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Johnny Atman

Psychotherapist & NLP Trainer,

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How can a human being overcome selfishness, the idea that one is separate from the rest of humanity?

In an action, we usually have a target (goal) a means to achieve that (a method) and resources. Should one of the components be out of line, or not supporting the other two, the action would be a failure as harmony would be broken. So every component supports the others, every component lives for the others. When this alignment is achieved, the Archer is satisfied, releases the arrow from the bow and the target is hit. How can we live for one another and align our hearts for the benefit of all humanity?


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  • Oct 26 2013: As a foundation, anything that benefits humanity would have to use the same mechanism of target, method and resources. This can be personalised to a person, like the archer, for he is firing the arrow for his own means which is where the concept of selfishness arises.
    When in a society the same mechanism is used although more dynamically. For example a target that a team of people would have to work together to achieve, which sums up the way everything in this world works when involving humans.
    Where the individual people on the team are the resources and the method includes things like teamwork and knowledge, where their goal may be to sell or promote something.

    Which brings me to this defining point, they are all there for their own reasons. Their own reason, some may even call it selfish. It's funny in fact, being driven by selfishness we actually passively become selfless, because in a society we've got to work together for out own and eachothers sake.
    By doing what we do as humans naturally we are benefiting humanity without even knowing it, I guess the main idea is to take on this alternate way of thought when thinking about selfishness and benefiting humanity.

    I was going to write something about living in an ideal world where everyone loved everyone and there was no conflict etc. but as I wrote the above I realised that the ideal world does not stay true to what humanity really is.

    I'm not sure if I've solved your answer at all or if I've gone way off track. Please, in a way, critique my response because it's my first time posting here and I'm just trying to gauge the levels of thought.
    Thanks in advance.
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      Oct 26 2013: I am not in a position to critique anything, this is a forum where people share and enlarge their views.
      I thank you for opening up and offering your insights. I have lived with people in a community in the past where we behaved like we were members of a family, helping one another, treating one another decently. I know it is possible, but prejudice, discrimination, selfishness are our downfall and soon we will be no more.

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