. The Robert Orben quote leads me to believe differently. I don't believe we could possibly turn it around back to that. Too many holes in that boat to bail out the water and patch up.
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          Oct 9 2013: I was being fully supportive of your point. I thought the thumbs up would show that I agree and respect it. Sorry that my comment failed to convey any value. I am sorry also that Orben's quote, with which I meant to lighten up the hearts seeking solutions, created further confusion for you. For me, I saw it as meaning:

          " It was a lot simpler when we valued parents and honored parenting, instead of valuing immediate-gratifications at a-not-so-immediate-30%-increased-compound-cost, which we are responsible for but at a much much later date..for the object(s) of our transient-spur-of-the-moment-desire, which brings with it years of unhappiness, while we honor our debt."

          (..am leaving boat with unpatchable holes : now! :-)

          Please describe what you mean when you write "Simple. Equality for fathers".

          I ask you also to please describe it to me as if I were 11 years old because I would like to understand in one go what is "Simple. Equality for fathers"

          Looking forward :-)
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        Oct 10 2013: No problem. Your comment does hold value. People (mothers, fathers, men, and women) need things to do when there are no jobs. Even further, people need good jobs with better bonding relationships between the company and employee. This is the boat (monetary system) that is or has sunk. I tend to believe it is fully under water and the more we keep believing things will get better the further it sinks (meaning a greater number of people will suffer). I strongly believe many broken families are symptoms of the failure of this monetary system that has been present for over a decade now as you have stated, "valuing immediate-gratifications at a-not-so-immediate-30%-increased-compound-cost, which we are responsible for but at a much much later date..for the object(s) of our transient-spur-of-the-moment-desire, which brings with it years of unhappiness, while we honor our debt". What I mean is the word job is attached to the word money.

        In one go- Fathers should have the right to spend an equal and shared amount of time with child or children in the very beginning of a divorce/separation. 50/50 custody. A mom values this "transient-spur-of-the-moment-desire" and leaves because this appetite can not be fully quenched and "upgraded constantly" with the father she has children with anymore. What is a easy fix for this appetite many moms suffer from? Dad, I'm taking the kids away from you (conditioning) and you will PAY me and see them every other weekend. This is standard (4 days a month, 15% of total time). If you are unable to pay this amount you will go in dept here as well, BTW, I totally screwed up your credit but awe, life just isn't fair isn't it?

        Thank you for giving me the opportunity to explain. Simple enough? Feel free to keep the questions coming, it shows you are willing to help and understand. You see, the boat is so sunk kids are or have been means to make money...everyone from the courts to mom and it is all extracted from who? Sorry DAD, what a deadbeat
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          Oct 10 2013: I would like to make sure that I understand correctly.. that by "simple equality for fathers", what you mean is, children to live 3.5 days per week with their father and 3.5 days per week with their mother after their parents divorce each other and go from living together in one home to living apart in two separate homes.
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        Oct 10 2013: There is one person I know of on this site that has the ability to help with this problem. I believe she chooses not to. She avoids me like the plague now. She's an old timer from back when dad would go to the store for a loaf of bread and never come back. See, the power is like a pendulum back and forth. Now, for mothers it is like an ef'n (you're 11, you heard this word already before[smile]) epidemic in this nation. Dad, loses job=great time for mom to leave. Why? 1. No money to spend in court to fight (money=power) and that is IF he choses (trust) the right lawyer. From my short experience they all sleep in the same bed together. 2. If he has assets he can be forced to sell everything he owns in order to make child support payments as he is threatened with jail time. Even to the extent of selling the roof over his head which in turn= nowhere for the children to be sheltered on these 4 days of visitation a month. Dad has good job and works his ass off=great time for mom to leave. Why? Simple, mom is accustomed to living with x amount of $ (+alimony) and dad gets the standard 4 days a month to pay his fair share of what the children are accustomed to living under which is all chosen by mom what the money goes towards. Shut up and pay up, dad! Half, yes sir,...half.

        Now, if dad chooses to leave. Hell, I guess he is a happy selfish one as well to be willing to pay to get away from family. Again, fair?

        People lack problem solving skills or the ability to suppress these appetites are missing.

