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Johnny Atman

Psychotherapist & NLP Trainer,

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How can a human being overcome selfishness, the idea that one is separate from the rest of humanity?

In an action, we usually have a target (goal) a means to achieve that (a method) and resources. Should one of the components be out of line, or not supporting the other two, the action would be a failure as harmony would be broken. So every component supports the others, every component lives for the others. When this alignment is achieved, the Archer is satisfied, releases the arrow from the bow and the target is hit. How can we live for one another and align our hearts for the benefit of all humanity?


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    Oct 17 2013: Perhaps the question isn't how to become more altruistic but how to become selfish without loosing the ability to sacrifice for our fellow man when necessary. The negative connotations of the word selfish in and of themselves give the word inappropriate context. Should we deny ourselves happiness because to do so would not be altruistic?

    In reality we are separate from the rest of humanity it is merely by accepting that we do on occasion need to allow ourselves to be selfish in a humanitarian way. For instance, I take great pleasure in seeing others happy so in order to facilitate my happiness I must first help to make others happy.
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      Oct 17 2013: Perhaps we need to investigate the nature of selfishness and learn from it?
      • Oct 21 2013: I've been taught that we humans are born with four basic loves.

        1) The love of self (we are god)
        2) The love of the world (possessions, nature)
        3) The love of the neighbour (wishing others happiness)
        4) The love of God (Source of love and life)

        These loves are in the same sequence or importance as we, initially, are growing up.

        All through life there should be events and learnings that will change the priority of those four basic loves.
        Regeneration is that life-long process of reversal. Sorry, but we can only reverse the process by way of temptations.

        Being 'born again' means nothing else than the reversal of importance of, and motivation by those four loves.

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