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If ALL your close family members passed away, what would you do?

I was going through one of the TED conversations on what is the most important thing to a person, and many many people said family.

If your parents,sons,siblings passed away..what can be done to truly move on..
Tough topic, but I really want to know different perspectives on how people would realistically react to a situation like this.

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  • Oct 2 2013: It is an unfortunate situation, but I think I would try and find ways to connect with other people and perhaps make a positive difference in their lives. It might be as a volunteer in an area you enjoy. It might be answering TED questions or otherwise engaging in positive dialog with other adults. It might be through a fraternal, religious, or professional organization. There are many ways to connect. Being disconnected can be a lonely place and lets your mind go in directions that are not healthy.

    I think I might also talk to a medical professional about my situation and consider some of the advice they provided as a means to improve my quality of life. A person also has the choice to continue seeking relationships and building a life with another person.

    Moving on might require a change of living arrangements, geography, or lifestyle. It might involve a discovery of your individuality, your passions, and your interests. Once these are better understood, then perhaps moving on involves becoming more active in one, many, or all of these things to see what brings you the most enjoyment now. Pursuit of these things should increase your overall level of happiness and enjoyment of life. The happier you make yourself, the more willing people will be to connect with you, to see if they too can find your secret. Thus, a disposition that might have been spiraling down through the life events associated with the passing of many family members can be slowed, stopped or even reversed by an individual taking control and acting to improve his or her quality of life.

    On a personal level? I think I would play a lot of golf, travel, write, and connect with whatever extended family I had as frequently as I could.
    • Oct 2 2013: excellent perspective. I really enjoyed reading what you had to say
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      Oct 2 2013: I must be at my limit of thumbs up for you for the week.
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    Oct 2 2013: Cry, keep them in my heart and continue my life firmly with more independence.
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    Oct 2 2013: It is not 'close family member' that makes the bond between us and him/her. Nobody invites us to accepts the close relation. This all happens in our subconsious mind. we take granted blood relations as close to our heart, our relatives. We are adherent. If we go 6 generation back, we'll find many others people (unknown to us) are actually our family. Infact, every living being is our family. But we becomes sad and we cry only for those, we have spent our live with. If someone is in our memory (good or bad), absence of that person make us sad...

    Life force energy is so powerful, one can not end it easily, no matter what situation one face in life (however, suicide happen). Orphan lives their life without relatives. They make new relations. Many poeple runs away from family, but whereever they goes they make new relations, Life goes on...

    Me too will be sad on the death of my relatives, but I'll live my life along with the empty space created by relatives... :)
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    Oct 15 2013: Victor... this is the Agony of life, preparing self in advance for an eventuality that may never take place (rather we would all the time pray to God to keep the whole family close and well)! Still, uncertainties in life can never be ruled out. No matter how good we are in life... every single human being on mother earth meets our share of sorrow and happiness. That was how God Almighty ordained life on mother earth to be.

    In such circumstances, when everything comes to naught... the sacred Bhagavad Gita of Hinduism prepares one for the cosmic journey ahead. As per Bhagavad Gita... the attachments of physical manifest world (Moha in Hinduism) were temporary. With time they would dissolve. The moment death occurred in cosmic system... we lost all relationships with the deceased!

    Prime reason why after death of human body... it is burnt on a pyre! Keeping physical memories of beloved ones never helps in the long run! Life must move on... no matter what! As we were primarily a soul atman, the spirit within... filial bodily attachments carried no meaning in spiritual world! As per Bhagavad Gita... every single soul atman was independent of other! Whatever the resources available after death of beloved ones... we have to move on!

    Based on teachings contained in Bhagavad Gita... I am all the time prepared for worst! For me personally... bodily attachments do not carry any meaning ever since I realized God in 1993 at 37 years of age. I have reached cosmic goal of life. Freed from cycle of birth and death forever... I have become a free and pure soul atman forever.

    I always advise my family... never to fear death of anyone no matter what! As we were only an instrument in hands of God Almighty... we were all the time supposed to do his bidding! More on Bhagavad Gita - http://www.bhagavadgitasummary.com
  • Oct 5 2013: I know what I'd do and am living it!
    I am 68 and the last person hanging from my family tree! Those kids that I went to school with have their names on a wall in D.C. The newer friends I have in USA, all have family members still alive or their interests are vastly different then mine, so the term friends is used loosely. The friends in other countries (whom I have yet to meet face to face) are friends that may still have family members still alive but are whom I call "close friends".
    Their values and interests are more inline with mine.
    When I first realized I was the last of the lot, It was no more then a strange feeling- no break downs etc. I promptly stopped celebrating holidays & of course birthdays including mine. I dived further into my art & started research projects on subjects near to my heart.
    I have tried volunteering a few times & learned quickly the political mess with that- so no more. I started taking a long look at folks in my area and learned they were self serving etc. and My trust in folks fell drastically.
    It's amazing what ya learn about folks when you no longer have any family members- folks drift away!
    You just have nothing in common any more!

    My critters come first and they deserve it!
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    Oct 2 2013: it's very hard to imagine all sorry it's not a good joke and i am very sorry for who lived this bad situation from my deepest sentiments and i wish will never happen again to anyone in this world.
  • Oct 2 2013: Something not that far from this actually happened to me. In a very short time frame much of what defined my life was taken. My father died, my marriage failed, I got fired (depression and work don't mix well) then my mother died very suddenly. I was left terribly adrift, unmoored in some vital ways. What I discovered was myself. I was left alone with no one but me to focus on. Like Robert mentioned I chose to completely change my career going into something more fulfilling. I started volunteering to connect and give my life more purpose. I went back to school to study what appealed to me and further my new career path. I began to cultivate friendships and interests I had not before. I took bigger risks with myself and my emotions. I loved more openly and honestly.

    It has been many years and I have a loving large family both of blood and of choice. But, I know that my ability to create all of this was because those I lost had taught me my value before they left. I live my life in part to honor them.

    Human kind: Be both.
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    Oct 2 2013: What i perceive my life to be currently, is cold, so i have no qualms if that occurred to me.
    i would probably be sad, but if it happens, after the funeral, I'd probably travel more and do what i want. Kinda a fresh start. Get friends and live life?

    Because its probably not their choice to all die. [I, hopefully, was not the reason for their death]
    • Oct 2 2013: I like your answer. But what allows you to move on for a fresh start after they pass away?
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        Oct 4 2013: It feels like you are looking to see perspectives of hope and how to get there
        My drives comes from the negativity in my life... i don't think you like that alot