        Do you REALLY believe these court systems are thinking about what is best for the children? Gag me with the plastic spoon here next to me. Maybe easier to sharply break it and stab me with it in a kidney.
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          Oct 10 2013: Do let me know if you would like my help. If yes, then I have something to ask from you. Return here after watching this movie and write me all that you think of it's content.
          http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eVE0zCivtCY

          :-)Deal?
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          Oct 11 2013: Vincent, I notice your comment..."There is one person I know of on this site that has the ability to help with this problem. I believe she chooses not to. She avoids me like the plague now. She's an old timer..."

          It appears that I am the only female "old timer" on this site at the moment, so I'm wondering if I am the one you refer to? If so, I am glad to help if I can. Tell me how here, or send an e-mail through the TED system if you like.
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        Oct 11 2013: I will get to it when I have the time. I have a big plate of things to do until next week. Yes, I am putting it off because it is a long video but I will fully watch it, that's a deal.
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          Oct 11 2013: +Jobs+

          I appreciate that you will dedicate time for watching it when you can really sit down. Looking forward :-)

          Moe; you might have to request an extension on your conversation from TEd - you can do that by contacting TED. They usually do one extension ( I think :)
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          There are ......two days..... still available here and I would like to make good on my end of the deal with you.
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          Earth calling seaplane pilot........Come in seaplane pilot!!
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        Oct 12 2013: Running out of reply buttons here. Yes, Collen. Can you answer these: Why are the courts so black and white? Why is how much money Dad can give the major factor when a mother files a custody battle? MOST IMPORTANT...Why is a child not able to spend time with their father just because he doesn't make x amount of dollars as he personally struggles financially? My kids want to see and be with me just as much as with their mother. I want to be and see them just as much as they want to see me. Why does Mom get to decide what is best for the child in everything, I mean everything (no earrings, no hair cuts ...it gets hot down here). It's a minor dictatorship by a landslide and chaotic on the other hand. It is nowhere near a just state (compromise). You can't convince me you are the only female old timer on this site, lol you are not old either but I read some of your post. I guess it's all about how we feel. I understand you are a great distance away to help my problem much but to see and understand what is happening around us could make things better for families even if you are able to do so in or on your local level. ...and just for land-yap, why does "dead beat dad" mean a dad that has little money to offer? The equality is out there in the workforce BUT where is it in the home??? The amount of competition has dramatically increased over many decades but the notion that surrounds the "dead beat dad" is still at large as if dad should be the breadwinner in every home still. Do the math, it just doesn't logically add up.
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          Oct 12 2013: I'll try to answer your questions Vincent. Hope you don't mind me calling you that name, which was your profile name when we had our first conversations on TED.

          "Why are the courts so black and white?"
          I do not perceive the courts to be black and white, although in some respects, there are certain rules and laws they have to follow consistently. In my experiences in family courts, here in this state, they seem to look carefully at all information.

          "Why is how much money Dad can give the major factor when a mother files a custody battle?"
          Finances are a major factor when the court is considering who is more financially able to take care of the child, and I think that is true in most states.

          "Why is a child not able to spend time with their father just because he doesn't make x amount...."
          In my observation with the court systems here, the amount of money a parent has, does not usually impact how much time that parent is allowed to spend with the children. Could there be some other factor which influences that in your case?

          "Why does mom get to decide what is best for the child in everything...."
          Generally, the parent who is awarded custody is given the authority to make more decisions for the children.

          The only thing I can suggest Vincent, is for you to be as cooperative as possible with the court and your x-partner. I've read many of your comments, and it seems that you are fighting against the system? I understand your discontent, and if your genuine intent is to spend time with your kids, cooperating with the system might be the best thing to do.

          I AM an "old timer".....all things considered.....I don't mind you calling me that:>)
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          Oct 12 2013: Vincent,
          Another thought.....

          As I recall, you said you never married your partner, with whom you had children.

          Your profile says you live in LA, which does not recognize common law marriage. I'm wondering if that impacts your parent status in the family court? If they do not recognize common law marriage (a marriage that is not sanctioned by a church or state), perhaps they do not recognize parenthood in that situation? Just a thought.

          http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Common-law_marriage_in_the_United_States
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        Oct 18 2013: Let me breath, Julie. This is a very small target at a great distance. I need to put my thoughts together from all different angles. I will start another conversation on the subject when able.

        Colleen, I don't believe any state that conditions any parent recognizes or understands what parenthood is about. Imagine I come to your home and take your kids away from you. I condition you in a way to get what I want, money (and this is from a state point of view "put my money where my mouth is" Imagine a judge telling you this as well). Plus, I will tell you what is best for your children as well and you have absolutely no say. When you tell others about what is happening to you sometimes you get "another rant", "It is what it is", "you can't change the world"...Fighting against the system? Would you not fight something that took the ability to teach and prepare your children for this world away from you? Cooperate? Well, honestly the more I cooperate with "the system" the worse things become on an insane level!! It's a repeat for the worse, AWAYS. No, I am not yelling. I'm pointing out the importance of the word. As I jump through one hoop another one is being set up. A year and a half of this crap. There is no way in hell the court would tell any mother the things they have told or wrote on paper to me. Imagine getting a picture of your child or children you rarely get a chance to see. You notice how much different they look from the last time you saw them. Ever had a strong mixture of joy and hate at the same time? You wanna be conditioned by "the system"? You wanna be happy with the time we are offering to you with them, do what we say! I'm not fighting "the system". I'm telling you the truth about the system and a major flaw within it. I'm chancing, again, you can relate and see where things need to be adjusted from your generation to my generation. You understand? I did not leave for that loaf of bread and never came back, don't take it out on me!
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          Oct 18 2013: Glad you are OK. I thought to get in touch before the closing. Thank You.
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          Oct 18 2013: Vincent,
          I am not taking anything out on you my friend. My way of finding solutions, is to explore all possible information, and that is why I simply provided information regarding the questions you asked me, to the best of my ability.

          It is as you insightfully say in your next comment..."when someone begins to learn how to fly they are completely scatterbrained with multitasking". You are dealing with lots of challenges, and as you say...prioritizing is important as you take in as much information as possible.
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        Oct 18 2013: I mean, I have more than one big problem that I am working to solve. When someone begins to learn how to fly they are completely scatterbrained with multitasking. It's having to learn what has top priority in solving one problem after the next constantly, small corrections here, there, all over the place. If you pay attention to one of them for too long trying to fix the others become just as big as the one holding full concentration. Relax, I'll be there shortly :)

        The system and it's lack or need for understanding takes it out on me and many other fathers, Colleen.
  • Oct 7 2013: I think taking good care of my kid and family members,never stop improving myself to teach my students as good as I can.
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    Oct 6 2013: to start by ourselves ,by fixing some selfishness and intolerance ,the past and the present for we can looking to the future...
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    Oct 6 2013: .

    Mine is "quit invalid (harmful) happiness".
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    Oct 18 2013: Thank you Everyone for Thums Up, really thank you!
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    Oct 12 2013: Moe... to bring about drastic change in society en masse, one requires power of a Mahavira, Gautama Buddha, Jesus Christ or prophet Mohammed. Any major upheaval only becomes possible when a spiritual counselor of the highest order pursues a goal that would bring about massive improvement to existing world situation.

    As detailed in sacred Bhagavad Gita of Hinduism... such accomplishments become possible when one pursues path of nishkama karma yoga that was directed towards benefit of masses all the time. Ever since six years of age... I pursued path of absolute truthfulness. My goal of life was reaching God. 25 years of yoga meditation... I finally realized God in 1993.

    Presently I am writing a commentary on Bhagavad Gita that reaches masses. Most commentaries on Bhagavad Gita available world over were one-sided, mainly scholar oriented. My commentary on Bhagavad Gita would be an eye-opener... meant for commoners, masses! Followed by commentaries on nine principal Upanishads... my goal of life would be complete the moment all commentaries complete as scheduled.

    The present world is material oriented, people desiring earthly riches more than anything else! This perception has to change. Unless people realized their folly that diamonds were only stones brightly polished... this mad rush for earthly gains would continue unabated. The results of my work would be far-fetched. By indulging in teachings of Lord Krishna contained in Bhagavad Gita... mankind would finally realize that it was only spirituality that mattered in the end. More on Bhagavad Gita - http://www.bhagavadgitasummary.com